Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

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Re: Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

Post by Kenko Betty » 29 Jan 2018, 11:39

kandscreeley wrote:
22 Jan 2018, 11:36
I can understand where you are coming from. However, even if I don't run with the bulls, I think that there are lessons we can still take away from his experiences. Plus, I think the main point of the book is to be aware of those around you that would teach YOU life lessons.
. My thoughts exactly. I think the reason you feel this way is because you aren't a bull. When you become just as rich, you would be able to relate better. I too feel that way. I believe we are not alone.

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Post by pinklover » 30 Jan 2018, 02:17

Kenko Betty wrote:
29 Jan 2018, 11:39
kandscreeley wrote:
22 Jan 2018, 11:36
I can understand where you are coming from. However, even if I don't run with the bulls, I think that there are lessons we can still take away from his experiences. Plus, I think the main point of the book is to be aware of those around you that would teach YOU life lessons.
. My thoughts exactly. I think the reason you feel this way is because you aren't a bull. When you become just as rich, you would be able to relate better. I too feel that way. I believe we are not alone.
You are right! Running with the bulls story is just like a warning to me if ever I will encounter like those things. I have an idea what to do next. :idea:

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Post by Miriam Molina » 30 Jan 2018, 08:16

I am not as rich or accomplished as Rob White, but I felt his sincerity in sharing the top 21 lessons he learned. His story only shows that one doesn't stop learning lessons, however rich, accomplished, or old one gets. The only success we all need is to know we have given our best in our endeavors, whoever and whatever we are right now. At least, that's how this book speaks to me.

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Post by KFree_Reads » 30 Jan 2018, 10:57

I will admit that for the first half of the book I felt we had a lot in common and I felt somewhat out of place when he began talking about the helicopter ride, the biplane experience and so on. I found when he talked more about his humble beginnings and those early experiences I felt more connected to the author. There were definitely moments I felt excluded from the conversation. It's good to know I am not the only one who felt that way. Nonetheless, this book is a account of his life which gives him license to share what he deems important to his journey. Perhaps his book was intentionally written this way to engage with various audiences. I was definitely able to find areas of the book that made me say "Wow, I feel the same way" or "I used to think that way too". There is no doubt Rob White has accomplished many things in his life and it would be unfair to say his book does not reflect that. Do I feel that those accomplishments were kind of thrown at me? Not at all. If he didn't include most if not all his experiences, I think readers would have demanded more after reading his book.

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Post by rs1977 » 31 Jan 2018, 02:12

Gunnar Ohberg wrote:
21 Jan 2018, 15:30
I am not holding anything against Rob White personally; in fact, I am very happy for him and his successes. However, I did struggle to empathize with him as he was learning lessons that involved running with the bulls, declining helicopter rides, doing tricks in a biplane, and lending out his Porsche. I related more with him during the first half of his book (his childhood), which I would argue made its lessons feel more effective. Again, I am not disparaging his wealth, I'm only exploring the relative nature of his lessons. What do you all think?

-Gunnar
I agree. Specifically, I felt uncomfortable with long list of gurus that were mentioned towards the beginning of the book, which to me sounded more like bragging rather than giving authenticity and connecting with the audience. Some stories (especially the buried gas station one) sounded like made-up (even if it had really happened), which lessen the credibility of the book.

While pearls of wisdom are great, I feel nowadays they are ubiquitous, and hence, world over, people are cautious about whom to listen to and what to believe in. Also, everyone goes through their own 'aha's in life which lead to insights and transform their lives, so is there a need for lessons from someone else - is a question.

As a piece of inspiration, yes, the book adds some value, but would I continue to follow Rob and his sayings as a fan in the future? Nope. Thanks for asking.

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Post by R-g-R » 31 Jan 2018, 08:55

Completely agree.
With respect, I wonder if the author has lost some of the depth, heart and empathy he had for others...?
Or perhaps his later stories are simply a reflection of the larger crowds and specific self-help audience who attend his conferences, that he may be speaking to and writing for in his re-telling of experiences...?

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Post by Strongbob25 » 31 Jan 2018, 09:06

Yes! Very much so. He is from a different generation from me and literally views the world through a different pair of eyes. A lot of his "can do" attitude was lost on me, since it may not be so easy to just "go to college and then get a great teaching job and then strike it rich in the real estate market" in 2018 as it was in the 1960s. Furthermore, as others have said, a lot of his interests and passions don't really match my own. While I love travel and would love to see the bulls in Spain someday, I don't really care about fancy cars or doing tricks in a stunt plane.

He definitely lost me after a while@

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Post by E G Suth » 31 Jan 2018, 14:05

Like you, I struggled to identify with afew of the later chapters and preferred the first half of the book; however I still enjoyed reading them. The chapter about him running with bulls did annoy me though.

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Post by BookWild » 31 Jan 2018, 17:28

I enjoyed reading this book. That said, I did struggle at times to identify with Mr. White, especially toward the end after he became successful and was able to do so many things most people will never experience. However, I admire him for being able to learn from his experiences instead of just glossing over them because he can afford it.

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Post by Samy Lax » 01 Feb 2018, 01:35

One thing is for sure: Rob White is rich and really well-accomplished in life. Both these things are yet to feature in my life. However, he seems to have shared those lessons with us in all sincerity. I think what we need to do in this scenario is understand that no matter how rich, accomplished, or satisfied we are in life, there's still so much learning we would need to do - throughout life.

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Post by celiiia » 01 Feb 2018, 09:28

While yes, our lifestyles differ in many ways, we can still find many similarities with the author.

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Post by Singer » 01 Feb 2018, 13:28

Rob managed to beat all the societal set limits. The solitary life that he led at first after rising above these social limits is what I identify with the author. A typical life I have lived. I believe I will make better strides and achieve my goals too like him.

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Post by dphelps1113 » 02 Feb 2018, 16:33

I agree with you and can understand where you are coming from. I just couldn't really relate to anything at all, which was odd, but to each his own

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Post by thelittlelibrary » 04 Feb 2018, 09:04

I agree. I related a lot more to the beginning half of the book where he was experiences more realistic events. Lots of people go through similar things. However I have never done any of the more exciting events (e.g. bull running)

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Post by CambaReviewer » 04 Feb 2018, 10:36

I identify totally with the author. We all have our choices of hobbies and thrills. I do not begrudge him his. He may not approve of mine either. That said, despite the different life choices we all make, the lessons he learned from his choices can be extended to other scenarios. I feel that largely, he has a good heart and he is not afraid to admit when his attitude or feelings are wrong or unwholesome. I admire that greatly about him.

It is a digital age. Authors are advised to leave a link that readers can use to connect more with them on social media or the internet. I see nothing wrong with having his website at the end of the book. In fact it would be abnormal if there was no other way of getting more information about the author inserted in the book.

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