What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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Re: What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?
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Wow. This is a very comprehensive response. I totally agree with all your points. Thanks for the link provided. Abuse is real and very tragic occurrence, and it is good information like on this thread is available to those who need it.BDTheresa wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 03:36 Natalie fighting back mistreatment and finding a refuge in art is one way to overcome abuse and trauma. The alcoholic father is not the only one responsible in the family equation. The mother is equally responsible. Instead of letting her eldest child raise up to the challenge of protecting her and her siblings, the mother should have done that instead. It's her responsibility as a mother to protect her children. The best way to respond to abuse and other traumatic experience is to seek professional help or check out https://www.helpguide.org. I don't think it's difficult for a writer to describe abusive situations if the writer follows the right method which are : (1) experience. If the writer doesn't have experience then the writer should seek out experience from those who overcame their abuse and trauma. No knowledge is small. (2) Seek out understanding from the professional. Those who study these kinds of things (Psychologist).
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I really enjoy Toni Morrison's writing too, but the intensity means it takes a while to read one--still think "The Bluest Eye" is the best since she kept it simple.
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I think the alcoholic father is the main responsible one in the family. The best way to respond is to leave the situation.
To deal with something so bad you need a support group. Taking up a hobby like art or sewing and keeping yourself active in sports is the only way to deal with stress. But you probably can never force someone to change. If you stay away long enough they will learn the consequences of their behavior. It's the only way they will change I think.
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Thumbs up to the post above. Natalie's way of diverting what happened through art is a very meaningful thing which actually is used as a coping mechanism for those who were abuse.BDTheresa wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 03:36 Natalie fighting back mistreatment and finding a refuge in art is one way to overcome abuse and trauma. The alcoholic father is not the only one responsible in the family equation. The mother is equally responsible. Instead of letting her eldest child raise up to the challenge of protecting her and her siblings, the mother should have done that instead. It's her responsibility as a mother to protect her children. The best way to respond to abuse and other traumatic experience is to seek professional help or check out https://www.helpguide.org. I don't think it's difficult for a writer to describe abusive situations if the writer follows the right method which are : (1) experience. If the writer doesn't have experience then the writer should seek out experience from those who overcame their abuse and trauma. No knowledge is small. (2) Seek out understanding from the professional. Those who study these kinds of things (Psychologist).
I, too, believe about the power of experience. A good graps of all things really come from experience. And for a writer indeed to be able to fully express a book like this, they should consider interviewing people who have been abused if they have no first hand basis.
I think the best way to overcome abuse and trauma is to accept first that you have been under the two, or you have experienced it. Because in acceptance actually comes healing you can't just go on trying to forget what happened. You have to be accepting of what happened. And afterwards, you forgive the people who did it to you and yourself.
Seeking counsel would actually be a big help.
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