Who is qualified to give advice like this?

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Re: Who is qualified to give advice like this?

Post by daydreaming reader » 11 Nov 2018, 17:40

I don't think the authors of self help books necessarily lead perfect lives, but when writing a self help book, I don't know how much that matters. A lot of the information presented in the self helps books I have read are quite similar and can be found through research (research can also refute the author's claims or present a different perspective). The difference, however, tends to be when the authors use aspects of their own lives to make the information really matter. Of course, some writers simply have great imagination and may not be genuine. Some authors also write with the intention of sounding obnoxious because this is how they get the audience's attention. Personally, I question the relevance of the content before giving it weight. Since most of the information presented has been topics of research, there is the great possibility that the author is simply presenting what worked for him/ his stance and not necessarily an ultimatum.
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Post by Surakshita-11 » 12 Nov 2018, 01:25

I think your question is absolutely correct and I personally feel no one has got right to give advice on how one's life should be moulded. Every person has its own situation to deal with.

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Post by ViziVoir » 12 Nov 2018, 19:27

Honestly, I feel like everyone is technically qualified to write a book like this. Aren't we all humans who've lived our lives, and don't we have at least some idea of what's worked for us in the past? The thing that irks me about this book is how the author seems to believe his opinions are automatically correct just because they've held true for him in the past. If this book was presented as a guide, rather than an ultimatum, I might be more receptive to it.

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Post by Radiant3 » 13 Nov 2018, 11:31

I think anyone with the right skill set, tools, background knowledge, personal experience, and academic qualifications can write a self-help book. But its really up to the reader to gain something valuable from information presented in any self-help book.

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Post by piecesfallapart » 13 Nov 2018, 13:29

I do not think is about thinking your life or choices are better than others, so the advice you are giving is the best. On the contrary, I think is about life experience. If I start a business, but fail because of the poor decisions I made, I want to help others succeed, so I'm going to tell my story. The same happens if I made it out of a bad relationship, overcoming a substance abuse, changing careers, everything.
I think anyone is qualified to give advice, as long as they do it because they want to help. There are, of course, professionals that spend their life giving advice, and finding the way to give advice, but I'm for sure, not going to approach them, while a book, that is possible I will read it.

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Post by Sunday diamond » 13 Nov 2018, 16:21

Yes, its normal to be confident in dispensing advice to others; though no one is perfect, and life is full of challenges on the different levels. So, someone that has passed one challenge and succeed or he's not washed off by that challenge, will surely develop more confident and as such to give advice.

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Post by David Koreas » 13 Nov 2018, 21:16

There are those who get life fulfilment from advising and motivating others. They invest a lot of capital and time to understand the human behaviours and character. These persons are best placed to advise others.

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Post by David Koreas » 13 Nov 2018, 21:16

There are those who get life fulfilment from advising and motivating others. They invest a lot of capital and time to understand the human behaviours and character. These persons are best placed to advise others.

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Post by abbiejoice » 14 Nov 2018, 01:16

Giving an advice doesn't necessarily mean one feels he or he is already better. Sometimes, we just learn an important lesson that we want to share to others so they don't have to make the same mistakes we did or so that they can find a better way.

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Post by TJanowski23 » 14 Nov 2018, 07:47

I have been wondering about this topic myself. If it was me writing this book I personally would want the credentials to back up my personal testimony. If I truly wanted to help people I would put in the time to get the education to make me more credible. Otherwise, the book seems more like a memoir that someone may learn a thing or two from.

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Post by Ever_Reading » 14 Nov 2018, 09:26

cpru68 wrote:
04 Nov 2018, 15:51
I look at this this way: if I find a good deal on a pair of shoes on sale, would I not tell my friends or family especially if I know they are out looking for what I just purchased? I think it’s safe to say that most humans make excuses for themselves, do the same things over and over with no success and find themselves often times not happy. Much like my shoe analogy, when a person finds success through certain means, he or she generally want others to know so they can experience changes and happiness too. Does it qualify people who don’t have a degree to back them up? I think so. I have a degree behind my name, but life has taught me more than school ever could. If I learn something from an author, that is how he or she is qualified in my book.
You make very good points. I have also learned much more from life than from school. Some of the wisest people I know did not even finish school!
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Post by Ever_Reading » 14 Nov 2018, 09:34

piecesfallapart wrote:
13 Nov 2018, 13:29
I do not think is about thinking your life or choices are better than others, so the advice you are giving is the best. On the contrary, I think is about life experience. If I start a business, but fail because of the poor decisions I made, I want to help others succeed, so I'm going to tell my story. The same happens if I made it out of a bad relationship, overcoming a substance abuse, changing careers, everything.
I think anyone is qualified to give advice, as long as they do it because they want to help. There are, of course, professionals that spend their life giving advice, and finding the way to give advice, but I'm for sure, not going to approach them, while a book, that is possible I will read it.
I couldn't have put it any better. To add on to what you've said, the author sounds genuine and shares a lot of personal experiences in an attempt to help those who might find them in similar situations. No piece of advice is perfect and sufficient for every problem or for everyone, but any little bit surely helps!
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Post by Tiny_Turtle » 14 Nov 2018, 11:29

Sometimes an author creates self-help books because someone else suggests it after receiving advice that worked. Sometimes a self-help book is written after a person goes through a difficult time, and they hope that by sharing their experiences they can help someone else.

I don't believe that most self-help authors write from an inflated ego. If ego was the motivation, it would be obvious and the book wouldn't do very well.

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Post by raqstar1 » 14 Nov 2018, 12:31

What I like about this book is that he speaks to people like he's talking to a group of buddies. He's not talking like he's a doctor or professional. It reminded me of how I learned what I shouldn't do by watching what my brother did growing up.
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Post by fernsmom » 15 Nov 2018, 00:07

I would hope most of the time it is out of the goodness of someone's heart of why they write a self-help book. The author is doing well, and want others to do well too. But, hard to say the motivation really. Some may be wanting to make money off the book, some may honestly want to help others, some may want fame.

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