I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. And I agree, suicide is never the answer.AnkoleReads wrote:One of my best friends committed suicide two years ago. He was not even 25.
To answer your question simply: no. Suicide is NEVER the answer. The reason my friend was driven to that point was because he refused to get help. He didn't trust doctors, hospitals, medication, etc. He talked about killing himself constantly, we were all so worried about him. but we all thought he would be ok. He always made it through alright. Until the one day he didn't.
I can tell you from experience that suicide only creates more pain. Everyone who loved him is hurting, and that hurt will never go away. He thought he had nothing left to live for. He thought it would never get better, he thought everyone would be better off without him. But that simply wasn't true. We are all struggling to fill the hole in our hearts that he left behind.
Honestly, I can't blame him for what he did. He lived in a chaotic and abusive household, in abject poverty. He had suffered multiple traumas, and years of drug abuse only exacerbated this. I just wish he would have gotten help. I wish he cared enough about himself to take care of his mental health. I wish he wasn't so paranoid and distrustful of doctors. I wish he could have loved himself the way I loved him, the way we all loved him.
I don't know if anyone will see this, if anyone even cares about what some rando on the internet thinks. But if suicide has crossed your mind at all, TELL SOMEONE. Someone you trust, someone who can help you get the treatment you need. You are worth the life you have been given. You are loved. You have value. Even if you don't see it.
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I am saddened to learn about this. Such a painful way of solving problems. I have to batchmates who did this. Up to the present, I still can't give the best answer why they did it. considering that they have loving families and they have promising careers.pontiac21 wrote:I've always considered it a permanent solution to a temporary problem but with that being said i've had two friends do it. Both were in situations they could not exactly get out of at that present time and back then i was angry and bitter. I now look back on it as it's been 8 years ago since one friend of mine did it and four for the other. they both knew it would be awhile before they could change their situations and they both were to broken to handle it.
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I believe that it is not an answer to your problems. If you do feel suicidal, there is a crisis hotline that you can call. There are also medicine to take to help you feel better. There is always another day. Maybe things will be better the next day.
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I couldn't agree more. I struggle with mental illnesses and can absolutely say that I have been in some very dark times myself and would not have described myself as selfish in any regard. In that moment I felt as though I had been too selfless and that paved the way for the road I was on. Thankfully, I have a wonderful support system that were just as selfless and pieced me back together. In saying all that I do not think that suicide is the answer, and I think that having loved ones intervene is vital when people are feeling this way. There are definitely different types and I agree with your opinion on each! Heavy topic, but love seeing that it is being discussed.CatInTheHat wrote:I don't think that people with mental illnesses that are untreated and so bad that they feel they have to kill themselves out of their desperation are being selfish. I do think that people, like Max's dad, who kill themselves so they don't have to face their wrongdoings are selfish. Two completely different types of situations, in my opinion.Christina Rose wrote:Morally, I think suicide is wrong and selfish. There are times, though, when I do not think the individual is in the right frame of mind to consider morality. In those cases, loved ones need to intervene in as open minded a way as they can.
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I couldn't agree more. I struggle with mental illnesses and can absolutely say that I have been in some very dark times myself and would not have described myself as selfish in any regard. In that moment I felt as though I had been too selfless and that paved the way for the road I was on. Thankfully, I have a wonderful support system that were just as selfless and pieced me back together. In saying all that I do not think that suicide is the answer, and I think that having loved ones intervene is vital when people are feeling this way. There are definitely different types and I agree with your opinion on each! Heavy topic, but love seeing that it is being discussed.CatInTheHat wrote:I don't think that people with mental illnesses that are untreated and so bad that they feel they have to kill themselves out of their desperation are being selfish. I do think that people, like Max's dad, who kill themselves so they don't have to face their wrongdoings are selfish. Two completely different types of situations, in my opinion.Christina Rose wrote:Morally, I think suicide is wrong and selfish. There are times, though, when I do not think the individual is in the right frame of mind to consider morality. In those cases, loved ones need to intervene in as open minded a way as they can.
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