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Post by Quinto » 23 Dec 2017, 08:16

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "Sharing My Shoes A Walk through the Journey of Forgiveness" by Tammy Gaffney.]
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4 out of 4 stars
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Sharing My Shoes A Walk through the Journey of Forgiveness by Tammy Gaffney is enlightening. It's a divinely inspired book that I can easily say encompasses her life's mission. Not only because it took her an incredible thirty-five years' to accomplish, but more importantly, she is a living testament to what forgiveness can do to a person, a family and ultimately to a society. Some of the personal revelations that the book spoke to me about is that "unforgiveness is Idolatry". Unbelievable as it is, it was profound enough for me to put this whole subject of unforgiveness into an even higher perspective than I did before picking up the book to read.

Putting matters into context, and having read the whole book, I know right now I could use the practical knowledge contained herein. We are social beings and inevitably, we wrong others or we are wronged and life becomes mutually painful for everyone. That's when we need an inspirational guide to put matters right. The author, Tammy, lays the foundation for introducing this subject by way of giving one out of her many personal life experiences that are uniquely characteristic of this book. Here, she cites a desperate call that she received one day from her niece, Karla. Because she was crying, Tammy could barely make out the words Karla was saying. But eventually, she is able to get the shocking news of the demise of her sister, Willow, and who is also Karla's mother. Because of Willow's drug addiction, their mother had to raise Karla. Karla on her part, because of the pain in her heart, hated her mother, Willow; thinking throughout her mother didn't love her. Willow, on the other hand, carried a pain of her own that she tried to mask with drugs. This is a typical example of the mutual pain in my home, and I am sure in every other home across the globe. And the big questions are, where does the healing begin to eventually cause the bearer of the pain to forgive? Or worse, what if the person who causes the pain doesn't apologise, or as is commonly the case, just moves on with their life like nothing happened?

Tammy's book spells out that at the heart of unforgiveness is pain. In fact, pain is what blocks or hardens the heart from wanting to forgive. It leads to anger which ultimately leads to unforgiveness. So in a nutshell, one can't begin to walk the path of forgiveness or deliverance until they can honestly confess their pain. As a matter of fact, Tammy reveals that unresolved pain is the barrier to people being able to receive the teaching about forgiveness. Forgiveness here meaning freedom from pain and which translates to being able to live in the present sustained by mutual love. It means not being defined by the fruits of unforgiveness: feelings of fear, pain, hurt, or low self-esteem.

What is good with this book is that it takes the reader through the trial and error experiences that the author had to go through before perfecting the art and her ministry of forgiveness. She owns up by saying "I was surprised that I didn't see as many breakthroughs in people's lives as I had hoped for. I knew God's word would deliver them from their past, but I had to find a way to convince them that forgiveness was the way." It was really heartfelt reading at the beginning of her journey towards discovering this right method. First, using a traditional or pulpit approach that hindered people to eventually a more effective divinely inspired approach to teaching forgiveness. She beautifully and humbly summarises this experience by saying she "thought God took me into the classroom as the teacher, but I became the student." In my mind's eye, I saw her like Ezekiel in the Scriptures who at the beginning of his mission, had to endure the pain of a hot piece of coal on his lips!

The author uses an expository style which explains beautifully, with examples, on the subject of forgiveness. Her tone is emotional and persuasive which is in line with someone who has gone through the process of pain and endured its effects, like anger, and ultimately is now reaping the fruits. Her writing is like a conversation she is having with a close friend and hence it's casual. I found this effective because it didn't sound like someone preaching to me, or a teacher who has all the theoretical knowledge but is missing the experiences. But rather, like a friend who is empathetic and sharing with another. I liked how Tammy brought out her personal experiences with her family members: her former husband, mother, father, sister, husband, stepfather and even, the Almighty God - where she tackles skillfully the classical problem of where God was throughout her pain. I liked her use of the term "wilderness" to describe that period of her life when she underwent pain and had a battered heart. Because wilderness, in my knowledge, denotes that period prior to the breakthrough.

