Official Review: 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick

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Official Review: 12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick

Post by Tanaya » 30 May 2017, 13:29

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "12 Ways To Discover What Makes You Tick" by Roni Kugler.]
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3 out of 4 stars
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12 Ways to Discover What Makes You Tick is a self-help book by Roni L. Kugler.

The author was raised in the 1950’s by a father with a militaristic parenting style and a mother who felt powerless. Through examples from her own life, Kugler helps us to learn both from her mistakes and her successes in life. She challenges readers to pay attention to their bodies, thoughts, and feelings: a lesson she learned after ignoring the nervousness she felt when getting married young. She cautions us to observe how we make decisions, to listen to our inner voice, to do what’s in our best interest, and to become more comfortable with who we are. She shares her struggles with depression, sleep problems, sexual abuse, divorce, stress, and troubled relationships. Her focus is less on these issues and more so on her reaction to them, as she shares practical advice that helped her to overcome them. Kugler explains how she took control of her life and how we can do the same, with steps to get there. The book includes good principles for having a healthy relationship with oneself and with others.

Going along with the title, the book includes twelve main chapters, such as “Listen to Your Inner Voice,” “Don’t Make Decisions Based on Fear,” and “Look for Your Blessings.” The chapters are brief, typically ranging from 6-10 pages long. Most of the chapters begin with the author speaking of a personal experience. Then she poses questions to the reader, such as: “Has there been a time in your life, or many times, when you didn’t stand up for yourself? Are you facing this now?” This is a means to transition into a series of exercises for self-reflection. For the most part, these exercises instruct the reader to create lists. Sometimes these lists can be done right then and there. One of the long-term exercises is a practical guide to self-forgiveness in which you write why you think you can’t forgive yourself, pick one reason per day, and decide how you can overcome it.

One of the things I liked most about the book is the author’s attitude, which can best be highlighted with this quote: “It was not my fault that I was molested as a child. It was, however, my responsibility and need as an adult to do everything I could to face and conquer this demon.” She’s very open, with a concise writing style. One can tell that she has spent a lot of time working on herself. Her questions and exercises are very direct. She instructs the reader to create a list of people he or she admires and then asks: “Did you list yourself? If not, why not? Why don’t you feel as if your opinions and thoughts are as important as someone else’s?” She makes great observations and suggestions. One gem includes why adults don’t play in the sandbox with their kids. Parents can have fun, too. Another great suggestion is to record and play back your voice to get used to hearing it.

The book isn’t totally original. There is some generic self-help advice, like chasing after your dreams and appreciating the small things. It’s not that this isn’t good advice, but she didn’t add anything new to these common notions. I was also slightly confused by her views about not doing something out of fear. Earlier in the book, she teaches that we should listen to our bodies, such as if we’re nervous. If we’re nervous, then that should be a factor in our decisions. It could be a signal not to do something. Later, she seems to change gears by condemning making decisions based on fear. I would suggest drawing a connection and making a distinction between the lessons found in chapter 1 and chapter 4 to clear up this confusion.

I rate this book 3 out of 4 stars. It is filled with a lifetime’s worth of wisdom. I took off a star because it’s not totally original. Some chapters were too short and generic. They would have benefitted from her elaborating appropriately on her personal life. I also experienced a major point of confusion between two chapters. Besides that, just from reading the book, you can tell Kugler is a strong woman who has been through her share of troubles in life and has emerged victorious. She shares her life for the sake of helping others, and the book is a noble endeavor. I would recommend this book to anyone who may be struggling and wants to take action. This is the kind of book where you’ll get as much out of it as you are willing to put into it.

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Post by kandscreeley » 31 May 2017, 12:09

It doesn't sound like entirely new advice, but sometimes it's good to hear it over again. Sounds like a pretty good book other than the confusion with the fear issue. Thanks for the review.
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Post by Tanaya » 31 May 2017, 14:25

@kandscreeley That's a good point. Sometimes we do need to hear things again before it finally sinks in or we finally decide to listen to it. Thanks for your comment!

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Post by MarisaRose » 31 May 2017, 16:14

I'm not really a fan of these types of books, especially if there's nothing really new or incentive included. I really like your comment at the end about getting as much out as you are willing to put in - hopefully this one will resonate with a lot of people!
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Post by Tanaya » 31 May 2017, 16:32

@MarisaRose Thanks for your comment! Yeah, I hope the book helps as many people as possible. That's the ultimate goal.

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Post by Amagine » 31 May 2017, 17:15

The premise of the book sounds interesting. I agree that I hate when self-help books have the same generic advice that you can find anywhere. Too bad the advice couldn't have been more original.

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Post by jemgirl202 » 31 May 2017, 17:29

This sounds like a great selection and interested in reading it. It may not seem original but sometimes it is good to have a reminder of that wisdom.

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Post by Tanaya » 31 May 2017, 19:45

@Amagine Thanks!

@jemgirl202 For sure. Sounds like you would enjoy it if you do give it a read.

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Post by Spirit Wandering » 31 May 2017, 20:11

I appreciate that the author is willing to share her own painful experiences and connect them to her advice. To me that would be more genuine than a lot of self help books. Often, these authors take the approach of having reached some lofty heights and therefore talk down to the reader about how they should change their life. Thanks for the review.
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Post by Tanaya » 31 May 2017, 20:25

Thanks for the comment! You can definitely tell that she has the heart to help.

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Post by Chrys Brobbey » 01 Jun 2017, 22:36

This is a real life story about overcoming odds in life and becoming successful. I consider it will be worth reading. Thanks for a good review.

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Post by Tim 28 » 03 Jun 2017, 06:25

Thanks for that brilliant review. It really like reading self-help book. I think this one is worth time-spending.

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Post by Jaime Lync » 03 Jun 2017, 07:49

Thanks for the very insightful review. This book reminds me of the book of proverbs.

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Post by Tanaya » 08 Jun 2017, 19:07

Thanks for the comments. It certainly is filled with wisdom that I'm sure will help many!

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Post by Antares » 09 Jun 2017, 17:44

Great review. Thanks for sharing!
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