Official Review: Role Reversal by Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW

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Official Review: Role Reversal by Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW

Post by kimmyschemy06 » 03 Jul 2017, 02:28

[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "Role Reversal" by Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW.]
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4 out of 4 stars
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Role Reversal: How to Take Care of Yourself and Your Aging Parents is a very informative and helpful book about caregiving written by Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW.

The book is a cornucopia of information, tips and advice based on the author’s forty years of professional expertise and personal experience caring for her father. It is divided into two parts. The first part tells about the author’s father: his relationship with his parents and siblings, his military life, his work values, his wife and children and his final years. His life story is told alternately with information as well as personal advice from the author which are based on her experiences both as a medical social worker and as a daughter who watched her father advance in age. The second part is a set of valuable information and tips on important matters like hospital and insurance bills, nursing homes, estate planning, legal documents, funeral arrangements and more.

This is a well written, well-researched and well-referenced book not only for professional caregivers but also, and probably more importantly, for adult children of elderly parents who are presently or may (in the future) be caring personally for their senior loved ones. The author emphasizes how important it is, to them as well as to us, to listen to our parents as they tell us the story of their lives. The author also shares her family’s experience as they dealt with her mother’s debilitating illness, the pain they all went through as they watched their loved one deteriorate from the warm, caring and loving mother to the unrecognizable person she became.

Besides the management of hospital bills and insurance, the author brings up a very important but sensitive topic that, probably, all adult children find difficult to talk about, the death, and ultimately, the funeral arrangement of a deceased parent. Equally important are some issues that might arise after the passing of an elderly loved one like estate planning and dividing possessions.

As a daughter of an elderly parent, I find this book very relatable and I felt lucky to have chosen this book to review. It is informative and helpful, easy to read and understand, but most importantly, the tone conveys the author’s deep understanding of what adult children are going through. What I like most about the book, however, is the emphasis on parent-child relationship. How to deal with ailing elderly, how to find the right caregiver and how to decide on a nursing home depends on how much or how little we know our parents and how close we are to them. The title itself ‘Role Reversal’ signifies the bond between the parent and the child, that at some point in their lives it is the child who will do the caring for her parent the way her parent cared for her when she was a child.

I, therefore, rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. It is helpful, informative, well-written and well-researched and I recommend it to everyone who cares about his or her parent.

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Post by raikyuu » 14 Jul 2017, 18:40

This is really relatable, and the topic isn't usually talked about. Seems like a practical kind of book. Thank you for the review.
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Post by kandscreeley » 14 Jul 2017, 19:29

It definitely looks like there's a lot of important information in this book. A lot of us have parents getting older and need this information. Thanks for the review.
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Post by kimmyschemy06 » 14 Jul 2017, 21:58

raikyuu wrote:This is really relatable, and the topic isn't usually talked about. Seems like a practical kind of book. Thank you for the review.
Really relatable since most of us have aging or aged parents :)

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kandscreeley wrote:It definitely looks like there's a lot of important information in this book. A lot of us have parents getting older and need this information. Thanks for the review.
Very helpful and informative especially for those who have aged parents :)

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Post by JOELEKURI » 15 Jul 2017, 09:59

true as the reviewer says, it really is an informative book. the details are not merely as intended for storytelling alone but the reality of life.

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Post by Dennesejuleen » 15 Jul 2017, 20:11

This book is great I'm glad I took the time to review it, I had the experience when I lost my brother in 2012.

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Post by LivreAmour217 » 16 Jul 2017, 12:29

Nice review. This book definitely sounds helpful. As much as I hate to think about it, it's very likely that I may be taking care of an elderly parent or in-law someday, so it's good to know that there are resources out there like this book.
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Post by Quirinius » 16 Jul 2017, 13:13

Fantastic review. Am educated to start reading the book.

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Post by kimmyschemy06 » 18 Jul 2017, 03:49

JOELEKURI wrote:true as the reviewer says, it really is an informative book. the details are not merely as intended for storytelling alone but the reality of life.
So true. Most of us will go through this and this is one very helpful book when that time comes.

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Dennesejuleen wrote:This book is great I'm glad I took the time to review it, I had the experience when I lost my brother in 2012.
It, sure, is great. Sorry about your brother and thanks for the comment.

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LivreAmour217 wrote:Nice review. This book definitely sounds helpful. As much as I hate to think about it, it's very likely that I may be taking care of an elderly parent or in-law someday, so it's good to know that there are resources out there like this book.
Thank you. It really is helpful since most of us will surely be taking care of our elderly someday.

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Quirinius wrote:Fantastic review. Am educated to start reading the book.
Thank you very much. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Post by gali » 02 Sep 2017, 07:10

Sounds like a great guide for caretakers and adult children of elderly parents. The combination of personal experience and professional advice makes for a better reading experience. Thank you for the review!
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Post by gc3 » 02 Sep 2017, 07:11

The author emphasizes how important it is, to them as well as to us, to listen to our parents as they tell us the story of their lives.
I completely agree. Even though most of the time they will be telling the story over and over again, we should not be annoyed. Instead we should think of it as a privilege since others don't even have the chance to hear a single story from their parents.

Very interesting book. Thanks for your informative review.

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Post by Rajanis » 02 Sep 2017, 09:07

Thanks for the review.
It's beautiful how the author has interwoven her personal experiences into a story. This story is for all of us. When the time comes, we should be compassionate and understanding to the needs of our parents. They have done their best in raising us and now it's our turn to make sure their life is comfortable.

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Post by Gbemisola » 02 Sep 2017, 10:25

I really appreciate the author for writing a book such as this. I believe some situations do not have to be so difficult to face when you already know what to expect. This book helps us mentally prepare for an unavoidable eventuality. Thanks for the great review!

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Post by Strangerthanfiction » 02 Sep 2017, 12:42

Great review! Having been in this very situation until my own mother passed three years ago, I can appreciate how helpful and informative this book is to children of elderly parents. I can also appreciate how the author shares her own personal experiences, having watched my own mother deteriorate into her own dementia I know how difficult it is to share. Congrats to the author on a wonderful review. Thanks so much for sharing.

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Post by boringyanks » 02 Sep 2017, 13:16

Iris Waichler delicately describes the nature of life struggle as we get older.

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