Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?

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Re: Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?

Post by Kdonegan91 » 15 May 2018, 17:53

I believe that the role reversal scenario is becoming more common. Even though, it should not be unless it's for health reasons. I have personally lived through this particular scenario. After my parents divorced, I was forced to raise my younger sister for many years. Although it was not an easy time in my life (young teen), it made me who I am today.
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Post by Nena_Morena » 19 May 2018, 01:37

Some of my friends have told me about their troubled childhoods that forced them to grow up too soon, but while I was reading the book I really thought of my husband. He experienced abuse since he was a little child and like Natalie, he had to take care of himself because his parents weren't there for him. He acts older than his age and I see how his troubles still affect him today. Unfortunately, I believe this experience is not uncommon nowadays.

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Post by Sefiros2211 » 23 May 2018, 12:57

Yes. This kind of relationship can be found in a family with an addicted family member. The parent is too high to take care of the children, so it's up to the child to be the grown-up, fixing meals and making sure the other -- mostly younger -- kids make it to school, do their homework; etc. Forcing kids to assume adult roles denies them a childhood where playing and fun is the highlight of their young lives. This can build resentment, which is bottled up, changing the child into a cynic. Wary of adults' help -- because the adults in their own lives have done so little -- they are biased when genuine help comes their way. It's a deadly and vicious cycle that is happening every day.

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