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"Love is the answer, God is the cure"
This is a non fiction book about the author, Aimee Cabo Nikolov. It depicts her struggles with abuse: physical, sexual, substance,and depression from about seven years of age to adulthood. She started by narrating how she met her future husband Dr. Boris while on vacation with her sister. Fate brought them together and she wanted him to understand her story.
Her mother had moved with four children to the Dominican Republic to study as a neurologist. While there, she married a nineteen year old fellow medical student (by the way, she was thirty). From the family setup, it's pretty obvious that the mother was the breadwinner while her husband Andres kept home. By this time, Amiee was seven years old and has suffered physical and verbal abuse from the mother. As if that was not enough, Andres started molesting her. When she told the mother who confronted him, he left temporarily and came back as if nothing had happened. The resultant effect was Aimee feeling guilty about tearing the family apart and thereafter kept mute. By age twelve, Andres raped her and continually do so unashamedly. Soon she suffered same fate from Andres' brother Rafael, foster father, brother-in-law, and nameless individuals on the street.
Aimee had to confide in her elder sister Mitchell when she came back to the house, who in turn alerted relevant authorities on the dysfunctional family. This led to years of legal battle dubbed "the case from hell" with the parents. It is rather worrisome that the mother who should be more sympathetic to the plight of her daughters was actually antagonistic. To go so far as to make up stories and lies against her children is sickening. Asides the various abuses, the trauma that they went through was lost on her just because she wanted to be seen as right. It shows the extent to which someone can live in denial.
Afterwards she suffered depression, moving from place to place, had a child with a control freak who fights her legally and emotionally in every possible ways. Through these trials, Aimee had unflinching faith in God, always optimistic and sees good in other people. It must have been very trying for the husband who kept loving her and being supportive. Through this book, she reminds the reader about the innate ability in every man to survive life's challenges.
I particularly like the fact that she's the one telling the story. I would rate this book 4 out of 4 stars, it was well written and edited. I will recommend it to anyone who's going through difficult times as it is a faith booster.
Love is the Answer, God is the Cure
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