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[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself" by Monica Omorodion Swaida.]
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This book, They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself by Monica Omorodion Swaida, is a memoir that details the author's life and success story. The book starts by introducing us to the author's family. This part of the book helped me relate to the author and helped me understand how her core values were developed. One outstanding thing about Monica is that she is a goal-getter. As I read her memoir, I was greatly inspired. I love her way of thinking. She never carried the victim mentality or the limiting mentality that some people are classified as a minority. Monica is African, Nigerian, to be precise. She is the third of nine children. Her father was a forensic investigator, and her mother was a shop owner. In this memoir, Monica details how her childhood and relationship with her family helped shape who she is now. She detailed how the distinctive personalities of her siblings taught her life lessons that she still applies. Moving further into the book, we are carried along on the author's journey as she meets new people and mindsets and makes her own choices. Each chapter is dedicated to every stage in her life. This is a worthwhile book that has helped me see things from a different point of view.

I could significantly relate to various aspects of this book as someone from Africa. The author did not mince words when mentioning hard truths. In this book, the readers are exposed to how deeply our division has eaten into the growth of our nations. We are divided by color, race, class, wealth, etc. The author has used her book to show how this has produced no benefits but has become the root cause of many socio-economic problems we face today. The author has analyzed many issues, such as a scheme developed where the government controls people's lives. An instance was when she mentioned a person she knows who was asked to cut down her work hours so she would qualify for handouts. It may sound like it makes life easier for the person, but is it? I share in the author's question, "Why should anyone be encouraged to rely on such assistance?" This book is really packed with a lot of helpful growth tips. The book also contains gems on investing, standing out, being the best version of yourself, not relenting, and facing life's challenges head-on.

There are many things to be learned from this book, and I am glad I read it. The book was edited finely, as I only found one error. I do not have any negatives about this book, as it is something I will read again because of the eye-opening knowledge it holds. This book deserves nothing less than a perfect five out of five-star rating, and I happily award it that. I recommend this book to anyone looking for a motivational self-help book. If you need a little push in life, read this book. If you want to stand above the status quo, read this book. There is so much knowledge in it for everyone.

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I really like to read stories about how someone, anyone, make something of themselves. Monica seems to know that no one can make it alone and while government programs are beneficial they should not be relied on as a person’s sole means of support. Thanks!
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When I first read the title for this book I thought it'd be about a relationship with a narcissist. Surprise surprise when I find that while it is a memoir it's a completely different subject than I expected. Lol The author shares a lot about her life throughout this novel based on the review. I have to say though this book doesn't pique my interest so it won't be one I pick up.
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Today's BOTD is an inspiring memoir of a woman on her journey from immigrant to entrepreneur & advocate. Filled w/life lessons & personal stories of determination & resilience, readers who love books about overcoming obstacles, hard work, & success should pick this one up today! Thanks for the awesome review! :-)
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Post by Lauren Stjohn »

:tiphat: I find the opportunity to read and review this memoir intriguing as I spent some time interacting with the government in Nigeria. The review details a wonderful sequence and will enjoy jumping into this aspect.
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Your survey of They Love You Until You Begin Thinking for Yourself by Monica Omorodion Swaida is keen and point by point. I value how you featured the creator's versatility and refusal to take on a casualty mindset, as well as the effect of her childhood on her perspective. Your notice of how she uncovered cultural divisions — by race, class, and government control shows that this book goes past being a journal; it likewise offers profound social and financial examination. The model you gave about the individual urged to work less to fit the bill for help truly stresses the book's intriguing nature. I additionally like that you called attention to the pragmatic development tips and venture guidance remembered for the book. Your energy is clear, and your five-star rating appears to be all around procured. Gratitude for sharing such an intensive and connecting with survey!
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It is good to see that such a book, written by an author who is a goal-getter, has so much in store for everyone. The title is definitely captivating, and hence I am glad that the content is also topnotch.
Many thanks for this amazing, informative review, @Ukaegbu Confidence.
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This review highlights the inspirational and thought-provoking nature of "They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself" by Monica Omorodion Swaida. It effectively conveys the book’s powerful messages on self-growth, societal divisions, and perseverance. With strong personal insights and appreciation for the author’s honesty, it’s a compelling endorsement.
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"They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself" by Monica Omorodion Swaida., a book about sucess and the author's journey in life. It be interesting to read this book of inspiration and learn about the author's experiences. An interesting book to read.
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They love you until you start thinking for yourself by Monica Omorodian Swad, a poignant and contemplating exploration of the complexities of the challenges of navigating personal development, relationships and social expectations. Swadd is clearly focusing on how people often struggle with the pressure of analogity to balance their authenticity, especially in front of adversity.

The book delays the subjects of self-consciousness and empowerment, urges readers to embrace their personality, when it challenges the norms around them. Swad's writing style is accessible and reliable, making it easier to connect the book, especially for those who have faced criticism or isolation for different thinking. Shared stories and insight are hypnotic and thoughtful, the way we allow others to influence the feeling of self-value, encourage introspection on it. :D
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Congrats on BOTD.
An empowering autobiography of a woman's transformation from immigrant to advocate and owner. Readers who enjoy novels about perseverance, hard effort, and accomplishment should choose this one since it is full of life lessons and anecdotes of success and perseverance.
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This is a refreshingly sincere book, full of an uplifting and optimistic tone. The reviewer has got the nail on the head with the books ambience. What a woman!
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Having read the free review version of They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself, I found it both inspiring and practical. The narrative explores how anyone can overcome obstacles by relying on hard work, determination, and community, rather than solely on government support. Monica uses personal stories to show that building something meaningful requires teamwork and resilience, which is totally true from my experience. I appreciate the focus on cultural divisions and realistic advice on entrepreneurship. Though it feels like just an introduction to the full story, You immediately relate to it and it leaves you eager for more insights.
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"They Love You Until You Start Thinking for Yourself" by Monica Omorodion Swaida is an inspiring memoir about resilience, independence, and breaking societal limitations. A powerful read on personal growth, success, and questioning the status quo. Congratulations on being BOTD!
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This sounds like an interesting memoir. Majority only love you when you dance to their tune, but the moment you start thinking for yourself and make firm decisions, then people start seeing you differently. I presume this is one of the ideas echoed in this book. The racial prejudice, class distinction at work places and other biasness observed in society today has indeed caused lots of trouble for many today, just like the author highlighted. I find this book worth reading. It contains gems that can help us view matters in a different angle from what the society deems 'right'.
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