3 out of 4 stars
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You. The Real State of Life by Austin Bergman is a candid memoir detailing the author’s struggles with coming out as a gay man. Bergman and his wife owned a successful real estate agency. They enjoyed an affluent lifestyle as the result of their hard work and dedication to the business. They had two daughters and a beautiful home. To friends and family, Bergman appeared to be the epitome of the American Dream. However, he was never happy. Although he had everything most people dream about, he knew he was living a lie.
Bergman’s life came crashing down around him when his wife served him with divorce papers. He had to examine his life and decide who he really was, and what he really wanted out of life. He decided to tell his close friends and family that he was gay. He knew it would be difficult; however, he decided that he needed to become his authentic self. He decided to move to a new state and start over. He used the skills he developed in real estate to create a new career in Florida. Once he stopped lying about who he really was, he began living the life he wanted. Eventually, this resulted in a healthier and happier life. He provides advice and guidance to people struggling to find their true selves.
I enjoyed reading this book. When he discussed his hardships and struggles, he was very open and honest with readers. He described his marriage and the conflicts he had with his wife. Readers struggling with an unhappy marriage can relate to his story. Although the focus is on his life as a gay man, he provides advice to readers struggling with determining who they are, and what they want to accomplish in life. People tend to follow societal norms and let society dictate the normal way to live. However, every person is unique and needs to find their own path. I think this is an important message for readers, regardless of what issues they may be struggling with in their lives.
I liked the author’s brutal honesty when describing his life and struggles. That is what I liked most about the book. He acknowledges that he was in a doomed marriage from the start; however, his marriage provided him with his children. He is a proud father and loves his children very much. Readers can relate to his honesty and advice. However, there are more than ten errors in this book. That is what I liked least about it. There were grammatical and formatting errors that were distracting at times. The book would benefit from professional editing.
I recommend this book to readers struggling with finding their true selves. The author provided a wealth of advice based on his experiences. Bergman was able to restart his life and career as a gay man and become happy and successful. For readers struggling with their sexuality, this book can provide helpful advice. I give this book a rating of 3 out of 4 stars. I didn’t rate it lower because I admire the author’s courage in telling his story honestly and openly. The advice he provides to readers shows a genuine interest in helping people who are struggling. Since there were over ten errors in the book, I could not give it a higher rating.
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