Is it true women try to please their men?

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Is it true women try to please their men?

Post by Jeconiaomolo » 11 Jul 2017, 23:56

In the story both Lara and Nadia have issues with their men. Nadia thinks that Lara's case is just like many unhappy stories she has been coming across every day of women trying to please their men. She is even worried why men and women relationship could not be based on satisfaction and control. Do you agree with Nadia that in relationships it is women trying to please their men or the opposite?
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Post by gali » 12 Jul 2017, 01:18

Jeconiaomolo wrote:In the story both Lara and Nadia have issues with their men. Nadia thinks that Lara's case is just like many unhappy stories she has been coming across every day of women trying to please their men. She is even worried why men and women relationship could not be based on satisfaction and control. Do you agree with Nadia that in relationships it is women trying to please their men or the opposite?
I disagree with her. I think both sides should try to please each other, but they should do it out of love and not out of duty.
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Post by DarleneCabrera » 12 Jul 2017, 02:16

Yes. I do agree. Women should always serve their man. And vice versa
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Post by Margaret Daniel » 12 Jul 2017, 02:50

Oh yes! Women truly love to please their men. Although it shouldn't be a one sided thing(in several cases both party tries to please each other) but women do not just try to please their men - We Love to. So they end up being one interesting "Super woman" just so he(the man) is pleased, satisfied and proud of them (the woman).

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Post by Talha Mahmood » 12 Jul 2017, 03:27

In reply to this question, the answer will always be YES. Evert woman try her best to win the heart of her man and its a fact.

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In reply to this question, the answer will always be YES. Every woman tries her best to win the heart of her man and its a fact.
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Post by margy wangari » 12 Jul 2017, 03:57

In reply to this question...women try their level best to try to please their men. Each and every woman has got her own reasons as to why to please her man.

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Post by Jeconiaomolo » 12 Jul 2017, 06:53

I really like your responses. I thank all of you,your ideas are very interesting and important.
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Post by Emmaky » 12 Jul 2017, 15:25

I think women have that nurturing spirit and in turn try to nurture their relationships and this comes off as trying to please their men.
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Post by Jeconiaomolo » 12 Jul 2017, 22:37

Emmaky wrote:I think women have that nurturing spirit and in turn try to nurture their relationships and this comes off as trying to please their men.
I agree with you but I don't think all women actually do that. Although a good number usually do have nurturing spirit but there are also some isolated cases. Thanks
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Post by hsimone » 13 Jul 2017, 05:23

gali wrote:
Jeconiaomolo wrote:In the story both Lara and Nadia have issues with their men. Nadia thinks that Lara's case is just like many unhappy stories she has been coming across every day of women trying to please their men. She is even worried why men and women relationship could not be based on satisfaction and control. Do you agree with Nadia that in relationships it is women trying to please their men or the opposite?
I disagree with her. I think both sides should try to please each other, but they should do it out of love and not out of duty.
I agree with gali on this one, as well. Both sides should try to please each other, but out of love and not duty. Marriage is not a duty, but is done out of love that is shared between two people.
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Post by Jeconiaomolo » 13 Jul 2017, 07:54

hsimone wrote:
gali wrote:
Jeconiaomolo wrote:In the story both Lara and Nadia have issues with their men. Nadia thinks that Lara's case is just like many unhappy stories she has been coming across every day of women trying to please their men. She is even worried why men and women relationship could not be based on satisfaction and control. Do you agree with Nadia that in relationships it is women trying to please their men or the opposite?
I disagree with her. I think both sides should try to please each other, but they should do it out of love and not out of duty.
I agree with gali on this one, as well. Both sides should try to please each other, but out of love and not duty. Marriage is not a duty, but is done out of love that is shared between two people.
Oh yes, I concur with you.
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Post by Athena Moon » 13 Jul 2017, 08:37

Absolutely. I want to give everything to the man I love. Provide comfort, sex, love, motivation, inspire him. Of course those aren't freebies, if I get what I need from him, I would easily give up my independence and sacrifice myself, and I want to do it naturally. From my point of you, as a poly, if I am not enough for him, I would be happy if someone else could satisfy his needs. Honestly I don't understand why women would confine their men if they are not pleasing them enough.

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Post by Cheeky » 13 Jul 2017, 08:48

I do believe that the woman is the one who caters and tries to make the man happy.
Most definitely.But speaking as a woman- I think it's time for a role reversal.

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Post by Peta2017 » 13 Jul 2017, 09:07

Yes, I would say so. Society consciously and unconsciously sends this message of 'women pleasing their men' as the 'right' thing to do. We see it all the time in the books we read or on the television through advertisements, movies etc.

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There is nothing wrong with trying to please your partner. It is just that it should be an equal effort and not a one sided affair.

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Post by Gravy » 14 Jul 2017, 01:29

I find this question to have some unpleasant connotations.

Every partner should try to please their significant other, regardless of gender. However, I don't think either side should just expect to be catered to, which is what comes to mind with this phrasing (like I said, connotations).

I believe a lot of women still have the unfortunate mindset that it's expected of them, but that some honestly enjoy it. I also believe that it should never be taken for granted, on either side.
"If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

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