Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

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Re: Does Anyone Else Struggle to Identify with the Author?

Post by Bookdoodle » 21 Mar 2018, 15:22

Rob White is an excellent writer, he wrote beautifully
He is an exceptional focused writer with outstanding explaining :D :D detail. What a read amazing

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Post by EllieA » 26 Mar 2018, 10:54

For me, I don't have to necessarily identify with the author to respect the lessons he is imparting. I agree that complaints about struggling in a high-roller lifestyle can seem trite, but that kind of underscores the unity of the human experience. We all are searching for happiness, meaning, and where to find these things. And White is engaged, throughout his whole life, when young and poor as well as when older and wealthier, in the same search for a "guru."

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Post by shraddharm » 26 Mar 2018, 12:36

jwalker73 wrote:
22 Jan 2018, 18:50
I also struggled with relating to his stories, mainly as his goals were completely different to mine, as were his priorities. While he told of some valuable lessons, they were not told in a context that I could personally identify with.
I would totally agree with you. It was hard for me to keep up with what he wanted to tell us. It took me sometime to grasp what he wanted for us to feel and read but that just made me lose my interest a little bit.
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Post by Jesi_Brooks » 08 May 2018, 15:56

I agree with all of you folks! But we have to give him credit he did write an amazing book which I'd say helps all of us today being Realistic

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Post by Philip Chepsingil » 12 May 2018, 23:42

Jesi_Brooks wrote:
08 May 2018, 15:56
I agree with all of you folks! But we have to give him credit he did write an amazing book which I'd say helps all of us today being Realistic
True, the author deserves some credit, even though you may have not agree with him in the way he has presented his ideas, he creatively wrote the book with an aim to inspire others. Some have been inspired through reading this book.

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Post by mamalui » 22 May 2018, 12:17

jaylperry wrote:
22 Jan 2018, 21:01
I could relate with his journey all the way through his teaching career. I relate, too, with the desire to start something new and big. But mostly, I relate to the issues of his inner life––the struggles, fears, anger, cockiness––that show through even in the most unrelatable specific circumstances.
I second this even though I have not finished reading the book.
No idea is a bad idea.

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Post by Jgideon » 31 May 2018, 06:03

RASchneider wrote:
25 Jan 2018, 10:19
I identified closely with his experience growing up in a mill town (mine was a mining town), being the only person to go to college (we had more than one, but I'd say 80% stayed to work the mines), and struggling with impostor syndrome at a major university. THOSE are good stories. I identify with their authenticity.

Beyond that point, it becomes clear (to me) that the reason for writing the book is to attract clients to his business (Motivational Speaking). Concluding the book with a web address inviting readers to continue their self-help journey cheapened every worthwhile message in the story. Again... IMO, YMMV, FWIW, etc.
Well, I agree with you that the book is one of the author's tools to attract clients to his business. The money factor!

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Post by Jgideon » 31 May 2018, 06:11

I have read and reviewed the book. I agree that I had struggles identifying with the author, especially in the last chapters. However, it was not about his possessions but with how he changed from the sweet young child to a more egocentric person. For instance, as a child, he had defied the orders of a police officer to save a deer. In the last chapters, he could not defy the advice of a tour guide to save a dying child. Now that's something I am yet to understand.

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Post by Laura Bach » 07 Jun 2018, 10:26

We were constantly reminded of the author's wealth and I think this is not something an ordinary reader likes to see. The first part of the story was so much better than when he started getting rich. I felt like I couldn't relate to that, so I was unable to learn the lessons properly.

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Post by DustinPBrown » 14 Jun 2018, 09:43

Laura Ungureanu wrote:
07 Jun 2018, 10:26
We were constantly reminded of the author's wealth and I think this is not something an ordinary reader likes to see. The first part of the story was so much better than when he started getting rich. I felt like I couldn't relate to that, so I was unable to learn the lessons properly.
Totally agree. The first chapters where he's learning how to be an adult are universal. His later chapters where he learns not to care so much about his $100 shirt getting stained, less universal I think, haha. I wish I had $100 to blow on a shirt.

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Post by 10mile72 » 19 Jun 2018, 15:31

I think a lot of these books seem to focus on the successful and wealthy segment of society. What about the struggles of people living in Harlem? :?

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Post by Shrabastee » 23 Jun 2018, 03:16

I feel the same way. While his childhood and teenage stories and lessons learned from them were something I could relate to, I did not like the stories regarding running with bulls, driving racing cars, flying in a biplane and so on. These stories were probably important lessons for him, and the morals we can learn from them are often helpful in our own context. But I simply did not like the author's context. I know he has had his fair share of struggles and has come out with flying colours, but still the stories portray him as something of an egotistical and self-absorbed person. Having said that, I must also admit that he was pretty honest in describing his faults and the ways in which he got reprieved for them.

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