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Official Review: The Son I Knew Too Late by Sally Raymond

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[Following is an official OnlineBookClub.org review of "The Son I Knew Too Late" by Sally Raymond.]
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4 out of 4 stars
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Are you leading a fulfilling life? Do you feel like you have unfulfilled emotional issues from the past? As parents, is it possible to guide our children to avoid emotional and psychological pitfalls? Sally A. Raymond invites readers to learn about our emotional and psychological development based on Dr. Erik Erikson’s Eight Stages of Human Development. Her motivation for writing this non-fiction book, The Son I Knew Too Late, was the troubled life of her firstborn, Jon.

According to Erikson, every person passes through the same development stages with a predictable “sequence of emotional challenges.” Our ability to confront and resolve the emotional crisis posed by each stage determines our ability to mature healthily. Any unresolved issues of a previous stage leave us vulnerable to problems in the future.

Jon witnessed domestic abuse when he was only two years old. When he was four, he was sexually molested. When his parents divorced, he believed he was a “too bad boy,” who caused his father to leave. How would these crises affect Jon emotionally and psychologically? How would they affect his future?

I enjoyed the book’s format a great deal. The author opened each chapter with an overview of Jon and what she remembered about him at each stage. She gave honest descriptions of how she and others responded to Jon’s development and crises. After explaining what to expect at each stage of growth, she explained Dr. Erikson's description of the stage. This was followed by practical suggestions of activities and questions to apply either to yourself or your child. The author reflected on how she could have handled Jon’s circumstances. Her honesty about how she believed she had succeeded or failed with her son astounded me. I think her honesty is what makes this book so compelling. She carried each concept from theory to reality by sharing her family history.

Parents begin the process of raising their progeny with high hopes. It doesn’t take long for the question to arise, “What do I do?” Sally Raymond’s book will guide parents through these moments of uncertainty. Adults can also benefit from acquainting themselves with Erikson’s stages for emotional health. “When we use Erikson’s chart to look back on our lives, it gives us the keys to begin to heal our past and reshape our future.” (p. 12)

Sally included a helpful list of organizations to contact should the reader detect disturbing characteristics in a friend or loved one. These professionals specialize in the areas of depression, shoplifting, runaways, suicide, bullying, among others. There is also a list of suggested books for different age groups.

I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. I couldn’t find anything to dislike about this book. The author’s candid interpretation of each stage, the relatable illustrations from her family life, and the relatively few errors I found made this a pleasant and educative read. Parents, educators, and counselors would benefit from this book to help children achieve emotional and psychological success at each stage. Adults, in general, could use knowledge of the eight stages to heal past wounds and live a fulfilling and satisfying life.

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Sounds like a great and very enlightening read for a large audience. I would definitely give it a try! :) Thanks for a great review!
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Very tough childhood for Jon. Thank you for the introduction!
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Through your review,the books sounds interesting and enlightening !poor Jon🤒. I recommend it to others . Thanks
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Thank you for the review. It definitely sounds like an emotional book that i would read.
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I like your writing style more than some of the other reviews I'm reading through. The engagement and enthusiasm in your review makes me feel like i'm more likely to read a book you recommend than not.
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This sounds like a much-needed book. I am a firm believer that parents can spare most of their kids' troubles and traumas when they truly pay attention. Great review!
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What a rough childhood Jon had. I hope to read this book and learn more about Dr. Erikson's chart. Thanks for your review.
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JessiAnne26 wrote: 14 Sep 2020, 16:38 I like your writing style more than some of the other reviews I'm reading through. The engagement and enthusiasm in your review makes me feel like i'm more likely to read a book you recommend than not.
Lovely comment!
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Sounds like this book can shed much-needed light on parenting skills. Thanks for the review.
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Sounds like an interesting book for parents. Thank you for the informative review.
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Oh man! Poor guy Jon. Its unfair when parents can be so sh*t, especially when they are responsible for bringing you to this world in the first place. Thanks for an insightful review!
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Ellylion wrote: 14 Sep 2020, 08:45 Sounds like a great and very enlightening read for a large audience. I would definitely give it a try! :) Thanks for a great review!
This book has so much information. It is useful for helping others and for reflecting on one's emotional journey. I hope you like it! Thanks for your encouraging comments.
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Ada Ling wrote: 14 Sep 2020, 10:20 Very tough childhood for Jon. Thank you for the introduction!
It was quite instructive to read about what happened, how the mother handled the situation, how she wished she would have handled it, and what was the final outcome. I hope you have an opportunity to read all of Jon's story. Thanks for reading and commenting!
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Daisy Cheruto wrote: 14 Sep 2020, 11:27 Through your review,the books sounds interesting and enlightening !poor Jon🤒. I recommend it to others . Thanks
I am so happy that you enjoyed the review. I hope you will read the book, too! Thank you for the and encouraging words. :-)
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