Would you have told your parents about the bullying?
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Re: Would you have told your parents about the bullying?
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That is very true, Kavita. There is no shame in asking for help, especially from our parents.Kavita Shah wrote: ↑25 May 2023, 10:27 That's really good if you can tell your parents. They'll always help you and you trust them.
If it was me I might hesitate a little but I would still tell if something like this happened. Not telling will only make the bullying problem big.
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You both raise good points. Deleting the message showed how she was maturing during this experience. I was proud of her too. She always thought of her brother's well-being, but now she was also thinking about her parents' well-being. She saw them as individuals with other circumstances besides caring for her and Donny. It took me a few more years before I realized that.NicRoy wrote: ↑25 May 2023, 05:59I agree. And what would have have the parents done anyway? Fly all the way from Africa to deal with a situation Grandma could solve? Mary Grace was quite a wise girl.Kirsti Friesen wrote: ↑24 May 2023, 10:44 I think I would have told them in a different way. I think the fact that she waited and talked to them in a little more "mature way" showed how she had grown through the process as well. She seems very resentful for her parents going to Africa, so I think that her waiting really showed that she was accepting the change and not taking her anger out on them. I'm glad she deleted the message she was going to send.
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I agree that it is important to tell your parents what is troubling you. In this case, since Mary Grace’s parents were not there with her, I think it showed maturity that she told the adults her parents had entrusted to her care, her grandparents, and did not hide it from them. I also thought it showed maturity that she did not send the note with the other guilt-tripping comments that her parents had no answers for.Josephe-Anne wrote: ↑27 May 2023, 02:31 Growing up as an only child, I was very close to my parents. So, yes, I would have told them if someone was bullying me. I would have felt comfortable speaking to them about it and listening to the advice they had to offer. I don't believe that it shows a lack of maturity to tell your parents what is troubling you.
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Ok. I understand what you mean now. Mary Grace was having a tough time accepting the situation, and she said some very hurtful things to her parents before moving to California. She did show maturity by restraining herself when she was tempted to do so again.MsH2k wrote: ↑27 May 2023, 18:26I agree that it is important to tell your parents what is troubling you. In this case, since Mary Grace’s parents were not there with her, I think it showed maturity that she told the adults her parents had entrusted to her care, her grandparents, and did not hide it from them. I also thought it showed maturity that she did not send the note with the other guilt-tripping comments that her parents had no answers for.Josephe-Anne wrote: ↑27 May 2023, 02:31 Growing up as an only child, I was very close to my parents. So, yes, I would have told them if someone was bullying me. I would have felt comfortable speaking to them about it and listening to the advice they had to offer. I don't believe that it shows a lack of maturity to tell your parents what is troubling you.
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However, if you mean that if I were specifically in Mary Grace's position in the story, then I would choose to be brave enough to tell my parents about the bullying. Since the Grandma Gang are already helping me, I know that Mary Grace's parents are bound to believe her.
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I actually meant the latter situation, but I understand your “man up” mandate. When I was in middle school and high school, the girls were the ones fighting at school, not the boys. It seemed to be happening mainly in my class. My mother did not want me to feel intimidated, so she told me I had her permission to defend myself physically if anyone touched me. This was an unusual allowance, but my mom was a teacher, and I think she may have known what was possible in my class. It was freeing, and while I certainly did not go looking for a fight, I was prepared. But no one bothered me.Rodel Barnachea wrote: ↑28 May 2023, 06:59 It depends on how you want me to interpret your question. If you mean that if I was being bullied and was faced to choose between having to tell my parents or not tell them about the situation I'm in, then I'm not going to tell them that I was being bullied. I know my parents would probably be disappointed in me and just tell me to "man up" when I'm being bullied. The bullying is bad enough, and my parents being unsupportive would just add fuel to the fire.
However, if you mean that if I were specifically in Mary Grace's position in the story, then I would choose to be brave enough to tell my parents about the bullying. Since the Grandma Gang are already helping me, I know that Mary Grace's parents are bound to believe her.
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You and she are thoughtful daughters. Plus, with the Grandma Gang backing her, she couldn't lose!
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I am the eldest too (actually elder--there were only two of us ). I bet you could relate to Mary Grace's diligence in caring for her younger brother.Catalina Isabel wrote: ↑29 May 2023, 03:19 I think if it was me, I would have told someone other than my parents such as a close friend. That is just me though, I never wanted to bother my parents as a child/teen. Being the eldest I was usually the one solving other's problems instead.
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Yes definitely! I am the eldest of four girls so the little ones have always come to me for advice etc.MsH2k wrote: ↑30 May 2023, 18:40I am the eldest too (actually elder--there were only two of us ). I bet you could relate to Mary Grace's diligence in caring for her younger brother.Catalina Isabel wrote: ↑29 May 2023, 03:19 I think if it was me, I would have told someone other than my parents such as a close friend. That is just me though, I never wanted to bother my parents as a child/teen. Being the eldest I was usually the one solving other's problems instead.