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Official Review: So what if another man screws your wife

Post by Bianka Walter » 01 Jun 2018, 14:37

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "So what if another man screws your wife" by Victor Meenach.]
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2 out of 4 stars
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So What If Another Man Screws Your Wife is a book aimed at opening people's minds with regards to their sexuality. Social norms have put severe boundaries on what is right and wrong, and what is culturally acceptable. When it comes to marriage, promiscuity, flirting and jealousy, the collective belief on how to behave is very black and white. Victor Meenach implores the reader to jump out of their societal box, and experiment with their raw animal instincts.

Meenach believes that people are held back by what society and religion consider sexual transgressions. His philosophy centres around the idea of ‘monogamous promiscuity.’ Jealousy and guilt are the cause of all relationships ending, and sexual freedom needs to be achieved in relationships in order for them to be most fulfilling. His theory is that a relationship filled with love can only become stronger if jealousy and guilt are alleviated. The way to do that is to include your partner in all of your sexual escapades… outside your relationship. The idea is that if you and your partner are truly in love, you will understand each other’s animal urges to be promiscuous. You will accept this because your love is unwavering.

The title of this book grabbed my attention straight away. I enjoy a good debate, especially over controversial topics. I wanted to be challenged by the thoughts and notions of the author. I don’t believe I was. There were no eye-opening revelations about how to go about changing your life, just that you should. The chapters, which were all only about one or two pages long, were repetitive. The same concepts were echoed from page to page, almost trying to force the words into the readers head with no backup.

The book is written in a stream-of-consciousness format. I don’t mind this way of writing, but because of the lack of depth, it felt a bit childish. I also think that editing shouldn’t go out of the window because your writing style is whimsical. I couldn’t tell if errors were made intentionally, or if they were real errors. It became quite distracting. Another thing I wasn’t too ecstatic about was at the mention of research. I find it lazy to say, “Some research suggests…” Which research? Who said it? Is it accurate? In another chapter, when talking about medical and scientific research, the author states, “You will have to Google the expert details on your own.” I think basing strong points on flimsy investigation is careless.

Two of the chapters are taken up by Meenach’s personal poems that relate to the subject matter. I thought they were a nice way of breaking up the author’s views, until I got to the last quarter of the book. I then realised that the final chapters consisted of a collection of his poetry. Now, I don’t pull any punches when I say that I am dense when it comes to poetry. I am by no means learned, and have no idea what to look for that makes poetry good or bad. So, I unfortunately can’t comment on his poetry compilation. I would be doing the author a great disservice by saying the things I truly feel, such as, “I liked that they rhymed.” Or, “they tell a great story.” But without any forewarning, I had no idea that almost 30% of this book was poetry. I think a heads-up to the reader is in order.

As a short novel (114 pages), I hoped to get some real insight into the author's philosophies. The problem is that Meenach’s notions are extremely stereotypical. He places feelings and real-life circumstances into boxes that are unmovable. Not every relationship is the same. Not every divorce is forced by cheating. People are capricious, and to suggest that one way of living is right for everyone, is wrong. I am a bit torn with a rating for this one. On the one hand, it was a light-hearted and fun read. On the other hand, it promised more than that. It promised enlightenment and learning, and honestly, I didn’t learn a thing. I therefore give this book 2 out of 4 stars. I didn’t go all the way down to one star because I felt that I was unable to give a thorough review of the poetry section of the book. I enjoyed it, but can’t give any accurate criticisms at all.

I would recommend this book to couples seeking a controversial shift in their relationship to ‘spice things up.’ I would not recommend this book to anyone who is against cheating, promiscuity and extra-marital affairs. All in all, I think this line sums it up rather well: “Just do it and proceed to mutual joy and trust without jealousy at all.”

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Post by Nmadinachi Egwim » 02 Jun 2018, 11:21

This one is a total no-no for me. Apart from the overall theme being unappealing, the fact that the author tried to broach an unpopular ground, that encourages some free-thinking, yet is being stereotypical is ironic. And that's just a few of many things that turn me off about the book. Thanks for your detailed review!

