What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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Re: What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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I definitely agree. It's best to remove yourself from those situations, and it's also important to talk about it. I find that it helps to always have a goal in mind. It could be something as simple as bathing the dog or something as large as going back to school. It just helps to always have something to look forward to. Idle time is the devil's work.Faiza Nasir wrote: ↑05 May 2018, 04:53 First of all you just have to relax your mind , free your mind from all extra thoughts that are annoying you . Then go outside from your home like park, sea side or any other good or relaxing place where you can relax your mind and can free your mind from these types of thoughts, then take a deep breath and walk slowly in fresh air . Feel the environment , spread your hand in fresh air , take deep breath slowly and just start thinking about your blessings that GOD blessed you with.
Another way to realax your mind is YOGA .
You can also relax yourself from trauma to play with innocent childrens , they will help you to reduce your mind stress .
And you can overcome with abuse just by ignoring them.
"Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together."
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I'm not sure if anyone ever really overcomes their abuse. I guess it depends on your definition of overcoming but I feel like most people are shaped from their abuse and it just becomes a part of why they are who they are. But I very much agree in what you said about finding strength in healthy outlets.SABRADLEY wrote: ↑04 Apr 2018, 09:17 That's a tricky one. A lot of people never overcome the effects of abuse. I venture to say even most will fall into that category. Having a support system of trusted individuals, finding strength in survivor's stories, perhaps church, trying to find healthy outlets like excerise and counseling, may offer assistance.
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Anyone dealing with any type of abuse or trauma must first be willing to seek help. Just like there is no one-cure method for overcoming abuse or trauma, there is no cookie-cutter therapy that works for everyone. Once a person gets to the point of seeking help, they must find the best therapy method that will work for them. Sometimes we must reach our lowest point imaginable before we can start to heal. Often, victims of abuse or trauma blame themselves for what happened. There are also times when instead of protecting a child from an abusive situation, the parent, most often the mother, ignore, deny and blame the child for the situation.cristinaro wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 02:31I have recently talked to somebody who went to therapy and she felt worse. However, I still believe that talking to a good therapist may help a person face his/her demons and gradually learn to live with them or overcome them altogether. In Natalie's case, I am afraid such an option was out of question considering her situation and the times.DesireeRose wrote: ↑03 Apr 2018, 17:44 I think the best way to overcome abuse is to go to therapy and get out of the clutches of the trauma. Both things are really difficult to do, and Natalie did a pretty good job overcoming it by moving against her stepfather.
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Yes, those were my thoughts as well Sounds like we're on the same pageOceanside wrote: ↑14 May 2018, 13:05I'm not sure if anyone ever really overcomes their abuse. I guess it depends on your definition of overcoming but I feel like most people are shaped from their abuse and it just becomes a part of why they are who they are. But I very much agree in what you said about finding strength in healthy outlets.SABRADLEY wrote: ↑04 Apr 2018, 09:17 That's a tricky one. A lot of people never overcome the effects of abuse. I venture to say even most will fall into that category. Having a support system of trusted individuals, finding strength in survivor's stories, perhaps church, trying to find healthy outlets like excerise and counseling, may offer assistance.
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The best way is to acknowledge that you were the victim and what happened was wrong. You have people who love you and care for you. You are not alone. And you will get out of this. ❤
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Trauma and abuse subject its victim to anger, sadness, psychological agony, ridicule, inferiority complex, unhappiness,lack of trust in self and in people and eventually lead to suicide.
Once it is well handled; it bring to you:
a. Ambience
b. Beauty
c. Courage
d. dedication and devotion
e. Empathy and exemplary life
f. Faithfulness and faith in self and God
g. Goodness and guilt removes
h. Humility and humbleness
I. Imbibe good things
J. Justification and justice
K. Knowledge and kindness
L. Love and living a good life
M. Meekness, mildness
N. N
O. Obedience to constituted authority and godly advice
P. Piety, prosperity and provision(s)
Q. quality life that can be emulated.
R. Risen life worthy of emualtion
S. Surrendered life.
T. Take one day at a time
U. Utilise your time well and accurately
V. value yourself
W. Winsome and well structured
X. x-ray your step and life every time.
Y. Yield your self to thing that are good and worthy of emulating
Z. Zealous of good works and Zeitgeist.
If this are followed, it will help to structured the trauma and abuse.
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I think significant abuse and trauma can be difficult for writers to write about in an honest way. It all serves as a great motivation for characters, convincing backstory, but writing and thinking about it in a realistic way is tough for anyone.