4 out of 4 stars
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"I am a bird in a gilded cage, and the key has been lost." Those were the harrowing words that summed up Pamela's life amid her turbulent marriage to an alcoholic. Full Circle: A Memoir is an emotionally-charged memoir penned by Pamela Lombana that tugged at my heartstrings. Pamela unabashedly pours her heart out as she recounts the fear and anguish she and her children endured at the hands of her ex-husband, Fernando, and the toll it took on each of them.
Despite the continued strife and the plight of being married to an angry alcoholic, Pamela emphasized the importance of celebrating the happy times, even though they were few and far between. But no amount of positivity could uphold a marriage plagued by addiction. Eventually, she hit rock bottom, and she finally found the courage to leave with the kids. Leaving everything that she had known, she would face additional challenges as a newly single mother.
There were many things that I loved about this book, but my favorite was witnessing the evolution of Pamela's character through her candid writing. The cycle of abuse can wear a person down and leave them feeling depleted. Over the years, Fernando's controlling and belittling behavior wreaked havoc on Pamela's confidence. While she was once an outgoing woman with hopes and dreams, being married to Fernando stripped her of her identity and left her feeling like a shell of the woman she once was. She could have easily plummeted into a dark depression, and let fear immobilize her. Still, she was able to climb out of her proverbial rut and be the mother that her children needed. I think it showed immense strength on her part to start over with nothing but the clothes on their backs and some grocery money she had squirreled away.
Another thing that inspired me was Pamela's drive to succeed despite her dire situation. Often finding herself jobless and out of money, she remained steadfast in her belief that her hard work would pay off. Eventually, she would be able to enjoy the fruits of her labor. She was a devoted mother to her children and emphasized the importance of gratitude. No matter what their days brought them, they would all recount something positive about their day at dinner time. While the kids often went without, it never felt like it because Pamela fostered a feeling positivity. One of their favorite family sayings was, "I love my life!" Through positive affirmations and faith, the family thrived. The kids saw her fall down, but she always got back up.
Pamela's writing exceeded my expectations; not only did she write eloquently, but the book was free of errors, which was the cherry on top. Full Circle: A Memoir was professionally edited, and I am delighted to give it a rating of four out of four stars.
Full Circle: A Memoir is the kind of book that makes you feel as if you can rise up and overcome anything you set your mind to. If life has got you down and you're stuck in the dark, this book is your beacon of light! Pamela's story would be an excellent resource for anyone in an abusive marriage or a family member struggling with an addiction. Due to offensive language and some unsettling scenes, I would not recommend the book to young readers.
Full Circle: A Memoir
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