tvess wrote: ↑03 Apr 2018, 09:04No, I literally mean because I'm left handed, as in writing with my left hand. This was brought up to my parents when I was like five, in an effort to "fix" me. As far as I'm aware, that part of the family isn't aware of my lack of interest in guys, and I don't exactly plan on telling them. I can see why you would have assumed that though, given the context.LoisCHenderson wrote: ↑03 Apr 2018, 02:13I take that your "being left-handed" means that you are gay (explanation just for non-English language speakers, of which there are many in the OBC)? Some Christians are very condemnatory, yet the more they condemn others, the less Christian they are in their behaviour - check that out! Often, they are trying to direct attention away from their own actions, while condemning themselves to purgatory or worse (in their own terms).tvess wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 08:55
Some of my family lives in an area (in the US) where it's hard to find fully educated people at all despite schools being available, and women are expected to take care of the kids, so a woman with dependents seems to be expected to rely on someone else to have a source of income. This tends to be parents, a husband, or just some guy that wont commit. The third option seems acceptable because of the idea that the marriage will happen "eventually", and I don't know the people involved well enough to know if there's a difference in how they're treated in this situation.
Even when they manage to find a source of income on their own, people seem to think they're neglecting the kids at that point (though I have heard no one judging them for not sending their kids to school, which would have really solved multiple problems...).
I don't know the community well enough to know what happens if you just don't have kids. (Though certain people in the area have said I'm going to go to hell for being left-handed, and some Christian viewpoints claim that you are selfish if you aren't having kids "like God intended", so I really don't have that much hope for this).
I'm glad I live in the city, where it's more like you described with single-people being hardworking.
I agree with what you're saying about Christian behavior. The whole ordeal has turned me away from organized religion, I find it easier to just focus on being a good person instead of following someone's guidelines in the hopes that they are being a good person.
The whole left handed thing has always really fascinated me, because it makes no actual sense. I live in the UK and I remember at school (which was about fifteen years ago for me now), they used to try and force the left handed people to write with their right hand, and they had special grips attached to their pencils and pens to help them. It was really stupid. What does it matter?
I'm sorry you've had a bad experience with Christianity too. Being a LGBT Christian myself, I know how that feels. It's crazy how people professing to follow Jesus Christ can be so hateful but there ya go *shrugs*