Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?

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Re: Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?

Post by Mercy Bolo » 08 Jun 2018, 03:57

It's a reversal of roles, but I applaud Natalie for not accepting abuse as a regular occurrence. Deep in her heart, she knew that it was wrong and made an effort to protect her mother, who seemed to be flowing with the status quo.
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Post by elivia05 » 10 Jun 2018, 23:06

I definitely feel the reversal of parenting roles in this story. I work for an attorney and I see these situations on a daily basis. It is sad, but it is a prominent event in today's society.

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Post by Zain A Blade » 14 Jun 2018, 14:42

I read in some psychology book that reversal of roles happens a lot in dysfunctional families and, in fact, it is the number cause of incest in a family. It is said that when the mother fails to fulfil her role and matrimonial duties in the home, the young girl unconscious feels obliged to step in and fulfil her mother's role in order to keep the family together, even if it means sleeping with her own father. It sounds sick, right? But that's human psychology for you.

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Post by AWANDO OGUTU » 24 Jun 2018, 08:32

The safety of the parents should be a child's concern. I don't think is unusual for Natalie to protect her mum.

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Post by LarissaRunamuck » 29 Jun 2018, 13:46

Often the child grows up to not only regret the parent for not being the parent they wanted (loving them the way they feel they should have been loved) but also regretting themselves and doubting their abilities. When they become an adult, they feel anger at the fact that they never really learned how to do it "right" and frequently doubt themselves.
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Post by Star88 » 08 Jul 2018, 14:15

Definitely. I agree it's because of the emotional trauma she had to face

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Post by Maksiub1 » 12 Jul 2018, 10:57

I think a should be allowed to be a child and not an adult

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