Strengths and Weaknesses

Discuss the December 2015 book of the month Burn Zones by Jorge P. Newbery.
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Strengths and Weaknesses

Post by Scott » 27 Dec 2015, 15:36

Very early in Burn Zones, Mr. Newbery lists his 10 strengths and 10 weaknesses.

The lists are the same! I think this is really clever.

Do you think it is generally true that one's unique strengths and unique weaknesses are often each two sides of the same coin?

I think there is a lot of wisdom in that concept. Recognizing one's strengths and weaknesses as two sides of the same coin enables one to work on making use of their own unique characteristics rather than merely trying to change the relatively unchangeable. What do you think?

What are your strengths and weaknesses? Are they the same as each other?

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Post by Unsa Malik » 31 Dec 2015, 01:37

I think weaknesses are the reflections of ones strengths. Because every strength comes with a weakness and every weakness is a strength . So a part of both Is a part of the other . PS I am very new to socializing :)

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Post by Morgan_Malone » 01 Jan 2016, 08:05

It's an interesting concept. I think that weaknesses and strengths form in reaction to each other. For example if you are strong in a certain area you may lapse in another or vice versa to form a type of balance.
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Post by Unsa Malik » 01 Jan 2016, 14:31

Yeah that is true and quite interesting. How opposition surrounds every part of our life .
What is a strength for someone might be a weakness for someone elsr

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Post by katiesquilts » 02 Jan 2016, 20:42

Talking from personal experience, I've sometimes had my strengths hold me back when trying new things. For example, when I was little I told my grandma, "No, I'm good at READING books, not writing them!" :lol:
I also thought that the fact that I had read so many books already would work against me, because I didn't want to plagiarize anything I had read from them.. Such a naive little child haha

On the other hand, I only ever see weaknesses as strengths when they take responsibilities off my shoulders. My mom knows exactly which presents are from me each Christmas because no matter how square the box, the wrapping always ends up looking lumpy and crumpled! Which is why I wrapped exactly one present this Christmas, and after my boyfriend saw it he wrapped the rest of our combined presents for me. :wink:

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Post by Moe_1984 » 04 Jan 2016, 02:56

I think strengths and weaknesses are the normal shapes of the human personality!thats essentially who we are,like in my case I always thought I can survive and live just fine with very limited human interaction with others!!now I'm getting older now and start realizing that thought was merely a weakness and silly one! :roll: :roll:

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Post by Paul2love » 04 Jan 2016, 04:36

you are right moe very right..i felt that same way after i lost my wife 7 years ago but now things changed and i think i need someone again..i believe then i weak and now im regaining strenght..

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Post by hsimone » 05 Jan 2016, 07:53

Paul2love, thank you for sharing that very personal detail of your life. I am glad that you are regaining strength and wish you the best.

For me, I also believe strengths and weaknesses go hand-in-hand. For example, I am a pretty shy person when I first meet someone. I typically don't approach anyone new in gatherings if I don't know. Even sometimes when I do know them, but don't feel 100% comfortable with them, I still don't approach them. I would consider this a weakness because most times, I become self-conscious, which who wants that at a party?

However, I can see it as a strength too because in turn I become attached to those I am comfortable with and will always be there for my friends no matter what. They also know that if they confide in me that it will stay between us.

Very good question!
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Post by eunice2868 » 10 Jan 2016, 06:28

Strengths and weaknesses are often two sides of the same coin.

For example, a person that is success oriented, he may be motivated and committed. He will put in a lot of effort in order to succeed in his career. Such trait will be his strength. :)

On the other hand, he may become overzealous in achieving success whereby he worked non stop and does not have time for his family and exercise. Such trait will be his weakness then. :(

All in all, I suppose we should remind ourselves to strike a balance in everything we do. :text-lol:

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Post by DarkestbeforeDawn » 17 Jan 2016, 19:05

I like that the lists are the same. It conveys the idea that strength and weakness are not isolated cases, but they are connected. It's an important lesson to learn because so many people think that once they possess this trait, then they are invincible, but it actually has another avenue for vulnerability. Although the relation is not always cause and effect, the relationship between strengths and weaknesses are undeniable.
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Post by CzechTigg » 18 Jan 2016, 18:08

I keep seeming to come up with new strengths.. and new weaknesses.

I do wonder at times if I can ever get the scales to balance in favour for extended periods..

It can be a lot easier to assess someone well -known to me, than myself. Although I am pretty self-aware.
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Post by TangledinText » 20 Jan 2016, 16:09

My strength is knowing my weaknesses and my weaknesses...well there are too many to count.
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Post by CzechTigg » 21 Jan 2016, 08:02

I didn't like my former tennis coach shouting ' Strengths and weaknesses' at me when we were just establishing rhythm. But no one's perfect.
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Post by literarycat » 22 Jan 2016, 17:00

Unsa Malik wrote:I think weaknesses are the reflections of ones strengths. Because every strength comes with a weakness and every weakness is a strength . So a part of both Is a part of the other . PS I am very new to socializing :)
I really agree with this. I find I can turn my strength into a weakness and vise versa. Where a certain one attribute might be a strength somewhere else it is a weakness. For example I am very compassionate which I think is a strength but when it comes to having to reprimand an employee, I find it hard because then I feel bad about it. My written and verbal communication on the phone are a strength but in person it becomes a quick weakness. Like you said Unsa, there are always two sides to the coin.
The world breaks everyone, and afterwards, some are strong at the broken points ~ Ernest Hemingway.

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Post by Paliden » 24 Jan 2016, 10:31

literarycat wrote:
Unsa Malik wrote:I think weaknesses are the reflections of ones strengths. Because every strength comes with a weakness and every weakness is a strength . So a part of both Is a part of the other . PS I am very new to socializing :)
I really agree with this. I find I can turn my strength into a weakness and vise versa. Where a certain one attribute might be a strength somewhere else it is a weakness. For example I am very compassionate which I think is a strength but when it comes to having to reprimand an employee, I find it hard because then I feel bad about it. My written and verbal communication on the phone are a strength but in person it becomes a quick weakness. Like you said Unsa, there are always two sides to the coin.

I agree completely!!
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