Romance and time-how is romance different now?

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Post by chelhack » 26 Jul 2018, 09:17

Yes, I do believe that love and or romance has changed through time or history. I feel that before eras as seen through my grandparents as well as many other elder couples. Love and romance was something that was less taking for granted. It seems that nowadays relationships do not last like they did back then. It seems that older couples stayed together through it all building strong bonds
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Post by dhomespot » 28 Jul 2018, 00:01

I think while some things have changed, with time, in romance, it has not all be to the good. Now when we think about romance, it is less about deeds and spending time together, it is more about money and goods that can be bought or given.
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Post by kelvinmwaniki17 » 28 Jul 2018, 02:22

I honestly that romance has really changed a lot. In the past, the way to show someone that you truly love them was through simple acts of kindness but now love is mostly dependant on goods.

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Post by MishM1 » 28 Jul 2018, 12:53

SereneCharles wrote:
21 Jun 2018, 07:34
People form romantic relationships without any real romance, probably for the money in it.
This has always been the case. Marriages were arranged to acquire wealth and establish kingdoms for centuries. The only difference between then and now is that hook-ups which are for nothing but physical pleasure is way more common. Whereas marriages were for wealth, physical intimacy in itself now has a value and is solicited and paid for through reciprocity, not love and much less regularly in money.

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Post by Amy+++ » 29 Jul 2018, 10:12

I agree with you. I think romance has changed a great deal because women have more freedom and power to choose who they love. They also have the freedom to leave their relationship if they choose to.

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Post by Julie Green » 02 Aug 2018, 17:44

It is now both different and the same. Some romantic gestures are timeless, such as offering complements or sharing experiences. At the same time, however, there are new aspects. For example, our ancestors never had to decipher the romantic signals of social media!
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Post by Rosehibbard » 02 Aug 2018, 19:12

Romance is treated differently today. Things aren't has slow for one. These days girls aren't shy about standing up either.

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Post by Jessica Reehl » 04 Aug 2018, 11:10

I think romance is different now due to the different roles we all play in society. Men and women have equal roles and that makes approaching romance feel a little bit different. Roles can be reversed -or not- and couples can have equal power. I think it's much better this way. It must be a little difficult to write a story about romance in the past with only the experience of current relationships.

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Post by mtsnel006 » 04 Aug 2018, 13:35

I think romance is so much better and more accommodating now as opposed to times ago. I mean, same-sex marriages are now accepted in may countries, making it freely one's choice to choose who they want to be involved in with in romantic relationships. The more, the merrier I guess.
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Post by pixiequeer » 05 Aug 2018, 14:02

Now that I think about it, I don't really see a difference. I think that the romance is confused by lust. Some of it in this book was based on the familiarity of the sensation of touch, but there was nothing under the surface; just sex and a child.

You saw moreso how Alex loved certain things about Angela, like the way she ate, but that isn't very common. It wasn't then and it wasn't now. Honestly, I think true love is lost to society, but can be found as a rarity. It's just back then they went to more extremes when they "loved" someone.

Also, back then love was quick and sudden. Or the idea of it at least. Now if you say you love someone "too soon", you get judged by literally everyone. It's the same if you take "too long" too, but that's not as common.

I think there is true love out there, but I think people pay too much attention to the puppy love stage and appearances. I can truly and honestly say my partner is my best friend. I tell him everything, I am completely honest with him about everything, and I love everything about him. We've been together for almost a year and we just had a baby.

Not many can say the same past the butterflies and the puppy love, especially if they don't have an active sex life.

Also nowadays people spend too much time paying attention to other people and making comparisons. Back then, even if there was lust, there was more loyalty; they only had eyes for each other, and no one else.

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Post by David Horta Alonso » 11 Aug 2018, 01:21

I think romance of today and that of the yesteryears is still the same. There are still lunch and dinner dates, moving to secluded areas and sex just to mention a few.

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Post by Taekwondoqueen » 13 Aug 2018, 10:15

I think the romance is different, but not necessarily in a bad way. The first two romances were both forbidden love, such as Giuliano being promised to another and Gerhard being a Nazi. This was something that could really have only happened in those timelines because things are much more different nowadays, where you can be with anybody you chose.

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Post by SydR » 13 Aug 2018, 11:34

I think that romance is different now than in other time periods. In the age of the internet and constant communication, relationships have become easier to develop. In other time periods, people would have to spend time apart and be out of contact and would long for that person and it would take longer to get to know them.

On the other hand, I believe the things we find romantic such as flowers, love letters, signs of affections are still the same.

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Post by David Horta Alonso » 15 Aug 2018, 01:37

I think romance is something that keeps on changing taking into accounts the tastes of the society. That thus brings me to the point that today's romance is varried from that of the sixties. Those are different time periods.

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Post by Shraddha_rc » 15 Aug 2018, 23:50

pricklypurple wrote:
21 Jun 2018, 20:57
I actually think romance is very different now. Nothing is done slowly anymore. Not as much time and thought are put into things. Unfortunately this is true of our modern day entertainment as well as our relationships.
That is true. People these days choose anyone for a relationship without putting thoughts in the matter and sometimes assume lust as love. It's too dangerous nowadays to find someone who truly loves you. That's what I think.

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