Is it Jeremy's fault he is so obese?
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Is it Jeremy's fault he is so obese?
Do you think it’s Jeremy’s fault he is so dangerously obese? If not his fault, then whose fault is it?
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It doesn't surprise me that he couldn't even accept the help offered. By the time it was finally available to him he'd been beaten down too far to believe in it.
What is grief, if not love persevering?
Grief is just love with no place to go.
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I agree about that.Gravy wrote:I believe Connie is also to blame, as well as his grandfather, and well meaning doctors who, instead of encouragement, offer him only omenous warnings, and pointed judgment.
It doesn't surprise me that he couldn't even accept the help offered. By the time it was finally available to him he'd been beaten down too far to believe in it.
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I agree with you. It was a little bit of everyone's fault, but ultimately I don't think you can blame others for what you put in your own mouth. I definitely think that he needed encouragement, but he also needed self control. He had a lot of emotional issues that needed to be resolved, but he ultimately was the one who chose to play video games and eat candy. It isn't Burgers and Bun's fault that they have tasty food.Gravy wrote:I believe Connie is also to blame, as well as his grandfather, and well meaning doctors who, instead of encouragement, offer him only omenous warnings, and pointed judgment.
It doesn't surprise me that he couldn't even accept the help offered. By the time it was finally available to him he'd been beaten down too far to believe in it.
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chytach18- wrote:It would be utterly unfair to blame Jeremy for his obesity. It would be same as blaming a rape victim for being raped. His obesity is much deeper problem than his body shape. I don't think we need to point fingers at someone in particular to get the blame. All people involved in his life should have helped him, not blame him. But they didn't, did they?
That leads back to the topic about the Dr. Sneekers and Glorias. If you haven't experienced it, of been effected by it, you can't understand it.
Jeremy had a lot of emotional problems, evidenced by him describing the "hole" that he could never "fill", but I think what happened toward and at the end (prior to the very end) showed he was better off than in the beginning.
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Grief is just love with no place to go.
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1) Jeremy: Jeremy is at fault because he ultimately makes the choice to put the wrong foods down his throat. He chose pizza over a salad, or a chocolate bar over an apple. What he decides to eat is what he eats, and no one forces him to make those choices.
2) Connie: While I both accept and smile down upon Connie for having two jobs to support her and her son, I look down upon her for not bringing home foods that are healthy for Jeremy. She could just as easily have brought him fruit or a salad or something else that would be suitably healthy...but instead she brings him pizza and burgers and chips, etc. As a mother of an overweight child, she should know better and encourage him to exercise and eat right. Instead she blames her work and being tired as excuses for why she doesn't cook or bring healthy foods, and that is not okay.
3) Bullies in general: For this particular category, I rope in Rex (Connie's ex-boyfriend), GI Dick (Jeremy's Grandfather), the bullies at school, Darwin, etc. These people do nothing but knock the obese down, making them feel discouraged, unattractive, and downright loathed. It may not be their fault for shoving food down Jeremy's throat, but by making him feel inferior, calling him names, beating him up, etc, it definitely isn't helping any small amount of self esteem that Jeremy has left. Having no self esteem can cause obese people to eat more or go in the opposite direction (look at Sue's daughter Kayla and her anorexia), leading to more problems, sometimes worse than the starting problem. And the bad thing is, nothing is done about them, so any hope that these obese people have of shedding the pounds or making themselves feel better through hard work and support falls through because all that they can think of is how fat they are and how hopeless losing that much weight can be/or feels like it can be.
4) Media and food industry: Finally we come to this. As people who watch the news or read the paper, or just browse Facebook for the latest news stories, we know how bad the media can make things out to be. In this novel, we see the media focusing (and for the most part, rightly so) on the murders. However, instead of focusing on the fact that these murders are occurring and need to be stopped, they try to force the theory that the murders are tied to obesity. They bring up that problem and scare people into eating more to get their minds off of the fear that they could be next. To make matters worse, food companies and industries do try to find the most addictive formula for foods, making it impossible for someone to quit eating something once they find something they like, yet they refuse to take even a small part of the responsibility for either making those foods, or for making those foods that are bad for us incredibly cheap vs healthy foods like salads and apples incredibly expensive.
There are a few people who are able to be supportive and helpful (I think of Dan, Tito, and Terry Harjo) and who don't really contribute to the obesity craze. Unfortunately there are those that help way too much as well, much like Sue and the "Fat Slayers" who think that by pushing exercise on people and cutting out junk food entirely, obesity can be completely botched out. That isn't right either and it becomes even worse for the obese victim because if they cannot reach a certain goal, their hope fades and weight loss does not seem achievable.
SO, sorry for the rant but I think everyone is involved with weight loss. I think this novel sums up perfectly the amount of blame that everyone should take responsibility for when it comes to obesity. Jeremy is definitely to blame, but not completely, and certainly not alone.
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Cozy Rozy (welcome to the forums!) - I agree with you that there is an emotional component to Jeremy's overeating, but it would have been easier for him to lose weight if his mom had healthier meal choices in the house.