Emotional effects of abuse on children

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Re: Emotional effects of abuse on children

Post by Rya92 » 23 Apr 2018, 13:31

I think that the author has showed accurate effects of child abuse even though every person reacts differently and each situation is not the same. Each child reacts differently in this book and that shows how each individual will not have the exact same reaction. Bed wetting and a mean streak are very different reactions from the same cause and I feel like that would accurately show the effects on that family.

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Post by Kibetious » 24 Apr 2018, 02:01

Very true that the kids will behave depending on the environment they are in. For some, they may elicit the above signs but others will be still observed such as rebellion and fear.
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Post by love_b00ks » 24 Apr 2018, 05:27

Definitely! Children are just so fragile, this is why we have to be careful how we treat them and what we expose them to. Most of the traumatic events they see and experience early on in life will have a lasting effect in their lives and character, which they may not even know did. All of us were once kids and if we reflect, we can pinpoint a time in our early childhood years that made an impact on what and how we are right now.

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Post by Chill01 » 24 Apr 2018, 06:17

I thought the writer gave an extremely accurate picture of the effect of continued abuse by a raging alcoholic father. Natty became a caretaker with adult responsibilities while still a child, and sexually promiscuous, her next sister with a vicious streak and seemingly without conscience, the littlest sister wets the bed, and finally, the brother is a fire starter. This book could be a study guide for what happens in an abusive home in my opinion.

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Post by gen_g » 24 Apr 2018, 11:25

Yes, I do think that many aspects of abuse were addressed in the book, but as many other users have pointed out, it would be near impossible for a single book to address every kind of emotional abuse a child can suffer. In this sense, Ironbark Hill would be a great portrayal of a teenager's experience with an abusive stepfather, keeping in mind that it is only one of many other plausible accounts.

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Post by prettysmart » 24 Apr 2018, 22:28

This goes to show that there is no particular outcome on children due to emotional abuse as results differs depending on the situation and the personality of the each child being abused....what was shown is just an example of how individuals cope differently.

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Post by 4cynthia72 » 25 Apr 2018, 04:45

I think the author has given a true potrayal.The effect of child abuse affects children differently. Some may become introvert while others may grow up being abusive.

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Post by NRoach » 25 Apr 2018, 07:35

Chill01 wrote:
24 Apr 2018, 06:17
I thought the writer gave an extremely accurate picture of the effect of continued abuse by a raging alcoholic father. Natty became a caretaker with adult responsibilities while still a child, and sexually promiscuous, her next sister with a vicious streak and seemingly without conscience, the littlest sister wets the bed, and finally, the brother is a fire starter. This book could be a study guide for what happens in an abusive home in my opinion.
It's one of the most interesting parts, to me. This kind of variety isn't showcased very much; normally its PTSD and only really in terms of nightmares and needed to be cuddled by the love interest.

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Post by holsam_87 » 26 Apr 2018, 00:24

Tbunde5 wrote:
01 Apr 2018, 21:55
While Natalie is the central figure of the book, I found it fascinating to see the interactions of all the children. Robyn, who wets the bed; Shirley, who has a vicious mean streak; and Natalie, trying to hold them all together. Do you think the author gives an honest portrayal of the effects of abuse in children?
Yes, I think that the effects of abuse in children were portrayed very well. After all, everyone reacts differently to trauma as we see with all of the kids.
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Post by nancyab » 26 Apr 2018, 04:59

Thankfully, society is now recognizing child abuse and doing something about it. I was born in 1936 and brought up when the man of the house ruled, no questions asked. He had the right to punish his wife and children as he saw fit. I was beaten a number of times as a child (many times with my father's leather belt and for no good reason) and yes, it has definitely left psychological issues that have followed me through the years. I never had children, so I did not continue the "ritual" of child abuse that is often passed on from generation to generation. Plus, being a female, I don't think I would have had that tendency.

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Post by stalliongirlke » 26 Apr 2018, 06:33

Abuse on children does take a toll on them in all aspects. It doesnt matter if its physical abuse or mental abuse. Either way it affects their personality negatively

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Post by Britty01 » 26 Apr 2018, 20:58

From the description given I would say that the book gives a good portrayal of the effects of abuse on children. I would expect each of those behaviors and more.

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Post by Supergirl1 » 27 Apr 2018, 02:01

I agree with the author’s portrayal. Abused children most times tend to develop behavioral problems, and may even grow up to be emotionally unstable. From the few examples I've seen, I can infer that quite a lot of people with borderline personality disorder have an abusive background.

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Post by Tatottie84 » 27 Apr 2018, 14:42

I enjoyed the book and learned a lot on how different families parenting styles are so different this book shines a lot of light on different scenario in life that children have to overcome.

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Post by alexander1995 » 27 Apr 2018, 17:47

it makes the child to grow up been emotionally unstable.

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