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I honestly believe this to be true and this has happened to me personally. Nobody (no matter how close they are or their very good intentions) can help you unless you decide to help yourself.AntonelaMaria wrote: ↑01 Sep 2020, 11:27 There is one quote from Lena that kind of stuck with me.
"There's no way you can stop people from making mistakes no matter how much you want to. I couldn't stop myself. I don't know why I thought I could stop anybody else. I guess because I did learn one big thing. I learned that if you get help, you can help yourself."
It seems really inspiring but also true. How many times we know were are making a mistake and we do it anyway or know someone in our family is doing it but we can stop it? How many times we are trying to tought it out and not reach out for help thinking is the sign of weakness? In the end, when she allowed her friend and her mother to be there for her and help her she stopped hiding behind the bottle. She survived so much and then she is able to see that Maureen is making a mistakes and having a hard time. So she is there for her and Kalayla. She really is an amazing friend. Without the judgement and preachiness.
What are your thoughts?
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I couldn't agree more Mr Friday. If one doesn't open their doors, how can someone enter to help? After Maureen agrees and becomes receptive towards Lena, that's when their bond is forged.Wesley Friday wrote: ↑06 Sep 2020, 20:56 I think getting help from others starts from the point of making one's self vulnerable in the presence of the potential helper. Though we are social beings, if making friends as adults is much harder than in our childhood, how much do you think opening up about one's deepest flaws to someone you barely know as an adult will be. These women in the novel essentially lacked the emotional support a close relation could offer. Thus stepping out of their comfort zones to interact with persons who weren't professionals was probably much harder. But just like Lena said, in the end, they got help to help themselves by looking around themselves.
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Very true! And often the best person to help someone else is some one who has survived something similar. We also find it easier to accept help from someone who has survived because we know that they will most likely not judge, or take advantage. I think this is what draws Lena and Maureen to each other. Lena is a wonderful woman because she doesn't keep her experience to herself but instead uses it to help others.
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I agree, sometimes you might be willing to help someone but until they accept your help, it will be really difficult.Berry_ wrote: ↑06 Mar 2022, 09:07 I think that was a great quote especially because it was relevant to what Maureen has been through and how she was looking out for Kalayla. However I cant help but wonder how helping a person is not as easy as it seems especially when they are not willing to help themselves. That was definitely a quote to take away.
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