Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage?
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The truth is, if one can't abstain, they should at least avoid multiple partners.
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I agree with you. Sex should not be put on a pedestal, is a natural and healthy way to express love, affection, and individuality. I wanted to wait, but I felt pressure to wait because of what people might think of me if I started having sex, it was on a pedestal that made me freak out when I started to understand that waiting does not equal a healthy, long-lasting, and loving marriage. It is important to know your body, your likes, and dislikes, and if you and your partner are compatible before marriage. Divorce is not easy, cheap, or a solution to every incompatibility, nor should a couple think of divorce just because of sex, but marriage won't be easy or healthy if one of the partners is shy about their sexual preferences or are completely incompatible.Hellen Muriithi wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 22:59I beg to differ. We are putting sex on a pedestal, completely forgetting the factors at play that influence those who have sec before marriage (voluntary). The fact that we live in a liberal world full of information that is accessible even to minors makes it quite insensitive to judge those who have sex before marriage. Ours is a society where parents release the holds on their children when they get to campus, in the pretext of adulthood.jeminah28 wrote: ↑03 Jan 2023, 02:37 Sexual abstinence before marriage?
I agree with this explanation from the author.It helps avoid negative thoughts from a conflict, especially insecurities. From my own experience, it's a way of consoling myself against any doubts. Sexual abstinence also helps me in counseling, particularly with the young ladies. Usually, women are the most affected by their own wrong choices about premarital sex.
A healthy sexual life does not imply abstinence, and abstinence does not mean the person is having a healthy sexual life.
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Yes! There has to be something between complete abstinence before marriage and having casual sex with many different partners.
I agree with waiting until you are in a committed and serious long-term relationship, but I would never recommend getting married without being intimate with that person. Marriage is forever. Finding out after making the commitment that you are completely incompatible or one person is physically unable to consummate would be devastating.
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Ah...the joys of teens! In the past, I've always tried to steer clear of these conversations. Personally, I believe a person should wait until marriage and I believe that sex during the teen years just adds another layer of emotion and complications to their lives. Before I started teaching high school, I didn't really understand how powerful their emotions are with love.Cristina Corui Mihailescu wrote: ↑06 Jan 2023, 12:33 Being a teacher, I should agree with the biblical teachings on abstinence. However, nowadays the world sees you as weird if you are still a maid when you get married. So the only advice I give my female students is to wait till at least 17 years of age and to do it out of love, not fun...
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I think this may be a two-pronged issue, which l boils down to personal preference. From a religious point of view though, which is also the author's view, abstinence is good, but I don't think it's a measure of how fulfilled someone will be. If it is my choice to make, I'll definitely explore as much as I can.Jeminah Jeremie wrote: ↑03 Jan 2023, 02:37 Sexual abstinence before marriage?
I agree with this explanation from the author.It helps avoid negative thoughts from a conflict, especially insecurities. From my own experience, it's a way of consoling myself against any doubts. Sexual abstinence also helps me in counseling, particularly with the young ladies. Usually, women are the most affected by their own wrong choices about premarital sex.

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