On Office Sexual Harassment

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Post by Cara Van Heerden » 10 Jul 2018, 06:37

Lu_rire wrote:
10 Jul 2018, 02:36
I think it is difficult to say wether it was weakness or strength. It requires strength to endure harassment yet it is weakness to endure it. Perhaps it was both. It showed her strength of character but at the same time it showed the weakness in her character.
But I'm not sure I agree in saying enduring harrassment is weakness. Yes, I know there are great, powerful woman out there who can stand strong for themselves and all of us have that potential, but can we really expect every woman to be strong and stand up for themselves? Swap up sexual harassment with sexual assualt and it's easy to see how many women (and men) can't be expected to know how to fight it off or even have the strength to go through the humiliation of reporting such a thing.

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Post by DorcasToo » 13 Jul 2018, 07:35

Sexual harassment could easily hinder growth careerwise. I think the author handled it well.
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Post by ArriettyClock » 13 Jul 2018, 09:04

I think it's a bit more than just strength or weakness. People may feel like they have no choice - such as if they've reported similar issues previously and nothing has happened, if they fear for their job, or if the person is in a higher position - especially in a male dominated field.
It would be a lot easier for Angela not to do anything, but then it's weighing up whether she can put up with the sexual harassment and if she fears for her safety..... so maybe it hadn't yet got to the breaking point?

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Post by garima597 » 14 Jul 2018, 04:42

I found angela's initial forbearance of sexual harrasment to protect her career a sign of weakness because it depicts her lack of strength to face a situation. There are many situations in our life where we have to accept and adjust around certain behavior of other people but the acceptance of sexual harrasment due to any reason is wrong.
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Post by bruin » 16 Jul 2018, 12:11

Interesting questions, I didn't think of her actions as a strength or weakness. She just handled her situation that she felt would be best for her at that time. It is a difficult position to be in, which is sadly very common. As a female, it is hard to decide if it is worth putting your foot down when you feel like you can just walk away and not respond with the hopes that it will just stop. At the same time, it's time that women speak up when any of these things happen, but the truth is that it is still very hard to do so.

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Post by ValBookReviews » 17 Jul 2018, 06:20

Wow! Sad, but true. Yes, I think both, a measure of weakness and strength. Sometimes it's easier said than done.
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Post by haleygerstenberg » 18 Jul 2018, 14:47

Sexual harassment is such a power-driven issue, I feel like Angela being in a position of lower authority makes it less about her character how she reacted and more about her need to try and keep existing in a less-than-idea environment... You do the best you can, I guess.

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Post by emkinney4 » 19 Jul 2018, 09:52

Choosing between standing up for yourself and protecting your career is such a prevalent issue, and for a long time hardly anyone would dare to speak up when faced with such a powerful predator. It's only in the past year or so that we've really started to see victims of sexual assault and harassment speak up, and it's had such a widespread impact. I'd be curious to see what impact the #MeToo movement would have on how Angela handles the situation.

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Post by RebeccasReading » 20 Jul 2018, 19:33

I think Angela's behavior shows she a survivor, and that she will do what she needs to do in order to get by. Many women don't report sexual harassment at work because they think it's unfair that their career could suffer because of the actions of a man. Standing up for yourself is great in theory, but it can't always be done in every circumstance. Every woman has to do what's best for her at that time.

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Post by Anthony Martial Tata » 21 Jul 2018, 07:29

I agree, it isn't easy to resist sexual actions especially when they are from a person who can either make or break your career. However, the target of sexual harassment should stand firm on their ground. Giving in would be a win for the offenders.

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Post by Vickie Noel » 23 Jul 2018, 14:49

kfwilson6 wrote:
12 Jun 2018, 22:44
kjarch1228 wrote:
12 Jun 2018, 00:10
I would not be judgemental of the actions of any woman being put into such a terrible circumstance. It's not something that anyone should have to put up with although many do. It takes strength to stay and it takes strength to leave.
Well said. In this type of situation reaching out for help is smart, never weak. People have to protect themselves as best they can. Angela was pretty smart in attempting to balance not ticking Scordato off and not letting him make any headway. Unfortunately, I believe Alex saved her from what was about to turn into a dicey situation. I say unfortunately because I don't know what she would have done next. I don't think she was willing to report him.
I agree that it was smart of Angela to balance the Scordato situation such that he makes no progress without knowing she was blocking him off outrightly. It takes a certain skill to manage that situation in the interim until she figured out a permanent solution.
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Post by Yssimnar » 25 Jul 2018, 00:17

Angela rocked the situation. She survived and managed to keep herself safe after knowing her boss probably broke into her apartment.
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Post by Chandler_Greg » 25 Jul 2018, 09:57

Unfortunately, her story is one of thousands. The #metoo movement has shown only the tip of the iceberg. Far too many women have suffered sexual harassment at work, school, and elsewhere. In this case, as has been pointed out, her career depended on her receiving a positive report from the man who preyed on here. As an intern, she may have been under even more pressure than a regular employee, and may not have had as many of the protections. Her situation is also not helped by the rarity of positions in her chosen field. The chances of leaving for an equivalent position are much lower than they would be if she were a receptionist, secretary, etc.. where there are always more openings.

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Post by taffylee81 » 25 Jul 2018, 19:30

I think she should have notified HR if nothing else as she may not have been the only person he has harassed. I think it’s also seen as a bit more serious when someone in a position of authority is the harasser as they can use their position as an implied threat. This is why she should have dealt with it as soon as it started as it can also stop it from escalating.

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Post by kwame1977 » 28 Jul 2018, 03:15

It's not easy to ward off sexual harassment at working at workplace. One therefore has to choose between career.

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