Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage?

[Shedrack A]

It is disheartening to see that today's young women are subjected to tremendous pressure to conform to societal norms, which often involve engaging in sexual activity. It is important to recognize that individuals have the right to make their own choices regarding their sexual behavior, but it is equally important to acknowledge that these decisions should be made freely and without external pressures.

[Sheri Iodice]

I completely agree. It's important that we teach our children these values and that they are strong enough to not give into these pressures.

[John Ikenwanze]

Well secual abstinence in my opinion is up to the parties involved. Knowing the role sexual compatibility plays in marriage, or is best one knows what she is getting into. However, should they decide to abstain, they should be prepared to work with whatever is obtainable after the marriage.

[Hazel Mae Bagarinao]

I agree about sexual abstinence. Sadly, today's young women are under so much pressure they follow the crowd! When I was growing up it was the only way! It was the rare young woman who practiced sex outside of marriage!

One of my dreams is to walk on my wedding day with purity. At least now, I don't follow the crowd about premarital sex, and I'll do my best I commit sex after marriage.

[Sheri Iodice]

That's how it was when I was young too. I am not at all trying to say that noone should have sex before marriage or that I judge anyone that does. I understand circumstances and don't judge that. I just think it is sad that young people have this idea that it is ok to just have casual sex. They don't even want to date, they just want to "hook up".

[Brenda Creech]

I agree about sexual abstinence. Sadly, today's young women are under so much pressure they follow the crowd! When I was growing up it was the only way! It was the rare young woman who practiced sex outside of marriage!

One of my dreams is to walk on my wedding day with purity. At least now, I don't follow the crowd about premarital sex, and I'll do my best I commit sex after marriage.

Good for you!

[Bettny Andrade]

I think that abstaining or not is a decision that everyone has to choose in their life if they are part of a particular social trend.

When it comes to talking about sex, even today there is a lot of misinformation and taboos. Just as in this post it can be seen that most of them point out that abstaining before marriage is better, in society and on a day-to-day basis, the person who has not yet had sexual relations is considered very frowned upon, almost as a "weirdo" .

To tell the truth, I think neither one nor the other. If a person feels safe to have sex with someone and have it reciprocate, that's perfectly fine (whether they're in a romantic relationship or not; whether it's a stable partner or one you want to hope to be legally bound to, and in front of society).

[Sheri Iodice]

Thank you. I appreciate the way you explained that. I feel alot the same way. A person should be shamed for either way they choose.

[Aftab Yunis]

Sexual absitenence before marriage is one of the important steps in our lives. The reason of believing in this rule is dependent on:
"but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman[Man] with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." This commandment is far greater than to go for sex without marriage.
This rule is of utmost importance in our lives, because the ONE who has designed this marriage's master piece demands us to live holy lives.

[Jeremie Mondejar]

Sexual abstinence before marriage is definitely a good thing. But I came from society that sexual intercourse before marriage is prohibited. So my first time was when I'm married. AndnI could say that it is the best thing I have ever done with the one I love.

You're right, and in your lifetime, you will never forget it, which makes you proud. From my experience, it always boosts self-confidence, especially if you and your spouse have some talks regarding this matter. 

[Shanesha Sammerson]

I agree on sex only after marriage is a good thing. It is something special you and your partner get to share on your wedding night. However what if you have waited until marriage and then realize that you and your partner are sexually incompatible?

[Claire Twy]

Sexual abstinence before marriage?

I agree with this explanation from the author. It helps avoid negative thoughts from a conflict, especially insecurities. From my own experience, it's a way of consoling myself against any doubts. Sexual abstinence also helps me in counseling, particularly with the young ladies. Usually, women are the most affected by their own wrong choices about premarital sex.

Sex was always meant to be enjoyed after marriage. It is a beautiful thing that sadly has been tarnished by dirty thoughts and people allowing the desires of the human flesh to consume them. In this society, sex has become such a common thing and it's the norm to sleep with multiple people. I feel like sex should remain something that happens after marriage, but unfortunately, not many agree with me.

[Olivia Bird Whitworth]

I personally practiced sexual abstinence before marriage, and I feel that it has made a difference in my relationship sexually. Neither my husband nor I brought ideas into the marriage of what sex was "supposed" to be like. We have been able to figure out together what it looks like best for us.

On the other hand, some experiences with pornography and make out sessions with others before we met each other did impact our expectations and I feel that we have had to overcome that in order to find our groove with sex in our marriage.

[Anil G]

Premarital sex depends on the person you're doing with, many times women end up with a bad guy and if she gets pregnant then there is a high possibility that she has to raise the kid on her own. On the other hand, if she's with a nice guy and has some kind of commitment then it's good.

[Saima Rahman]

Personally, I agree with sexual abstinence before marriage. But then again it is totally upto the people involved in the relationship to decide what is best for them together and individually. Intimacy should be sacred within the relationship and be a part that they can share happily with one another without judgements or reservations.