Women Problems
- Chelsy Scherba
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If he's lonely and he asks you out, you should give him a chance even if you don't like him, just because it would hurt his feelings if you didn't.
If he has a temper problem, you should be careful not to provoke him.
If he hurt you, but you know he meant well, you shouldn't bring it up, because that would hurt him. It's your job to hurt so he won't have to.
When I was sexually assaulted, the thought that went through my head was, "I should say no, or stop, or yell fire or something. But if I do, I'll be defining this situation as something 'rapey,' and...well, it isn't rape, anyway. He's making a mistake, but I'm sure he doesn't mean it. I don't want to hurt him by implying that making me touch him and not letting go is comparable to rape. I'll just wait until he realizes what he's doing and stops on his own."
Women just take it on themselves to manage men's emotions for them. We build this protective little fantasy world around them where their actions have less severe consequences than they should, and more people like them than really do, and their jokes get laughed at more than they deserve, and they're given the benefit of the doubt more often than they deserve.
And when we decide to stop, and the cushions fall away, it's treated as cruelty.
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Oh god this, yes. I worked a job for a while where we were expected to pack our work into boxes and then leave them for the men to carry 15 feet and stack.vaz222 wrote:At my workplace the men are treated as the much stronger individuals. I lift weights so they're incorrect. Half of the men there do not even exercise so I cannot comprehend my co-workers' thought processes but oh well. I imagine this is an issue for other women out there as well who are treated as less strong and athletic as their male counterparts.
No.
I put my own boxes on the stack, and every time I did, the other women would dart around me and yelp about how I was going to hurt myself. I couldn't stand it, but sitting still all day was worse.
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I can't say I'm surprised. Yes, the burden is always on the woman to prove, and it is always almost impossible to prove. I think the problem begins from the home. Where I come from, the idea of 'ladies first' rarely applies. We're taught, as women, to put all the men first in our lives. Yet, nobody teaches the men to put the women first. I intend to make a difference in my own home. I hope to teach my children to put others first as a humane manner of living, but without reference to gender.CommMayo wrote:I think we still have really far to go. I thought I had equality in the workplace, but found out I was making much less money than my less qualified coworkers. I was then laid off after bringing up my concerns about sexism. The problem is that these allegations are so hard to prove that it isn't worth pursuing. That is the same reason I never reported being sexually assaulted by a coworker at another job. The burden of proof is always on the woman.
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