Review by Chumbaa20 -- Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Y...

Chumbaa20 · Post by **Chumbaa20** » 29 Sep 2020, 04:40

[Following is a volunteer review of "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life" by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D..]

4 out of 4 stars

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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is illustrated by Dr. Thomas Jordan. Introducing this book he asks the question, what is love life? then goes ahead to give its definition as ''any and all interpersonal relationships involving the emotion of love, past and present". Dr. Thomas is a clinical psychologist and treats love life problems. The advice he gives in his book has been researched and cited. His 30 years in research which I consider illustrious makes him suitable to guide people on love relationships. Dr. Thomas Jordan has dealt with love problems in the past. Hearing from the horse's mouth how he overcame them is compelling.

Love relationship is learned. Dr.Leo Buscaglia ( a professor of education at the University of California at Berkeley) in his research note that most times we are interested in learning it but don't replicate what is taught. To have a healthy relationship you have to be in control of your love life. Having an inflated sense of self-worth negatively affects love relationship as one feels insignificant. The relationship often fails because we want to change the people we relate in love with, this seems to be a wild goose chase leading to resentment and rejection. The best approach to healing disappointing love life as stated by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D., is to learn, unlearn and re-learn. Jordan wraps it deeper by mentioning that abandonment, abuse, control, dependency, dishonesty, exploration, mistrust, neglect, rejection and self-centredness hinder the success of a relationship if these issues are not dealt with they recur and affects the love life. Jordan guides his audience by telling them to unlearn these bad habits by disrupting the psychological hold so as to allow room for re-learning good habits by being more attached, respectful, free to express oneself, honest, considerate, trusting, devoted and independent. Thomas further said that the love life is yours, the decision to change and grow in a healthy relationship is yours to make.

This book unfolds nicely with the use of repetition and questions. Repetition allows a writer to place emphasis on things that are significant and central enough to be repeated. Questions help readers to better understand the story they are reading.

I may be overreaching but the deeper I got into Learn-to-Love -Guide-to-Healing-Your-Disappointing-Love-Life, the more the book made me think of those who have ended their lives because of love related problems. I recommend this book to anyone in a love relationship and those planning to be in one.

It bears noting that better research would have strengthened Thomas's book as a portrait of healing disappointing love life, still, it is effective and it blinks big time. It offers me the motivation to rate it 4 out of 4.

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