The book seems to be professionally edited. I only came across two typos. It is a wholesome book to be read by the whole family, as unforgiveness affects everyone either as the aggrieved party or the aggressor. And if not affecting now sometime in the past. It's the author's desire for her readers to get help by confessing pain, its effects and give it to God. In conclusion, I think the book couldn't have come at a better time than this time when we are about to end the year. It contains a powerful message to new beginnings without pain in the new year. Beginnings to live now and not in the past. I can't recommend the book enough. I rate it 4 out of 4 stars.

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Post by Sahani Nimandra » 28 Dec 2017, 00:31

There are two words that I consider the "most important" for the past 22 years of my life, that is "Sorry" and "Thank you". These words may seem small but they always can do wonders! Forgiveness is something we all need for a heart to heal. In a world fill of hatred and anger, it always yields to love and forgiveness but it depends if the people wish to forgive and move on in life. Life is impermanent! I sympathise people who are trapped within to think it is not so, they are lost that is the truth. In my opinion no matter how deep the pain is I rather forgive and move on because, I wish to live rather than be buried by hatred.
This review borough in memories and reminded me of who I am, I am truly grateful!
And I thank the author for writing a book in a such a important topic and reminding people of how important forgiveness is. Thank you for your excellent review!
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Post by Quinto » 28 Dec 2017, 05:01

Sahani Nimandra wrote:
28 Dec 2017, 00:31
There are two words that I consider the "most important" for the past 22 years of my life, that is "Sorry" and "Thank you". These words may seem small but they always can do wonders! Forgiveness is something we all need for a heart to heal. In a world fill of hatred and anger, it always yields to love and forgiveness but it depends if the people wish to forgive and move on in life. Life is impermanent! I sympathise people who are trapped within to think it is not so, they are lost that is the truth. In my opinion no matter how deep the pain is I rather forgive and move on because, I wish to live rather than be buried by hatred.
This review borough in memories and reminded me of who I am, I am truly grateful!
And I thank the author for writing a book in a such an important topic and reminding people of how important forgiveness is. Thank you for your excellent review!
You are so on point Sahani! We can choose to be on the civil side, and utter such words that make life so easy and unburdensome or choose the other side. We are obviously created to be nice to each other and live in harmony. I thank the author for reminding as this. Thanks to you too for your kind comments on the review.

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Post by BookHausJ » 28 Dec 2017, 06:56

I like this book. Base on this reviews the author uses her style and explains beautifully, with examples, on the subject of forgiveness. Our world is full of very serious negative attitude. Hatred and anger are part of everyday challenge. And to forgive a person for being offensive needs full of love in our heart. And only grace of God a person should possess to do that. Thanks for sharing your thought!

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Post by kandscreeley » 28 Dec 2017, 08:33

Forgiveness is definitely an important part of healing, but it's not always easy to do. It sounds like the author uses her experiences well to help others to find forgiveness in their lives. Great story. Thanks for introducing it to us.
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Post by Whitney Marchelle » 28 Dec 2017, 14:26

Great review. Forgiveness is such a hard thing to do, and so freeing when you do it. This seems like a great book to gain some perspective

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Post by ReyvrexQuestor Reyes » 30 Dec 2017, 10:22

This book is one for the enlightened soul, for the forgiving soul. It takes great effort and benign thoughts to forgive. It seems much easier to invoke one's right to the redress of grievances, cry for justice than to let go and forget. Thanks for your informative review.
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Post by Katungu » 31 Dec 2017, 10:22

Unforgiveness as idolatry. I never thought of it like that. Sounds like a book worth reading. Great review.

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Post by CommMayo » 12 Feb 2018, 10:09

Sounds like you really enjoyed this book...it is clear based on your great review of it. I'm not religious, so I don't think this book is for me, but I enjoy the main message of forgiveness.

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Post by Kalin Adi » 16 Feb 2018, 10:52

I agree with the author with the fact that when a person does not forgive, that person hurts himself experiencing anger, hatred, envy, and pain. Now, forgive and be forgiven is possible, but it takes time sometimes. It's a bittersweet experience that we'll all pass at one point in our lives. Thanks for sharing your insights!

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