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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Post by Galesphere » 12 Mar 2019, 09:27

I guess this is a generalization, but most people who don't read tend to have a boring personality to me. They don't have to be a lover of classical literature like me, but they have to be reading SOMETHING on a daily basis, whether it be a newspaper, medical journals, or heck, even manga. Because whatever you read, there are always ideas, lessons, cultures, trends, and philosophies to discover and share.

My husband doesn't read the books I do, but he does read other things, and we're able to discuss things, even though our preferences are totally different. So, I guess what I'm saying is, no. I could not have married my husband if he didn't read SOMETHING on a daily basis.

And honestly, before I was married, I rarely dated anyone who didn't share a love of reading in some way. Readers are a different breed altogether, aren't we? We're thinkers!

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Post by Kaylee123 » 12 Mar 2019, 12:59

I think I could. I know a lot of people who don't like to read; they just have other hobbies and interests. Some people don't have the attention span to sit and read.

That being said, I'm very glad my husband likes to read. We've had times where we both just sat together on the couch and read books. It was so relaxing. Also, I have two kids and I feel it's good for them to see us reading. I'm hoping when they're older they'll love to read!

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Post by Sinclairess » 12 Mar 2019, 21:52

I agree, that is why I wouldn't shy away from someone who does not get the stimulation from the same place I get it from. I love mind games and video games as well. But other than that I'm stumped. What other ways are there?

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Post by MandyP » 13 Mar 2019, 04:54

Of course I could, I actually am. We have to respect that everybody is different and everybody has different interests.
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Post by EmilyWashburn » 13 Mar 2019, 10:27

My boyfriend doesn't read often, but he gets very passionate about the books he does read. He's also really good about showing interest in whatever I'm reading by asking questions and letting me rant about characters and such. It's not the same amount of reading I need so much as the support :)

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Post by langenbrat » 15 Mar 2019, 08:35

I married someone who didn't really read. He's never been in a library before. Now we go weekly and he finishes a book a week. It's actually the place we go more often than anywhere else (aside from work and the grocery store). He's an intelligent man, but he wasn't raised in an atmosphere conducive to reading and education.

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Post by Fifi_eve12 » 16 Mar 2019, 04:45

No, never! Reading is what teaches you everything. Someone who doesn't read is forever trapped in the dreariness of reality. :techie-studyinggray: :snooty: :techie-reference:

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Post by Han26+ » 16 Mar 2019, 12:18

I would date someone who didn’t read as long as they absorbed stories in some way - whether it be radio plays, TV series/shows, films, even art. Stories = empathy. If they were a cold logical person who only cared about stuff like maths and sports I’d get bored pretty fast.

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Post by sri varshini303041 » 16 Mar 2019, 21:39

That's a really apt question. Yes, I could and I am. While I am a bibliophile, I am open-minded enough to understand that it is not for everyone. Some have cooking. some have racing. some have music. I have books. But, true, It sucks that you can't discuss the books you are crazy about. I am ready to hear him rant about bikes. :? same way, he is willing to hear me out when I go into my book-frenzy-phase. Especially, I love it when he listens attentively and asks cross-question. Also, he leaves me alone when I really really want to finish a book before midnight. :techie-studyinggray: he knows not to disturb me. Makes me feel proud. Nobody is perfect. Yes, I would love for him to read. but, I have come to terms with it. :D

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Post by sri varshini303041 » 16 Mar 2019, 21:43

MandyP wrote:
13 Mar 2019, 04:54
Of course I could, I actually am. We have to respect that everybody is different and everybody has different interests.
That is so true. We should be able to respect the difference in taste If we want a healthy relationship. We shouldn't force our hobby on them. It will never work that way. don't you think?

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Post by Fazzier » 17 Mar 2019, 00:38

Yes. People's interests differ, and others are totally not into reading though they may just be good in other areas. I don't necessarily have to date someone whose hobbies and mine are the same.

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Post by BuzzingQuill » 17 Mar 2019, 09:30

Yeah, I would, but with a few caveats: they shouldn't have some sort of prejudice against those who do and should be willing to see how important books are to me. My current boyfriend isn't much of a reader per se, but he does enjoy audiobooks and will often get the audio version of a book that I love so that we can have a nice little chat about it.

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Post by louise_kayla » 19 Mar 2019, 13:05

I have dated someone who didn't read, and as someone who does read all the time, it caused problems when I had a book I loved that I wanted to read on a date, or curl up in bed or on my porch instead of seeing a movie or going out. It got frustrating when I bought him a new book from his favorite series as a kid and he didn't care about it, just kinds shrugged and gave it back saying he wouldn't read it anyways.

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Post by Kibetious » 20 Mar 2019, 02:35

Kaylee123 wrote:
12 Mar 2019, 12:59
I think I could. I know a lot of people who don't like to read; they just have other hobbies and interests. Some people don't have the attention span to sit and read.

That being said, I'm very glad my husband likes to read. We've had times where we both just sat together on the couch and read books. It was so relaxing. Also, I have two kids and I feel it's good for them to see us reading. I'm hoping when they're older they'll love to read!
I also can think of some instances where I have had to leave reading for a while, especially when you find that you need some time off to do something else. Hobbies are many and so people may not necessarily like what you like but then when you begin engaging in a conversation you learn a lot from each other.
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Post by bizybone » 20 Mar 2019, 14:07

Me don't have issues with it as far as the chemistry is between us am good to go and every different with their hobby or whatever interest them

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