Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

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Re: Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

Post by Lest92 » 17 Feb 2018, 11:21

I could relate to him when he was humble and working his way up. The moment he arrived, though, he came off as arrogant, and he lost me there.

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Post by ktom » 17 Feb 2018, 18:46

I was fortunate enough to live the life of luxury way back when, so, yes, I can relate to the author's way of life. But, it was such a false way of living in my opinion, so much so that I have been following an extreme minimalist way of life for the last three years. For me, things make sense now but, I can still appreciate what he´s been through.

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Post by Katiemhardy813 » 20 Feb 2018, 13:42

I see where you're coming from with the question - the author does come off as completely entitled in some of the stories. I think he IS entitled, certainly, with that lifestyle and those opportunities. And he doesn't always do a good job of couching his understanding somewhere in the story. But I still think there's a lot of lessons that can be learned from his stories if you separate his entitled-self out of the scenario. I can still learn things! And I feel like that's taking back my control and taking him out of the driver's seat.

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Post by Haute_Coffee » 20 Feb 2018, 16:52

I could relate to the author and his message more at the beginning. As the common consensus seems to be around here, he seemed to become more arrogant as his success came. I know that's pretty common, but people with a bit of humility are much more likable.

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Post by mingyums » 25 Feb 2018, 12:54

I definitely didn't relate with the author, however I do think that I don't relate to most autobiographies I read and that it's not necessary for a good reading experience. It's usually hard to relate unless you've the same background in terms of where you live and family life experiences, for example growing up in an Indian family would be very different from a Chinese one but that wouldn't stop me reading and enjoying autobiographies from people from diverse backgrounds.

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Post by jeminah28 » 02 Mar 2018, 03:57

I can relate to the author. His life is common from rags to riches story.
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Post by Greatview » 03 Mar 2018, 01:07

I do not hold anything about Rob white. He still mingles with the commoners.

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Post by AnnaKathleen » 03 Mar 2018, 15:24

A friend recommended reading this and I was debating if I should but hearing what others have said I am somewhat glad I hadn't. The first half of the book, focusing on his youth and lessons learned sounds promising, authentic and like something I could connect to. However, the lessons learned while in adulthood - how the knowledge and realizations are obtained: lending out expensive cars, running with bulls, or helicopter rides is a bit unrelatable to me and I think it would make the work hard to finish. I am not knocking his lifestyle by any means but it is a very select lifestyle that I could not connect to. Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it a hard to finish read?

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Post by ericahs » 07 Mar 2018, 10:51

I think it makes perfect sense that not all of us can relate to helicopter rides and Porches... I have no context and zero reference point for how those experiences feel so why would the author experiencing those things help me relate.
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Post by Quithilion » 07 Mar 2018, 20:35

I think that Rob has written a book that will appeal to everyone. Whether they are just starting out on the raod to riches , have some money or are very wealthy. It's brilliant to know that when I have a but more money for myself, I can go back to this book and reread it, finding new wisdom from it's pages that relate to my new position.

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Post by BookInspector300 » 07 Mar 2018, 20:43

His stories seem like he's experienced things I could only ever dream of . But while his reality is far from my grasp,I think the purpose of the novel is not only to empathize with him, but also to see life from his point of view.

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Post by Butterflybookworm » 16 Mar 2018, 23:23

I definitely struggled to identify with the author. From the beginning of the book where he basically listed all these famous people he visited I just couldn't identify with him because his lifestyle was so different.

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Post by SABRADLEY » 17 Mar 2018, 10:46

I had difficulty relating to the author, or possibly a more accurate assessment is I felt like he had difficulty relating to me. I began to wonder what kind of audience he was trying to tailor his book to and it seemed like it was more geared toward people who want wealth and extravagance. Many times I felt like he was showcasing his exotic experiences as a means to reiterate his success and wealth, as if to say "follow my advice and this will be your life." I like a good success story but a truly humble attitude is what makes a rags-to-riches tale inspiring.

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Post by Aphroditelaughs » Yesterday, 23:51

Gunnar Ohberg wrote:
21 Jan 2018, 15:30
I am not holding anything against Rob White personally; in fact, I am very happy for him and his successes. However, I did struggle to empathize with him as he was learning lessons that involved running with the bulls, declining helicopter rides, doing tricks in a biplane, and lending out his Porsche. I related more with him during the first half of his book (his childhood), which I would argue made its lessons feel more effective. Again, I am not disparaging his wealth, I'm only exploring the relative nature of his lessons. What do you all think?

It all depends on whether the person is experiencing universal struggles or rich person (sometimes called first world) problems. It can be completely alienating to have someone complain about something that only applies when you are wealthy. But the wealthy are also human, and have many of the same struggles and personal journeys as the rest of us. There needs to be a strong anchor in humanity.

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