3 out of 4 stars
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Get Out of My Bed by Shirley Wooten Rose is the nonfiction account of the author’s marriage to an abusive partner. From early warning signs to the progression of the emotional, mental, and physical abuse she experienced, Rose candidly shares her story and how she finally managed to escape. Although she wrote her memoir thirty years ago, domestic violence continues to be a relevant social issue.
The book begins with a list of ten "rules" related to the care and cleaning of the refrigerator alone. Rose relates that failure to strictly comply with any given demand might result in a "reprimand" from her husband and abuser. Regardless of her diligence to maintain a spotless home, she was unable to please him. Rose and her daughters constantly walked on eggshells. The tension and stress emotionally drained her and physically affected her health. Despite her pleas to go to marriage counseling, her husband only went three times, then refused to go anymore. Rose hopes her memoir will prevent others from entering or staying in abusive relationships.
Rose's writing style is informal and sincere. At times, she even manages to infuse a touch of humor despite the horrific circumstances she endured. Rose conveys an accurate portrayal of an abuser's manipulative mindset and patterns of control, which I recognize from a previous abusive marriage. I most liked the practical advice she provides for those dealing with abusive relationships. Rose offers insight regarding the early warning signs of an abusive personality plus the importance of documentation and financial acumen.
In addition to the abuse Rose suffered at the hands of her husband, her divorce attorney's actions can only be described as negligent. I empathize with the frustration and helplessness she experienced. I also understand that writing about the circumstances was probably cathartic. However, I felt the author crossed a line by filling pages with copies of every legal document, itemized details of her ex-husband's debt, and disputes of her attorney's fees. Summarizing the issues and providing a sample would have made the point without requiring readers to wade through pages of financial paperwork. Unfortunately, because of oversharing in this regard, six of the sixteen chapters read like one long rant. Even so, the book is a helpful resource for victims of domestic violence. Overall, I rate the book 3 out of 4 stars.
The book appears to be professionally edited. I recommend it to readers who are concerned about warning signs of an abusive personality and those seeking to end an abusive relationship. However, I caution readers who may be triggered by sensitive content pertaining to domestic violence.
Get Out of My Bed
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