what myth or myths tackled in this book have been limiting your progree and success at life?

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N_R wrote: 06 Jan 2018, 18:02 I think that the myth that I had was about the personal limits and abilities. The idea that you set your own limits and that you create a glass ceiling effect for yourself.
I resonate with this too. Believe I am and can, and start acting as if that was reality.
Here’s to breaking ceilings!
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Eva Darrington wrote: 09 Jan 2018, 22:39 The myth that I tend to believe is this: If you must choose between indecision and perhaps making a wrong decision—it’s right to choose indecision. I struggle with decision-making. What I know but forget is that sometimes taking action is the only way to make progress and learn new things. Indecision is stagnant.
I love your last sentence here. 'Indecision is stagnant.' I completely agree with this. Indecision doesn't help it only hurts. Even if you make a mistake, you can learn how to make decisions better, but at least you are moving and growing.
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AbbyGNelson wrote: 31 Jan 2018, 11:26
Eva Darrington wrote: 09 Jan 2018, 22:39 The myth that I tend to believe is this: If you must choose between indecision and perhaps making a wrong decision—it’s right to choose indecision. I struggle with decision-making. What I know but forget is that sometimes taking action is the only way to make progress and learn new things. Indecision is stagnant.
I love your last sentence here. 'Indecision is stagnant.' I completely agree with this. Indecision doesn't help it only hurts. Even if you make a mistake, you can learn how to make decisions better, but at least you are moving and growing.
I like it too and I agree with it. :tiphat: Without fix decision, we cannot move to the next step or we cannot do the best things. :idea: :lol:
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pinklover wrote: 31 Jan 2018, 21:15
AbbyGNelson wrote: 31 Jan 2018, 11:26
Eva Darrington wrote: 09 Jan 2018, 22:39 The myth that I tend to believe is this: If you must choose between indecision and perhaps making a wrong decision—it’s right to choose indecision. I struggle with decision-making. What I know but forget is that sometimes taking action is the only way to make progress and learn new things. Indecision is stagnant.
I love your last sentence here. 'Indecision is stagnant.' I completely agree with this. Indecision doesn't help it only hurts. Even if you make a mistake, you can learn how to make decisions better, but at least you are moving and growing.
I like it too and I agree with it. :tiphat: Without fix decision, we cannot move to the next step or we cannot do the best things. :idea: :lol:
Wow. It seems that this book is a good book to read on. Decision-making is very hard for me as well. But, I tried to balance the best thing. Thanks for your idea.
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For me, it would be "learn to fit in - it is right & proper". I am naturally not a risk taker. I find it hard to branch out... I don't like attention. I like to work behind the scenes. I am only just beginning to learn to assert myself and be a little bit proactive. I am still very much a work in progress in this area. Most times, I feel safer just toeing the lines before me.
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inaramid wrote: 10 Jan 2018, 00:31 The only thing I found relatable was in the chapter Toeing the Line. Growing up in a small town myself, I know how hard it is to break free from the limits imposed by both family and society. Thinking that "This is it. This is the world," is a dangerous myth that should be broken.
I agree with you on this. While society dictates, the family adapts. That is why most of the children may have been trained unconsciously to follow what the norms are. Norms and the fear of the unknown outcome mostly the reason why many think to just settle down. A myth like this will remain a myth not unless someone decided to take a different path. I personally experienced the same matter and I still struggle to break free from what is and what is not.
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N_R wrote: 06 Jan 2018, 18:02 I think that the myth that I had was about the personal limits and abilities. The idea that you set your own limits and that you create a glass ceiling effect for yourself.
This was the same for me. I felt the same and the book tries to challenge this
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I had a rather unconventional childhood, so most of these myths could never take hold in me, but I do see a lot of what you're all saying in the people around me. I'm glad so many of you were able to reflect on your own myths after reading this.
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For me, it is the myth that "cheating is sometimes the only way to beat the system and win".
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Oh boy did I have so many misconceptions. As a high schooler, I thought you'd have to fit in with society. In my late teenage years, I believed that cynicism was wisdom and dreams were impractical. I've broken the first myth, but still struggle with the second one. When things get tough, I slip into a cloud of dark, pessimistic thoughts and have to force myself to looks for the silver lining.
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This is my limiting myth, "I know my limits; that’s just the way it is". I really don't like to be ambitious. I see it as something that drains my strength but after reflecting on it I feel there is a lot of good I have suppressed.
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Learn to fit in and play it safe was the one I identified with most. After a while, I just couldn´t ignore that voice inside me pulling me in a different direction. Now, I run from what's comfortable and I live where I fear to live. Playing it safe is no longer an option.
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TrishKissane wrote: 08 Jan 2018, 06:40 The myth that you have to "follow in your Father's footsteps". I have recently started to realise that my upbringing and family traits/traditions will of course have impacted me but the art is to take what was positive to me and walk my own path.
I totally agree. This myth affected me too with my dad. He always wants to set a path for me (sometimes without my knowledge) and make me walk in it. However, I have learnt how to live my own life and make my own decisions.
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R-g-R wrote: 31 Jan 2018, 09:17
N_R wrote: 06 Jan 2018, 18:02 I think that the myth that I had was about the personal limits and abilities. The idea that you set your own limits and that you create a glass ceiling effect for yourself.
I resonate with this too. Believe I am and can, and start acting as if that was reality.
Here’s to breaking ceilings!
Yes! A company I used to work for had a ceo that was super into those ideas, that we set our own limitations and that we can manifest success. She set up a couple of workshops on positive thinking and stuff like that. I was always pretty skeptical of her dream boards lol but it's true that success starts with dreams. And your limitations start in your own mind too.
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Eva Darrington wrote: 09 Jan 2018, 22:39 The myth that I tend to believe is this: If you must choose between indecision and perhaps making a wrong decision—it’s right to choose indecision. I struggle with decision-making. What I know but forget is that sometimes taking action is the only way to make progress and learn new things. Indecision is stagnant.
What you said here is amazing, indecision is indeed stagnant. It serves few purposes other than frustrating the hell out of someone. If one takes a decision, it may well be a bad one, but at least one would know.
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