Rion's problem in social mingling, was it because of him or his mother?

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Ndive Mzamo wrote: 03 Sep 2021, 19:59 I think the problem lies with the new school, Tyler high school. Unfamiliar with the environment. Mother is not a problem because she was trying to protect her son. But later on he managed to befriend Danielle.
As per Rion this was his sixth change of schools. So entering a new environment cannot be an unusual thing for him by then. He says even he is used to take the back corner seat of the class and look out of the window. So I don't see any new or different impact to him from the new school.
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Seroney_ wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 05:47 I believe that Rion played a bigger role in his personality. Just like any other person, his mother and environment played a role in making him the person he is. To add to that, I feel Rion would have been a different person if his mother had been a more centric figure in his life.
Rion's mother was less supportive to her fatherless child who had to suffer from constant change of the environments, especially schools. She loved him but did not give much support other than that. She was not available in most of the occasions as well.

But from Rion's side also we don't see any expression of need for his mom to be in his life. He too avoided speaking his problems with her, making the situation harder.
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Without a doubt, the constant move would have had a negative effect on him. Six schools in four years is a bit on the extreme end. It would be difficult to maintain ties with friends, coupled with the strange powers he possessed which he tries to hide.
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Devalsodha wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 12:44 I believe that changing of place and his mother's protective nature both were responsible for Rion's introvert nature. Rion had to frequently change schools so may be he found it difficult to mingle up with kids everywhere. However his mother would have explained him how to take care of himself instead of being overprotective.
We really do not see Rion's mother being overprotective over Rion. Yes, she did everything to keep her identity a secret and her son safe from harm, yet she did not hinder Rion's activities. Seemingly she gave all the freedom to him, but he was reluctant to use that. We see how he refused to go out on a Friday night with Dee despite having all the possibility to do so.
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Amy Luman wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 15:01 I really don’t think that his problem was anyone’s fault. Some people just prefer to spend time by themselves and don’t feel the need for any social interaction other than what they have without seeking it out. Perhaps the bond he has with his mother was enough for him.
But the problem is we do not see much connection or a bond between him and his mother. He does not reveal full details about his school life or his problems, and his mother is not fully open towards him too. And we see how Rion acts oblivious to his mother's tiredness and pains.
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All of which, I believe, contributed to his introverted nature intensifying. The feeling of relocating from a different place is upsetting, and it causes you to disengage from those connections you have been in. The point is, after that disconnection, so much trust in those past camaraderies, the protagonist now has a difficult time adjusting and interconnecting with people again. On the one hand, her mother played a significant role in his openness to experience; as someone who does not have a close relationship with my mother, I can say it contributed to my introverted nature. After all, we're all different and unique on our own, so I can't blame Rion.
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I think Rion, by nature, was an introvert content in keeping his own company. That said, a child needs stability to thrive and explore people and places. I believe the frequent change of location contributed the most to his loneliness.
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I think Rion would isolate himself and not seek out friends as a way to protect himself from the hurt of losing friends each time he moved. The relationship between himself and his mother was not a joyful, sharing relationship so he may not have developed the interpersonal skills needed to make friends easily. He seemed to enjoy his friendship with Dee and was friendly with Ara so I'm fairly certain his social seclusion was mainly due to the constant moving from place to place.
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Well i think it was because of frequent location changes due to his mother's job. Everytime he had to make new friends but it also seems like he wasn't even trying to make new friends so we can say that his mother is not at fault all the time but i think his mother should have been more open with rion so that he would have someone to talk to.
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Courtney Hughes wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 15:07
Seroney_ wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 05:47 I believe that Rion played a bigger role in his personality. Just like any other person, his mother and environment played a role in making him the person he is. To add to that, I feel Rion would have been a different person if his mother had been a more centric figure in his life.
To add to your point, his mother should’ve been more central in his life AND been open about his father. It could’ve helped shape him to have answers about the male figure that was supposed to be around.
Though Rion questioned about his father, seemingly it was with curiosity but not with the yearning of a fatherly figure. He actually needed no one as he was used to be alone and keep his sorrows to himself. But if his mother told him about his father, her own secrets, and abilities, then their bond would have been stronger.
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Black Jewel wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 20:06 I strongly believe it to be due to moving around so much. I suffered from moving during my childhood years, and it created a feeling of disconnect. I don't believe my new friendships were a strong as the ones I had to leave behind, and that was only from moving once. Had I moved again, it would have been even more difficult. Six schools in 4 years? That's extremely difficult, and a huge contributor to Rion's loneliness and anti-social nature.
One might feel sad when have to leave behind the things and people that you are used to be. But I think you could get accustomed to your new place and people and could made new friends as well. What we see in Rion is the lack of need to make connections with humans. He shows this towards his own mother too. He just asks questions from her in a customary nature, but he choose whether to react to them or not. When she was tired, once he helped her, but on another occasion he remained oblivious to it. Seemingly he is having more issues than being moved in between several places.
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One's behavior can't be determined by a single factor but a combination of many. Also, we shouldn't forget that Rion is a teenager so if he wanted to have close friends he could have gotten one but he chose to isolate himself, and the constant moving didn't help either.
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Rion needed some company at some point that is why he agreed even to go out with Dee, but circumstances beyond his control hindered his desire. for instance, moving from one place to another within a few months.

And, to cloak up your question;
Rion's problem in social mingling, was it because of him or his mother?"
I think he loved being isolated because a socialist can make friends even within hours.
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Favour AN wrote: 04 Sep 2021, 20:28 I changed school so much as a child due to my dad's job. It did not affect my ability to make friends, unlike Rion, I'm an extrovert. So, I would not blame his lack of a social circle on his mum or her job. I would not also say it is because he did not want any friends, I had thought this was the reason until the time he was waiting to see Dee at the weekend. This showed he wanted to have friends. I think he was shy, too shy. That is the reason, we may call it being an introvert but, that is the main reason he found it hard to make friends.
Thanks for sharing some related personal experiences. I too think that changing schools is not an issue to make new friends. Yes, it may take time, but eventually you will get used to the environment and your new friends, and you will no more remember that you are in a new place. We see how Rion tried to remain unnoticed in his class. He did not want to even look at other students, so he looked out from the window the whole time. How can his behaviour lead him to new friends!!
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Harshi4 wrote: 05 Sep 2021, 04:31 It is human nature to want to belong, to be loved and cherished. I do not think that Rion did not want to have friends. I believe that he did not have friends due to multiple reasons including, the contant traveling, not wanting to lose people and get hurt, and his mother's silence. All these reasons played their part in affecting Rions life one way or the other.
We see how he grieved when he lost his dog, and later on feared to loose his loved ones. Maybe that is why he refused to make new connections. But we do not see him valuing the connections at hand. His only constant companion was his mother. Yet he does not show an adequate level of attraction to her either. It is true that she too is maintaining sone distance. But I think Rion is having some attachment issues as well.
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