3 out of 4 stars
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Dr. Kerby T. Alvy is the founder of the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring. His Parenting Errors: How to Solve Them presents parents with a variety of parenting programs as they search for answers in becoming better parents. Alvy’s main goals are to help parents solve and correct their parenting errors, as well as helping them become more effective parents. Often, parents do not realize that they are making errors, so Alvy helps them to recognize such errors.
Parenting Errors includes a detailed overview of the types of errors parents make. Errors of commission and omission are discussed. The types of care parents need to provide children are explained in detail, from the obvious ones, like providing food, to the not so obvious ones, like protecting them from social harm. Alvy introduces many concepts, giving parents detailed information about why they should want to fix their errors. He shares information about positive parenting and the authoritative style of parenting. The distinct types of parenting programs that effectively address effective parenting are discussed. Several parenting programs are described in detail, including ones that most parents are familiar with (STEP- Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) and some less well-known programs (Total Transformation Program).
The book’s format includes a detailed “Table of Contents,” which allows parents to easily access information when they want to refresh their memory about a specific tool or program. I found this very helpful, as I would read a detail and want to go back to compare it to a program discussed earlier in the book. I liked that the explanations were in a vernacular that most people can understand. Links are provided to the various websites connected with the programs, which allows parents to have immediate access rather than taking the “I’ll look for that later” attitude.
A major issue that I had was that part of what Alvy calls psychological caring includes “orienting them to appropriate gender functioning.” I was so shocked to see this phrase, without any explanation. One can only infer, with the use of the word “appropriate,” that the author was indicating that children who say that they are a different gender than what is expected traditionally are “wrong” and need help from their parents to be properly oriented.
A minor issue that I found with the book was the lack of a chart or spreadsheet listing the various programs. I found myself wanting to compare the programs side-by-side. I wanted to know what was the same and what was different in the various programs. I also wanted to see the pros and cons of each, as I think that would parents in their decision making, in chart format.
I rate this book 3 out of 4 stars. The book is well-formatted and easy to follow. The grammar errors were minimal (3 errors in the book), so were not distracting. Parents that are seeking fresh solutions to parenting will find Parenting Errors useful.
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