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What is the most valuable lesson that you learnt from Ironbark Hill by Jennie Linnne? What is something that you would take with you for the rest of you life, that you learnt from this book?

The valuable lesson from the book Ironbark Hill by Jennie Linnane is that life is a school. You will only graduate when you die or leave this world to be with your heavenly Father, God.
However, in the case of Natalie’s the story of child abuse, the major lesson is that women, if they are either divorced or widowed, they should never commit themselves to re-marry a man who has not committed to love their children as he loves them.
They should only re-marry a man once he commits himself to loving them as well as their children borne from another man.
But if they are already in a marriage where a stepfather is abusing their children, then they should quickly tell off their husbands that they would not tolerate such behavior.

zod wrote: ↑08 May 2018, 11:08 The valuable lesson from the book Ironbark Hill by Jennie Linnane is that life is a school. You will only graduate when you die or leave this world to be with your heavenly Father, God.
However, in the case of Natalie’s the story of child abuse, the major lesson is that women, if they are either divorced or widowed, they should never commit themselves to re-marry a man who has not committed to love their children as he loves them.
They should only re-marry a man once he commits himself to loving them as well as their children borne from another man.
But if they are already in a marriage where a stepfather is abusing their children, then they should quickly tell off their husbands that they would not tolerate such behavior.

I agree. Not all stepfathers are bad, but when you hear of such horrible stories as depicted in this book it just makes you wonder whether or not the woman was selfish when picking their next life partner. Thanks for the comment.

The takeaway from me is that life is a marathon and not a sprint. There will be good times and bad times but it is how one preserves that determines what can of life we have. In the book and in life a mother must always choose wisely what type of man she will allow to build a relationship with her children. In my opinion, most times the man who wishes a relationship with a women who has children from a previous relationship will try to build a good relationship with her children. Unforntuely, there are those men that just wants the women and will appear to like the children but truly doesn't. It is in these circumstances that a mother must listen to her children and give them the benefit of the doubt in whatever they tell her. If she suspects that something is wrong then there probably is something wrong. The biggest thing is that the mother defend her children and take them out of a bad situation. Now there are women who sadly think they are entitled to a good life no matter what and their children are an inconvenience. It is these women that cause the most harm to their children. To me there would be no man or person that I would choose over my children. It seems Natalie did not choose well.

The most simplest, valuable lesson I've learn is to stand up and take a stand.

The most valuable lesson that I have learned is to not be afraid to believe that what you have done is correct. Above all else, Natalie stood by her decisions, even if other people critiqued her or beat her. She didn't back down from her decision to be Bruce Glover's lover, and she remained firm in her decision to keep Libby away from Alex.

One of the most valuable lessons from Ironbark Hill is to always persevere and fight for what you think is right. People should stand up for themselves, and should not depend on others to do it for them, especially if it could be dangerous for them. Natalie could not expect to just slack off and wait for someone else to support her decisions. Instead, she decided to take her fate into her own hands, to be able to control everything that was happening with her.

The most important lesson that I learned was to stand up for myself because no one else will.

I love books that are exciting yet thought-provoking. The author creates a character in natalie who does just that for us. Leading us to question whether we ourselves have accepted fate as the doing of others or our own responsibility

I learned that you have to stand up for yourself and your children even when the circumstances aren't ideal.

Mr Justin wrote: ↑08 May 2018, 11:08 The valuable lesson from the book Ironbark Hill by Jennie Linnane is that life is a school. You will only graduate when you die or leave this world to be with your heavenly Father, God.
However, in the case of Natalie’s the story of child abuse, the major lesson is that women, if they are either divorced or widowed, they should never commit themselves to re-marry a man who has not committed to love their children as he loves them.
They should only re-marry a man once he commits himself to loving them as well as their children borne from another man.
But if they are already in a marriage where a stepfather is abusing their children, then they should quickly tell off their husbands that they would not tolerate such behavior.

I totally agree with what you said Mr. Justin. It is important that whoever loves you also loves the people you love, esp your children. The only problem is that sometimes people can pretend to love your children just so that you can like them. Another very important thing for women is the last point you made, about building their strength of character so that they do not tolerate such bad behaviours towards their children from any man. A mother should be prepared to leave any man who is intolerant or abusive towards her children. She cannot place her feelings of insecurity or neediness for a man's love ahead of her children's safety.

I have learned that I should take my responsibilities to the latter regardless of the circumstances am in.

I learned that, you have to stand up for your self and choose your man wisely

The most important lesson to be learnt here is also one of the most important lesson anyone can learn; stand up for yourself cos nobody will.

anwidmer wrote: ↑11 Jun 2018, 10:27 I love books that are exciting yet thought-provoking. The author creates a character in natalie who does just that for us. Leading us to question whether we ourselves have accepted fate as the doing of others or our own responsibility

Yes, books that have you still thinking about them well after reading it, I love that!