Was there any way Natalie could justify her feelings for a married man?
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Re: Was there any way Natalie could justify her feelings for a married man?
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I agree. Personally, I think Natalie was forced to mature and was looking for a responsible, reliable, and stable adult. It makes sense she would turn to a married man. As you said, there are others who go through the same thing and don't follow the same path. She also didn't have someone to protect her. Her teacher should have known better, but considering the times, it was probably common for a young girl to with a much older man.You're right. If there had been one person looking out for Natalie's well-being, she likely would have had more of a childhood than she did and found a more appropriate love as she got older. While her actions aren't easily justified, they're completely understandable.Vickie Noel wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 06:29 So Natalie (and her tough childhood) had a reason for getting entangled with a married man, and at such a tender age. But there are also people who have engaged in such affairs not necessarily because they were in similar situations to Natalie's. Conversely, there are those passing through the same kind of trauma who didn't resort to that route as the way out.Therefore, her actions can't easily be justified. Yet, I can't blame her for being in a vulnerable state, having no one to advice her properly on such matters. However, the other person involved should have known better, rather, he made his choice to do something he knew was wrong, instead of being a help to Natalie by steering her thoughts away from it.
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There are all kinds of relationships out there, while it isn't how I live my life, it doesn't mean an open relationship doesn't work for others. My issue is not with the situation but with the fact that it was hidden. I appreciated the epilogue describing the relationship as it evolved (don't want to spoil it if you're not there yet).
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I agree. Natalie was emotionally stunted and susceptible. That's not really an excuse but 16 is not the most responsible or rational age. The married man was an adult and should have discouraged her. He could have been supportive without getting involved in an affair with a child.Vickie Noel wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 06:29 So Natalie (and her tough childhood) had a reason for getting entangled with a married man, and at such a tender age. But there are also people who have engaged in such affairs not necessarily because they were in similar situations to Natalie's. Conversely, there are those passing through the same kind of trauma who didn't resort to that route as the way out.Therefore, her actions can't easily be justified. Yet, I can't blame her for being in a vulnerable state, having no one to advice her properly on such matters. However, the other person involved should have known better, rather, he made his choice to do something he knew was wrong, instead of being a help to Natalie by steering her thoughts away from it.
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Although, no, I wouldn't advise that any young girl starts banging her boss hoping for this result...
I could even buy that they ended up together, but not really that they could live in the same small town as a happily ever after couple.
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Without models for appropriate behavior, how can one be expected to make proper choices? And at that age, she is still so young, even though her circumstances have required her to grow up faster in some areas. Our brains finish maturing much later than many people think, and I don't think she should be blamed for seeking the security that she lacked as a child.Tbunde5 wrote: ↑04 Apr 2018, 22:27 Natalie had no positive role models to teach her what an appropriate relationship should be. She also has no knowledge of what real love should look like. In light of that, I don’t think we can blame her for her choices in this regard. In as much as her conscience tells her what she is doing may be wrong, she has been brought up in a dysfunctional home. We can hardly blame her for wanting what she sees as a loving relationship, no matter the cost.
Why should she be the only one to justify her feelings? Should he have to justify his as well?
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