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Review of Smart Love
[Following is a volunteer review of "Smart Love" by Vincent Fudge II.]
Smart Love by Vincent Fudge II is a book documenting the author's journey with his partner to fix their marriage. The book presents the author's personal exercises and activities that worked for them and includes advice that could work for others.
The book opens with the incident that marked the troubles in the author's marriage. It is interesting to note how the most minor things, which most of us will find very relatable, are often the root of significant issues. Vincent questions how people tell what worked for them but not how they did it. He starts the book by declaring what issues were and what they were trying to save. Then he details the approach to enable "SMART love," followed by a monthly chapter of what went on and what it looked like. The book details trust issues, anger, physical and mental conflicts, and resolutions. How lack of communication and rage causes, many issues is also there.
The author profoundly puts his faith in God, seeks peace, and trusts his design. It is similar to trusting the flow while working on it if divine intervention is not the term you are looking for. There are few quotes, multiple very personal entries, and realizations. Explaining methods, adding advice, and accounts of interaction with various people also add a nice touch. The whole idea of the author is to show how they did it, but for revisits, the book can be summarised to the methods and format of the approach, making it a good reference.
I like how the author is aware of the content and asks for the reader's understanding at the beginning. What worked for someone might not work for you because no two people are exactly alike. Now even though the author states in the prologue not to place judgment on who was right or wrong in different situations, it is reasonably challenging starting from the very first incident. A little patience is definitely needed while reading this. I personally found that going through several pages was hard.
The book's subtitle says "The MANual," which I found confusing and disappointing. I understand the manual part of it but highlighting the "man" is downright weird. The author serves as the primary agent by instinct and the incidents in his book. It is basically his book of self-rediscovery, as confirmed by the epilogue. But highlighting the gender part nullifies the value of equal participation for a thriving love.
I rate this book 3 out of 4 stars. I did not find any errors, and I appreciate the idea of putting in the work, so it was definitely worth a read. I recommend it to people struggling with relationships, especially the longer ones. Anyone interested in various dynamics a marriage or a relationship can hold; might also enjoy the work. I would suggest, however, an open mind and an understanding that no two relationships on this planet are the same.
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Smart Love
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Smart Love by Vincent Fudge II is a book documenting the author's journey with his partner to fix their marriage. The book presents the author's personal exercises and activities that worked for them and includes advice that could work for others.
The book opens with the incident that marked the troubles in the author's marriage. It is interesting to note how the most minor things, which most of us will find very relatable, are often the root of significant issues. Vincent questions how people tell what worked for them but not how they did it. He starts the book by declaring what issues were and what they were trying to save. Then he details the approach to enable "SMART love," followed by a monthly chapter of what went on and what it looked like. The book details trust issues, anger, physical and mental conflicts, and resolutions. How lack of communication and rage causes, many issues is also there.
The author profoundly puts his faith in God, seeks peace, and trusts his design. It is similar to trusting the flow while working on it if divine intervention is not the term you are looking for. There are few quotes, multiple very personal entries, and realizations. Explaining methods, adding advice, and accounts of interaction with various people also add a nice touch. The whole idea of the author is to show how they did it, but for revisits, the book can be summarised to the methods and format of the approach, making it a good reference.
I like how the author is aware of the content and asks for the reader's understanding at the beginning. What worked for someone might not work for you because no two people are exactly alike. Now even though the author states in the prologue not to place judgment on who was right or wrong in different situations, it is reasonably challenging starting from the very first incident. A little patience is definitely needed while reading this. I personally found that going through several pages was hard.
The book's subtitle says "The MANual," which I found confusing and disappointing. I understand the manual part of it but highlighting the "man" is downright weird. The author serves as the primary agent by instinct and the incidents in his book. It is basically his book of self-rediscovery, as confirmed by the epilogue. But highlighting the gender part nullifies the value of equal participation for a thriving love.
I rate this book 3 out of 4 stars. I did not find any errors, and I appreciate the idea of putting in the work, so it was definitely worth a read. I recommend it to people struggling with relationships, especially the longer ones. Anyone interested in various dynamics a marriage or a relationship can hold; might also enjoy the work. I would suggest, however, an open mind and an understanding that no two relationships on this planet are the same.
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Smart Love
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon
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