Do you think Amy and Nick both believed in their marriage?

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Post by zoekrast » 21 Jun 2016, 03:57

I think they both love each other so much, that they went to this toxic phase.

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Post by Vogwenxtwin » 21 Jun 2016, 09:53

Well...I think Nick believed in it at first, and I think Amy immersed herself to the point of some sort of belief in her own fantasy. I think Nick had a very specific idea of their relationship, at first. I also feel like they both were very selfish (Amy being the most overt) but that Nick's selfishness was mostly harmless until Amy's inherent craziness started to really come out. At the end, I think Nick has some sort of Stockholm Syndrome going on.

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Post by gaporter » 24 Jul 2016, 12:54

I think that they believed in their marriage, but only as far as they understood it. Nick believed in his marriage to Amy but didn't know it was an illusion. Amy believed in her marriage to Nick without realizing he didn't see through the illusion. The reality was different from their beliefs, but for what it's worth I think they genuinely believed in their false reality of a marriage.

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Post by Sarah_Khan » 08 Aug 2016, 12:16

I think they both believed in their marriage and they both did what they felt was right to try to make it last. But in the end, it didn't work out the way they wanted it to.

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Post by fari30 » 11 Aug 2016, 11:13

I agree that they believed in the same illusion of marriage but they never really worked toward it. Then they deluded themselves and each other and made themselves fit into the illusion of the marriage before everything fell apart.
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Post by lily_kh87 » 10 Oct 2016, 14:20

No, I don't believe any of them believed in their marriage. They had a very corrupted and twisted relationship. Amy is really crazy!
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Post by godreaujea » 22 Oct 2016, 12:40

I think both seem too self absorbed to have been able to invest and believe in their marriage. If neither noticed what each other were hiding then it doesn't seem like they paid enough attention to or cared enough about each other.
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Post by The Researcher » 04 Feb 2017, 11:55

No they did not. It was like a pretend play. Amy trying to control and Nick instead of taking a stand, running here and there and using escapism
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Post by Naval Aulakh » 09 Jul 2017, 07:05

I am quite uncertain as this is an intense one. I think they both are accustomed to acting and not acting naturally, along these lines not putting completely in the marriage. Then again, both appeared a little devastated after some time which proposes the marriage implied something to them.
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Post by Karen0823 » 18 Sep 2017, 17:33

People get married and stay married for different reasons. They are all very personal reasons. Of course, as most couples do, Amy and Nick were showing their best selves in the beginning of the relationship. This can be dangerous when you eventually find out who the real person is that you married. As toxic as this relationship became, I think in some weird, twisted way, they still placed value on their relationship and at least, to some extent, wanted to believe in it.
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Post by kate_nguyen » 14 Nov 2017, 11:43

In a wicked way, yes. I think Amy did it hoping their marriage would work when she came back. When she started writing the diary she wanted to punish Nick but deep down she wished he would notice something wrong and made their marriage works.

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Post by jennibarnhart » 29 Dec 2017, 06:14

I don't think they knew what they believed in. I think they were just addicted to each other in any way, whether that be to torment, control, love, please, trick, punish or confuse the other. One way or another, they are both obsessed with one another. In the end, they are just more aware of the sick games they play, but in reality cannot live without each other.

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Post by briellejee » 16 Jan 2018, 03:38

Both believed in their marriage at first. However, as the problems came, they both decided not to work on it together. Meaning, they didn't believe they can save it together.

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Post by Shrabastee » 13 Apr 2018, 01:44

I think they had some preformed rosy concepts about 'perfect marriages', but the reality proved to be otherwise. And instead of working on it, they maintained their self-obsession. Unfortunately, that seemed to follow a largely destructive path, taking into account their dramatic nature. After that, I guess there was no returning!

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Post by Crazybud » 23 Apr 2018, 07:12

I do think they believed in the marriage, but also that they thought it was easy. Marriage doesn't work without the coperation of the couples and I think that's where they failed. Both Nick and Amy never strived towards making it work, and then it was too late for them to do anything.
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