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Re: Can a male have a female best friend without intimate fe

Post by Lincolnshirelass » 14 Nov 2017, 07:43

I think it's absolutely fine and normal for men and women to have platonic friends, even best friends, of the opposite sex. My only slight proviso would be that if either friend embarks on a new relationship perhaps a little sensitivity is needed at the beginning.
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Post by Cotwani » 14 Nov 2017, 09:47

It is possible. Many times you just connect and get along with some people without romantic undertones.

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Post by Dolor » 21 Nov 2017, 12:54

A male can't have a female friend without intimate feelings. It's either 1 of the 2 or both have hidden intimate feelings. ^_^ Tell the truth guys!

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Post by Lincolnshirelass » 22 Nov 2017, 05:09

@Dolor, I totally respect your opinion, but still hold out that it's possible, and know this from personal experience!
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Post by Dolor » 22 Nov 2017, 05:44

Lincolnshirelass wrote:@Dolor, I totally respect your opinion, but still hold out that it's possible, and know this from personal experience!
Well and good...
Your situation is one in a million.

Maybe he has this feeling but afraid to spoil the kind of relationship you have now.

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Post by Preciosonic » 03 Dec 2017, 21:16

Thanks for your views,I concur with you Dolor and Lincolnshire,Dolor before I created this thread,I thought it was impossible but after believe me I am on equilibrium with it's possibilities and impossibilities
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Post by Ravinee_ » 03 Dec 2017, 21:24

I think "NO". Even if they're acting like only a bestfriend but deep inside they have special feelings for each other. I had a bestfriend for a long years and he submitted that he has feelings on me and yet it's not allowed because we're just a friend.

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Post by Preciosonic » 04 Dec 2017, 16:13

Thanks for sharing a similar story with mine
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Post by Vickie Noel » 25 Dec 2017, 14:16

Well, I think it can happen as adults but only after one or both of them have tried to be intimate at one point or the other. I doubt that they usually just set out to be besties from the onset, it most likely is a trial and error but-I-don't-want-you-outta-my-life kinda thingy.
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Post by Sahani Nimandra » 03 Feb 2018, 07:32

If your asking about Harry and Hermione friendship, then yes I had a best friend name ganganath, now living in US. Its been 11 years for our friendship and I miss him everyday.
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Post by Sahani Nimandra » 03 Feb 2018, 07:36

Vickie Noel wrote:
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Well, I think it can happen as adults but only after one or both of them have tried to be intimate at one point or the other. I doubt that they usually just set out to be besties from the onset, it most likely is a trial and error but-I-don't-want-you-outta-my-life kinda thingy.
Ya I know what you mean when you say..... but-I-don't-want-you-outta-my-life! Trust me I know :eusa-think:
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Post by Preciosonic » 11 Feb 2018, 05:17

Thanks for commenting y'all
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Post by Arrigo_Lupori » 17 Feb 2018, 17:35

I am a male and I have many many female friends that are detached from one another. I can say one thing about friendship between men and women from personal experience: you can be friends, but not always, it depends on the person and on the situation. I can also say that I have liked all of the girls that I've been good friends with, which doesn't mean I ever tried anything, unless they were ok with it. Men will always be attracted towards girls that stimulate their interests, but that doesn't mean that one has to ruin an awesome friendship over a selfish want to get something out of it. If it has to happen, it'll happen naturally.
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Post by Preciosonic » 18 Feb 2018, 17:28

Hmm...Interesting,thanks
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