Emotional effects of abuse on children

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Re: Emotional effects of abuse on children

Post by AWANDO OGUTU » 16 Jun 2018, 00:24

Child abuse may have effect on a child's abuse in the long run. It is worth noting that a child behaviour is impacted greatly by the exposure of his immediate surrounding. A child that grows in abusive environment may get accustomed to it and grow up knowing that is the way things need to be done. Changing such perception and psychological effect maybe extremely difficult and may at times be impossible.

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Post by Cardinalsparrow » 21 Jun 2018, 04:52

Yes, I think the author gave an honest representation of the emotional effects of abuse on children. Natalie had to carry a load too much for her young age.

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Post by pricklypurple » 23 Jun 2018, 08:09

I really don't know enough about abuse to comment on this, but I do know emotional trauma effects everyone differently and I think that was portrayed here accurately.

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Post by AWANDO OGUTU » 25 Jun 2018, 11:34

Environment shapes a child behaviour. A child who grows in an abusive environment is highly likely to turn out as an abusive adult.

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Post by KatSims92 » 26 Jun 2018, 14:45

I think those are really common behavioral reactions to abuse. And while reactions are unique to each child, the ones included like the mean streak and bed wetting are rather common. It all depends on the age of the child and how close they were to the abuser, the abused, and the witnessing of it. I've never heard of any child who wasn't affected in some way by abuse. If anything the kids in the book would have been more damaged.

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Post by Emie Cuevas » 30 Jun 2018, 12:38

The effects of child abuse are many and varied. Just about anything the author wrote about it could be true, so I think that this was very realistic.
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Post by readandsmile » 05 Jul 2018, 05:31

It is so hard to see a situation like this. I remember something bad when I imagine Nathali's life.
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Post by Surakshita-11 » 05 Jul 2018, 10:53

The situations which author described as result of abuse does potray reality but in some cases situations are even worse. Many children are even motivated to commit suicide in such cases.

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Post by Star88 » 08 Jul 2018, 14:21

I think so. People are different and have different ways of coping.

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Post by chupke07 » 09 Jul 2018, 09:06

Children react so differently to abuse depending on their personalities and the types of abuse, but it seems that these reactions are realistic based on the research and studying I have done in the field.

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Post by ea_anthony » 11 Jul 2018, 17:43

Jkhorner wrote:
03 Apr 2018, 12:59
I can't speak from personal experience, but from my counseling training I can confirm that bed-wetting and angry interactions with the world are both indicators that there is something wrong going on at home. As commenter azerikaj mentioned, even Natalie's sexual desire is a common result of childhood abuse.
I am surprised that bed-wetting could be an indicator of something wrong going on at home. My younger brother (by almost 3 years) bed-wet till he was about 9 or 10 and to the best of my knowledge nothing faintly wrong was going on at home. We had loving stable parents and fairly OK school/home environment and as far as I can tell, he is a fabulous family man today. Apparently there are exceptions.
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Post by ArriettyClock » 13 Jul 2018, 09:12

The difference in the children's reaction to their situation was definitely fitting as no-one has the same reaction to abusive events. Although it did seem like it wasn't delving as far into the emotional reaction as much as I would have wanted. It seemed to show a just a small portion of the reaction.

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Post by ArriettyClock » 13 Jul 2018, 09:18

The difference in the children's reaction to their situation was definitely fitting as no-one has the same reaction to abusive events. Although it did seem like it wasn't delving as far into the emotional reaction as much as I would have wanted. It seemed to show a just a small portion of the reaction.

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Post by Aditi1992 » 13 Jul 2018, 11:22

There are so many definitions of child abuse that often parents do not even know that their child is being abused. Gesture as simple as touching is an abuse depending upon the intention behind it. Constant demotivation in school by teachers is, again, an abuse. What we need is to clearly observe our children for any reaction to abuse and develop a trusting relationship with them from the very start. It is very important for children to feel that they can confide in their parents and also in their teachers.

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Post by Stanley Ann » 13 Jul 2018, 13:55

I think that the author clearly shows the impact of child abuse on various children

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