Official Review: Get Out of My Bed by Shirley Wooten Rose

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Official Review: Get Out of My Bed by Shirley Wooten Rose

Post by Cecilia_L » 06 Feb 2019, 11:45

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "Get Out of My Bed" by Shirley Wooten Rose.]
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3 out of 4 stars
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Get Out of My Bed by Shirley Wooten Rose is the nonfiction account of the author’s marriage to an abusive partner. From early warning signs to the progression of the emotional, mental, and physical abuse she experienced, Rose candidly shares her story and how she finally managed to escape. Although she wrote her memoir thirty years ago, domestic violence continues to be a relevant social issue.

The book begins with a list of ten "rules" related to the care and cleaning of the refrigerator alone. Rose relates that failure to strictly comply with any given demand might result in a "reprimand" from her husband and abuser. Regardless of her diligence to maintain a spotless home, she was unable to please him. Rose and her daughters constantly walked on eggshells. The tension and stress emotionally drained her and physically affected her health. Despite her pleas to go to marriage counseling, her husband only went three times, then refused to go anymore. Rose hopes her memoir will prevent others from entering or staying in abusive relationships.

Rose's writing style is informal and sincere. At times, she even manages to infuse a touch of humor despite the horrific circumstances she endured. Rose conveys an accurate portrayal of an abuser's manipulative mindset and patterns of control, which I recognize from a previous abusive marriage. I most liked the practical advice she provides for those dealing with abusive relationships. Rose offers insight regarding the early warning signs of an abusive personality plus the importance of documentation and financial acumen.

In addition to the abuse Rose suffered at the hands of her husband, her divorce attorney's actions can only be described as negligent. I empathize with the frustration and helplessness she experienced. I also understand that writing about the circumstances was probably cathartic. However, I felt the author crossed a line by filling pages with copies of every legal document, itemized details of her ex-husband's debt, and disputes of her attorney's fees. Summarizing the issues and providing a sample would have made the point without requiring readers to wade through pages of financial paperwork. Unfortunately, because of oversharing in this regard, six of the sixteen chapters read like one long rant. Even so, the book is a helpful resource for victims of domestic violence. Overall, I rate the book 3 out of 4 stars.

The book appears to be professionally edited. I recommend it to readers who are concerned about warning signs of an abusive personality and those seeking to end an abusive relationship. However, I caution readers who may be triggered by sensitive content pertaining to domestic violence.

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Post by Anthony__ » 08 Feb 2019, 07:43

I really feel for Rose. Based on your review, I think some information about legal documents should have been excluded. Great review.

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Post by kandscreeley » 08 Feb 2019, 08:24

It sounds like the author had quite an experience. I can't imagine going through something like that. I definitely agree with you about the pages of court documents. I think that's a bit much. Still, if you skip that, it would probably be an interesting book to read. Thanks.
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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 08:37

Anthony__ wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 07:43
I really feel for Rose. Based on your review, I think some information about legal documents should have been excluded. Great review.
Thanks for your comment, Anthony.

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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 08:38

kandscreeley wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 08:24
It sounds like the author had quite an experience. I can't imagine going through something like that. I definitely agree with you about the pages of court documents. I think that's a bit much. Still, if you skip that, it would probably be an interesting book to read. Thanks.
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Post by Nyambura Githui » 08 Feb 2019, 11:09

The author's experience is saddening, I feel for her. Having gone through such abuse and coming out strong is such an encouragement to many. Great review.

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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 11:45

Nyambura Githui wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 11:09
The author's experience is saddening, I feel for her. Having gone through such abuse and coming out strong is such an encouragement to many. Great review.
Thank you. I appreciate your comment.

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Post by Jessacardinal » 08 Feb 2019, 13:43

My eyes widened in astonishment a couple times while reading your review. I am glad Rose was able to escape such awful abuse and hope the book helps others free themselves from similar circumstances.
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Post by kdstrack » 08 Feb 2019, 14:05

It seems like the author is still struggling with the aftereffects of her relationship. She had the courage to write about her past and publish her book - something which would probably trigger her ex!! I admire you for choosing this book knowing what you were getting into. Hopefully this book will be a useful tool for many others. Thanks for your sensitive review of this moving story.

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Post by BoookWorm616 » 08 Feb 2019, 16:04

This whole book suggests the author has been through an eventful past but I agree with what you say about the legal documents regardless a good read all in all

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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 16:18

Jessacardinal wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 13:43
My eyes widened in astonishment a couple times while reading your review. I am glad Rose was able to escape such awful abuse and hope the book helps others free themselves from similar circumstances.
Thanks for your sensitive comment.

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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 19:10

kdstrack wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 14:05
It seems like the author is still struggling with the aftereffects of her relationship. She had the courage to write about her past and publish her book - something which would probably trigger her ex!! I admire you for choosing this book knowing what you were getting into. Hopefully this book will be a useful tool for many others. Thanks for your sensitive review of this moving story.
Thank you for your kind comment. :tiphat:

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Post by Cecilia_L » 08 Feb 2019, 19:10

BoookWorm616 wrote:
08 Feb 2019, 16:04
This whole book suggests the author has been through an eventful past but I agree with what you say about the legal documents regardless a good read all in all
Thanks for your comment.

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Post by BelleReadsNietzsche » 10 Feb 2019, 13:35

The book begins with a list of ten "rules" related to the care and cleaning of the refrigerator alone.


Good God.

I am so sorry that she did not have a divorce attorney who had her back, but I agree that the inclusion of so many detailed documents sounds inappropriate.

Anything that brings additional attention and allows survivors to share their stories is a good thing, though. Thank you for your thoughtful review. :romance-heartbeating:
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Post by Cecilia_L » 10 Feb 2019, 16:34

BelleReadsNietzsche wrote:
10 Feb 2019, 13:35
The book begins with a list of ten "rules" related to the care and cleaning of the refrigerator alone.


Good God.

I am so sorry that she did not have a divorce attorney who had her back, but I agree that the inclusion of so many detailed documents sounds inappropriate.

Anything that brings additional attention and allows survivors to share their stories is a good thing, though. Thank you for your thoughtful review. :romance-heartbeating:
Thanks for your comment, Belle.

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