Being fearless versus learning to control your fears?
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Being fearless versus learning to control your fears?
What is the difference between being fearless and learning to control your fears? Do you believe anyone can be truly fearless? What does Tris mean when she says that “half of bravery is perspective” (p. 458)?
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I think courage is the beginning of overcoming a fear. Anyone can become fearless about certain fears in their life, like the fear of having a confrontation with another person. I think the statement above sounds like fearless is being confused with caution. The mind will caution a person to warn them of danger. For instance, one can become fearful and tense when driving fast during hard rain fall, because of possible hydroplaning of the vehicle that could cause you to lose control. Fearless is having the confidence and desire to change your perspective on an irrational fear, to try something new, like ziplining. It is a lot easier to think and act on a fear, that one can't zipline. It takes courage to adopt a new way of thinking and acting to overcome a fear that could prevent you from trying something new like ziplining or confronting someone.anomalocaris wrote:I think anyone who is truly fearless is just plain stupid. There are plenty of things that SHOULD be feared, and fear is a natural alarm system that lets us know when to be prepared to take action, and actual makes physical changes in the body to prepare us to take that action. Courage has nothing to do with not experiencing fear. It's about what you do with the fear.
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I agree. I don't think anyone is truly fearless, no matter how much they might wish that they are. Courage is to act despite those fears.anomalocaris wrote:I think anyone who is truly fearless is just plain stupid. There are plenty of things that SHOULD be feared, and fear is a natural alarm system that lets us know when to be prepared to take action, and actual makes physical changes in the body to prepare us to take that action. Courage has nothing to do with not experiencing fear. It's about what you do with the fear.
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I agree. Fear is gift that helps us function in this dangerous world.gali wrote:I agree. I don't think anyone is truly fearless, no matter how much they might wish that they are. Courage is to act despite those fears.anomalocaris wrote:I think anyone who is truly fearless is just plain stupid. There are plenty of things that SHOULD be feared, and fear is a natural alarm system that lets us know when to be prepared to take action, and actual makes physical changes in the body to prepare us to take that action. Courage has nothing to do with not experiencing fear. It's about what you do with the fear.
That said, I do admire people who are fearless about certain things. For example, there are people who just don't give a rip what others think about them. They are socially brave. And no, they are not necessarily clueless dorks, they may be quite aware of social norms, it's just that they are not afraid to give a contrary opinion. I admire that trait, because I was born with a craven need for approval. (There. I've said it. )
So, I think being fearless about some things can be a good thing. Kids have to be fearless about falling relative to adults, because they need to learn to walk, run, climb, ride a bike, etc.
However, I also agree with the other commenters who have said that for many things, being fearless just does not correspond to reality. The older I get, the MORE fearful I get, because I am more aware of the different things that can happen, and just how harmful they can be.
On a related note, can you believe the book said that "most people" turn out to have "about fifteen to twenty" fears???
What is wrong with these people? Don't they have any imagination? My list of fears would be nearly infinite. Name a bad situation, and yeah ... I'm afraid of that. Sure, who wouldn't be? But then their initiation would go on forever.