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Post by tkrapish » 02 Jun 2018, 12:11

The title of the book caught my attention as well. I was considering reading the book just because of curiosity. Thank you for explaining that there was no new ideas because this is the reason I would have taken a chance on the book.

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Post by Laura Del » 02 Jun 2018, 14:45

This seems like it wouldn't be my kind of book. Thanks for your review. The title grabbed me as well, and now I know that I don't want to read it.
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Post by omarmohammad » 02 Jun 2018, 15:39

The title grabbed me as well, and now I know that I don't want to read it. its not nice book

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Post by teacherjh » 02 Jun 2018, 16:23

Yeah - this book isn't for me, but good job on the review.

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Post by Miriam Molina » 02 Jun 2018, 19:18

I wonder what spurred the author to write this story. It made me recall 30th Century Escape and Jennifer Hero. That character's marriage seems to be the perfect example for the controversial lesson this book teaches. I don't think I'll need that lesson anytime soon.

Thanks for taking the challenge to read and review this book, Bianka Walter!

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Post by Bollyjjay » 02 Jun 2018, 19:52

The title will surely attract lots of attention, this book is not just for me, neither is it for those in a committed compassionate relationship,well just as the reviewer said "if you wish to just shift and spice things up in your relationship" you can go for it. anyways *nice review*

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Post by vddjhedz14 » 02 Jun 2018, 21:17

This book is not my type. Yeah, we're now in a modern world. Most people are now liberated but we must not forget our traditions and the teachings of our religion specially Catholic which prohibits the way the author wants to deliver in this book.

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Post by gen_g » 02 Jun 2018, 21:19

Open relationships do work for some, but the general fact that the author is unable to support his arguments makes this book a no-no for me. Thanks for the detailed review! (:

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Post by CatInTheHat » 02 Jun 2018, 21:26

gen_g wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 21:19
Open relationships do work for some, but the general fact that the author is unable to support his arguments makes this book a no-no for me. Thanks for the detailed review! (:
Exactly. One must be able to support one's arguments.
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Post by Nimat87 » 03 Jun 2018, 02:04

The title of the book caught my attention too. I was curious to find out how the author sought to drive home such an unpopular viewpoint. Alas! he couldn't. Great review by the way.
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Post by Bianka Walter » 03 Jun 2018, 04:58

Nmadinachi Egwim wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 11:21
This one is a total no-no for me. Apart from the overall theme being unappealing, the fact that the author tried to broach an unpopular ground, that encourages some free-thinking, yet is being stereotypical is ironic. And that's just a few of many things that turn me off about the book. Thanks for your detailed review!
As it turns out, it was one of the many things that turned me off too!
Thanks so much for the comments :)
tkrapish wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 12:11
The title of the book caught my attention as well. I was considering reading the book just because of curiosity. Thank you for explaining that there was no new ideas because this is the reason I would have taken a chance on the book.
Well, I'm glad I took one for the team :) Thanks so much for commenting.
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Post by Bianka Walter » 03 Jun 2018, 05:01

omarmohammad wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 15:39
The title grabbed me as well, and now I know that I don't want to read it. its not nice book
It is a gripping title! Thanks for commenting.
Laura Del wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 14:45
This seems like it wouldn't be my kind of book. Thanks for your review. The title grabbed me as well, and now I know that I don't want to read it.
I'm glad I could put it in perspective for you :) The title is definitely something that draws people in!
Thanks for taking time to comment.
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Post by Bianka Walter » 03 Jun 2018, 05:05

teacherjh wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 16:23
Yeah - this book isn't for me, but good job on the review.
You're not the only one, I think this book is aimed at a very select group of people.
Thanks for commenting :)
Bollyjjay wrote:
02 Jun 2018, 19:52
The title will surely attract lots of attention, this book is not just for me, neither is it for those in a committed compassionate relationship,well just as the reviewer said "if you wish to just shift and spice things up in your relationship" you can go for it. anyways *nice review*
Well, exactly. Committed is the right word - and I think this book stomps on that idea a bit.
Thanks so much for taking the time to comment!
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