How do you identify personally with this book?

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Re: How do you identify personally with this book?

Post by Scrawling Pen » 11 Jan 2018, 19:31

I found that I could relate to the early stories from Rob's small town and college years much more than the later stories. The ordinary gurus that came about in the absence of a successful career or large amounts of money are much more inspirational to me. I believe this is because of my upbringing in a small town and with the belief that everyone, no matter how important or famous they may seem, has the ability to make an impact on you.

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Post by Al Chakauya » 12 Jan 2018, 13:36

I think I identify or relate to what I want to do with my life rather than what society expects of me.Personally I don't settle for less regardless of what people think or say: I always go for the kill no matter the odds.

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Post by Momiji1987 » 13 Jan 2018, 04:04

This is a book I have wanted to read because I think it could help me get past the roadblocks in my life. A lot of it has to do with yourself and hearsay from others that makes you doubt your abilities. If I can inspire myself and hold onto that, I will achieve my dreams.

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Post by Annamikov » 13 Jan 2018, 11:53

I was quite inspired by this book and made me push harder and harder against the obstacles in life. I guess it inspired me to self-cultivate more.
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Post by kdstrack » 13 Jan 2018, 12:02

I could relate to the book in the sense that many of the things he said seemed to be a restatement of things our mothers tell us when we are growing up. For example: "Be nice to others" is Aunt Theresa. "Tell the truth" is the police officer. "Share" is the British woman at the airport. "If it's too good to be true, it is" $500K, etc. So, as I read the different stories I heard my lovely mother speaking to me - "Mom knows best!"

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Post by KasieMiehlke » 16 Jan 2018, 19:47

The story about the founder of KFC really helped me. I'm a young adult and at times I feel like a failure due to where I am at in life and that story helped me realize that success for some people does take longer than it does for others.

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Post by uyky » 17 Jan 2018, 12:38

I can't identify with it at all. To me author is kind of spoiled and sees the world as something that is there only for him, without much regard for others. It's on point if you want money and power, but I do believe being a good person is more important.

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Post by Rosemary Okoko » 18 Jan 2018, 02:40

I believe in giving to the society to receive. It truly works and i can relate to it.

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Post by KamalK » 18 Jan 2018, 10:10

CommMayo wrote:
01 Jan 2018, 23:31
I grew up in a small, blue collar town where I judged success by a person's ability to leave and be more successful elsewhere. I went to college and graduate school and ended up back working in that town after the death of a parent. I felt like a failure for ending up back where I started. White really made me stop and reexamine that attitude.

Did any of his stories make you draw similarities to your own life and experiences? Did it make you think differently about your preconceived ideas or judgements?
I completely relate to what you have said. Getting out of town, and getting a job is considered to be successful. I actually kinda like my hometown, and I don't know why people relate my choice of staying back to my failure in life. Such notions are deeply embedded in society where happiness and self satisfaction isnt taken into consideration while measuring someone's success.

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Post by Gunnar Ohberg » 21 Jan 2018, 15:43

Comm, I also struggle with identity of this novel (though for completely different reasons). I grew up in a nice, not-so-small town, lived in a huge city, and now I'm going to a wonderful college in a very small town. The geography of the author's life did not deter me or distract me from the lessons: the economy of the author did. I cannot relate to a profound moment garnered from studying an African tribe for a week, or laughing off the destruction of a Porsche. Moments like that reminded me that, while White's world is great (in that it can literally afford him time to reflect and grow), it is far, far different from most.

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Post by pinklover » 22 Jan 2018, 06:18

Sahani Nimandra wrote:
02 Jan 2018, 08:44
It actually depends on how you look at success. If you believe leaving a small town and been more what others can achieve then that's success according to you. Even the author saw like that, first to be like his father and walk in his steps and be successful in the factory. But things chanced when he aspired to be more. It does not matter where your success comes from it is how much you have achieved in your life. The achievements are your success!

For me it was chap 17 about the British lady and her lesson to the author. The way she expressed her self to the author is truly commendable this really made me note things and want to take in my life: "cheerfulness in the face of rudeness, tolerance in the face of discourtesy and forgiveness in the face of intrusiveness". This showed me how too handle a situation in a truly honourable manner rather than behaving like a typical human been influenced by emotions.
I agree with you. There are similarities in my story with the author and the way we look at success differs. His life is a common story from rags to riches but the way he manage his life is a life lesson to the one who reads it.
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Post by jaylperry » 23 Jan 2018, 11:24

I identify mostly with Rob's inner life––the anger, the doubts, the isolation, the shame, the fear––that the stories deal with. I can see a lot of myself in the "myths." That makes the "truths" the part of the power that draws me in.

Do I identify with a $3M deal going south? Running with the bulls? Driving a race car? No. But I do identify with being rattled into inaction, with taking small things personally, and with arrogance. That's what these stories really dealt with.
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Post by Christina Rose » 24 Jan 2018, 00:56

I haven’t yet been able to personally relate to any of the stories, but I think it’s still possible to learn something from at least a few of the author’s experiences.

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Post by pinklover » 24 Jan 2018, 07:02

jaylperry wrote:
23 Jan 2018, 11:24
I identify mostly with Rob's inner life––the anger, the doubts, the isolation, the shame, the fear––that the stories deal with. I can see a lot of myself in the "myths." That makes the "truths" the part of the power that draws me in.

Do I identify with a $3M deal going south? Running with the bulls? Driving a race car? No. But I do identify with being rattled into inaction, with taking small things personally, and with arrogance. That's what these stories really dealt with.
I like your idea. Rob's character like anger, doubts, isolation, shame, fear and etc. are just a mirror in our world today. All people have this kind of feelings when trigger by something unusual. I admire at him because he still included those items. :tiphat:
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Post by Paul78 » 26 Jan 2018, 04:02

The matter of the old maid would resonate with me. This is a lady who was old enough to get married but had not managed to get a suitor. There are sometimes where we have been in similar situations, where you feel intimidated by the rest of the peers, who seem to have advanced in their own lives.
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