4 out of 4 stars
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I Love You All the Numbers: A Carer's Story by Eschani Taylor is a memoir about the author's experiences while caring for her sick husband. It is also a self-help book that seeks to prepare, inspire, and teach readers how to cope with caring for their sick loved ones.
In this book, the author recounts how she cared for her husband, Geoffrey, after he was diagnosed with dementia and heart disease. Geoffrey's condition continued to deteriorate, and he needed constant care and supervision. His dementia didn't make the author's job of caring for him any easier because Geoffrey was no longer as logical and loving as he used to be. In fact, logic was out of the window because Geoffrey seemed to be oblivious to the fact that he was making it hard for his wife to care for him. The author's story will equip readers with first-hand information on what to expect and how to cope with the exhilarating job of caring for loved ones with dementia.
The author uses the first-person point of view to tell her story throughout the book. I found that this style was necessary because it helped the author to pour out her innermost thoughts. What I liked the most about this memoir is the author's honesty. I love that she didn't try to make herself come out as strong or calm and compassionate all through. Considering she teaches others how to achieve their goals and more, one would expect her to present herself as always being on top of the situation. That is not the case here. There were times I was close to judging some of her actions, but I remembered how difficult it was to care for my late dad, whom we had nursed for eight nerve-wracking years.
I enjoyed the author's use of simple and easy-to-understand language to tell her story. Her narrations follow a linear timeline of events, which makes her story very easy to follow. I appreciate that she also tried to sprinkle some humor in her writing to lighten the reader's mood since the memoir is not one that promotes joy. Also, I like that the author kept the introduction of new names to the barest minimum because I didn't get confused about who was who at any point.
Furthermore, I appreciate the author's move to share this story. Her memoir is both relevant and insightful. I am sure many people will benefit from the "Insights" sections found in the book. In these parts, the author offers invaluable advice on ways to deal with similar events in her narrations. My favorite "Insight" is the one about taking the time to ask ourselves questions and being genuine with our answers. I found this exercise to not only clear up misplaced priorities but also foster self-empowerment.
To conclude, I thoroughly benefited from this book's sincere and relatable insights. I like that the book promotes seeking professional help for the psychological issues that may arise from caring for someone with dementia and other illnesses. Also, I must commend the author for showing why readers in a similar situation should take support groups seriously. Since there was nothing I disliked about this memoir, I am glad to rate it four out of four stars. It seems professionally edited but has a few errors that were not distracting. I highly recommend this book to readers caring for their loved ones suffering from dementia and other illnesses that affect their ability to be responsible for their well-being.
I Love You All the Numbers
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