Review of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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Review of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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I do not think there is a person who has never had questions about how to build a happy romantic relationship. Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life guides the reader through the unhealthy patterns that appear when trying to form a relationship and how their root cause lays deep in the unconscious. The author describes which particular events from the past eventually lead to erroneous beliefs about relationships, and how these beliefs make us see a distorted reality. Being an apparently helpless cause there are ways to conquer our unconscious in order to escape the recurring unhealthy patterns. Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. also provides the antidote actions which will eventually form the skills to build a healthy relationship or heal the present one.
From the start, the author gives the reader an explanatory introduction that acts like a map of the book. It represents a little summary for the more detailed text that is to come. Besides that, the text feels like an interaction with the therapist where the author has an active discussion with the reader. The language used in the book is simple and understandable for someone who is not specialized in psychology: the author gives a lot of examples to explain complicated phenomena in a practical way. The book supports the idea of changing yourself rather than blaming others.
As for negative aspects, the information tends to be repetitive throughout the book, and some of it is not useful. It demonstrates, in theory, some psychological phenomena, but it lacks clear and practical ways to manage them: the book tells you what you should do, but not how to do it. In the end, you gain a little knowledge about some things but do not really know what to do with them. I would not call it a self-help book because it does not provide the reader with clear steps to improve their relationship.
I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. I found very few errors, and I consider this book a simple introduction for people to relationship psychology and predetermined beliefs. It does not change lives, but it provides some new points of view on why we behave the way we do and, most importantly, the fact that we can change ourselves as soon as we become conscious of the negative patterns that we carry in our relationships.
I would recommend this book to the reader that is looking to improve their relationship and maybe discover new ways to do that.
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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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I do not think there is a person who has never had questions about how to build a happy romantic relationship. Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life guides the reader through the unhealthy patterns that appear when trying to form a relationship and how their root cause lays deep in the unconscious. The author describes which particular events from the past eventually lead to erroneous beliefs about relationships, and how these beliefs make us see a distorted reality. Being an apparently helpless cause there are ways to conquer our unconscious in order to escape the recurring unhealthy patterns. Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. also provides the antidote actions which will eventually form the skills to build a healthy relationship or heal the present one.
From the start, the author gives the reader an explanatory introduction that acts like a map of the book. It represents a little summary for the more detailed text that is to come. Besides that, the text feels like an interaction with the therapist where the author has an active discussion with the reader. The language used in the book is simple and understandable for someone who is not specialized in psychology: the author gives a lot of examples to explain complicated phenomena in a practical way. The book supports the idea of changing yourself rather than blaming others.
As for negative aspects, the information tends to be repetitive throughout the book, and some of it is not useful. It demonstrates, in theory, some psychological phenomena, but it lacks clear and practical ways to manage them: the book tells you what you should do, but not how to do it. In the end, you gain a little knowledge about some things but do not really know what to do with them. I would not call it a self-help book because it does not provide the reader with clear steps to improve their relationship.
I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. I found very few errors, and I consider this book a simple introduction for people to relationship psychology and predetermined beliefs. It does not change lives, but it provides some new points of view on why we behave the way we do and, most importantly, the fact that we can change ourselves as soon as we become conscious of the negative patterns that we carry in our relationships.
I would recommend this book to the reader that is looking to improve their relationship and maybe discover new ways to do that.
******
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon
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