Are These Teenage Extramarital Affairs Happening in 2018?

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Post by Kibetious » 21 Apr 2018, 21:49

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I think Natalie's relationship with Mr. Glover would be more common today than in 1950, but this is something that has been happening since always.
Very true, it is more common now than in the years past.
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Post by Rosebella » 22 Apr 2018, 04:12

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Considering finances, I certainly feel like the pull to money and material lifestyles are more targeted at youth today than in the past. Maybe this is adding to the appeal of the older lover?
I agree with this, in that in my country right the allure of older men and what they offer in terms of finances has become the norm.It has even become acceptable to some level.Young girls either universities or those unemployed seeing this as only option to finance their lives.Mutual beneficial relationships, where all involved go in knowing what is expected of them.

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Post by cianarae » 22 Apr 2018, 12:25

I honestly think that teenage extramarital affairs have always been a thing, but that it's not so hushed anymore. People these days are less afraid to talk about their sexuality now. I bet the existence of the Internet helps that information travel farther and faster now, as well!

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Post by jo89220n » 22 Apr 2018, 20:53

I think extramarital affairs in general are just as popular, but certain situations are definitely more believable in 2018. A student and her teacher for example, I think is more prominent today. My grandmother got married when she was 16 to the first boy she ever dated. There was no time to have an affair because she got married and had a job and kids. People get married so late nowadays and they date tons of people before settling down. There is a lot more room to meet other people or extend beyond your age bracket.

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Post by AlyLiv » 22 Apr 2018, 21:44

I think no matter what time period you're in, it's always mind boggling to hear about relationships like that. However, I do also think a situation like that is more common in 2018. Maybe not necessarily because people's behaviors have changed, but because with social media and such, there's more exposure and more of a chance to hear about those types of things.

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Post by haileyb » 23 Apr 2018, 02:31

personally I thought it was a good book. we all know that extramarital relationships have been around. but I think they do it because they are reminded of their partner or maybe their partner doesn't please them.

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Post by Mildred Tabitha » 23 Apr 2018, 04:50

I think Natalie's relationship with Mr Glover is more believable in 2018 than in the 1950s. This is because back then, there were less news of such cases happening compared to what we read in the headlines today.

I doubt if it is a theme for young girls. I think it is a theme for old men because they are the ones who take advantage. I mean an old man is mature enough to know that he has a wife and shouldn't get in affairs with other women especially young girls.
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Post by Quinto » 23 Apr 2018, 06:32

The exposure to this problem (teenage affairs) is more pronounced now due to social media unlike in the past. But that does not mean the prevalence has necessarily increased. I also wonder why the problem is even associated with married people because anyone, whether married or not, is likely to prey on teenagers. But I guess a married person is vilified more while the unmarried one the society views them more favorably.

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Post by Mary33 » 23 Apr 2018, 07:08

I do think it's more pronounced now than in the past, not because it wasn't always there but because people fill less scared to share experiences.

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Post by Cate Mbevi » 23 Apr 2018, 07:37

I think most of the young boys and girls who get involved in this disturbing relationships might have lacked initial love from parents. As parents and guardians, let us be there for our young ones.

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Post by heidifinger » 23 Apr 2018, 11:30

The social norms are different now but teenage girls are still sleeping with older men and I think, will always do so. I think it is normal for someone to be attracted to a person that is more mature and has knowledge of things they don't. High school girls often date college students. But, someone who is married dating a young teenager just can't be explained in my eyes. I can see the attraction for the younger one but it should not be acted on by the married one.

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Post by Lgs1089 » 23 Apr 2018, 13:49

I would think teenage extramarital affairs were more commonly accepted in the backwoods of the 1950s than it would be today. We just have more portals of communication available to us today and strict laws against it, and that makes it seem like it's happening more frequently. Teenage extramarital affairs have always been a pattern in history.
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Post by love_b00ks » 23 Apr 2018, 20:52

I think that it has always been a thing it is just that it is not as well publicized before unlike today because of the advent of the social media, they don't sensationalize it then as much as people do now.

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Post by AmySmiles » 24 Apr 2018, 08:42

I feel like it has probably always happened. I feel like social media and news availability brings it more to the fore front these days than it might of had say back in the 50's or 60's.
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Post by kwahu » 24 Apr 2018, 08:50

The world has changed a great deal! It was unheard of in the 50's, of a girl walking around with a boy, leave alone dating a married man. So, to me it's not a shock to the society.

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