What trauma have you overcame?

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Re: What trauma have you overcame?

Post by Steph K » 12 Sep 2017, 11:10

I don't know that I would necessarily call it a trauma, but I've been through some medical experiences that were emotionally trying. The biggest thing I've learned from that experience is how important my friends and family are. I've learned to open up and lean on others.

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Post by mumoscar » 18 Sep 2017, 04:25

I don't think I have had major stuff to overcome as I was growing up. I sympathize with them that have gone through traumatizing times.

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Post by hebcandle » 24 Sep 2017, 17:20

I think trauma comes in a myriad of ways to everyone. I don't think anyone can escape this life without experiencing trauma of some kind. The best advice that I've experienced is to have a support system for when those times come. Have people around you that you know you can go to and talk to. Don't be afraid to ask for help and don't try to "fix it" alone.

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Post by Leyla » 24 Sep 2017, 17:41

I've had many traumatic situations, too many to mention. I have even removed some from memory (yes it is possible), in an effort to move on. Having a good support system helps.

I offer advise as the situation requires.

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Post by eelavahs-jay » 29 Sep 2017, 22:44

My most traumatizing moment was witnessing a hand poke the mouth of his gun inside my father's and threatened to pull the trigger. He didn't though or I don't think I'd have the presence of mind to even recount the incident.

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Post by Cloe101 » 01 Oct 2017, 14:31

The trauma of existing :) I'd rather live
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Post by KeriCraven » 01 Oct 2017, 21:13

Ljessup wrote:I think my advice for trauma is to make sure you don't go through it alone. I know that I am someone who likes to try and get through things alone and take my own time with my own feelings instead of allowing others in to help me through it. I have realized that it is much better and easier on my heart to accept the love from others that want to help!
I think this advice is very important. I grew up around a lot of abuse. From watching my brother beat up our other brother to personal abuse from sexual to mental. It took my 11 years to tell my mother about the sexual abuse when I was 5. For 11 years, that burden rested solely on myself. It affected the way that I was able to be with my husband in the beginning of our relationship. I think that maybe if I would have spoken out and allowed myself to go through that with someone else then maybe things would not have been so hard.

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Post by Quinto » 02 Oct 2017, 02:49

Losing my dad was difficult because he was our sole breadwinner and us kids were still in school. It was the sheer determination and hard work of mum that so as through as a family. I remember prayer was a key component to the recovery process. It helped me and my siblings come to terms with the loss and forge ahead.

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Post by Jeyran Main » 02 Oct 2017, 12:15

Trauma, has been the abuse of various kinds, to mention them would be to tell many private stories so I think I will skip that by just saying, to overcome them you have to give your self-time and self-medicate.

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Post by Harmony Hills » 04 Oct 2017, 07:47

I don't know if this one could be called trauma. When i was a kid, me and my sister were alone in the house one night when someone knocked at our door. It was my brother-in-law bringing the news of my father's death. Now, me and my sister were afraid of late-at-night knocks on the door. We haven't really moved on from it.
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Post by Ashley Simon » 04 Oct 2017, 19:20

Ljessup wrote:I think my advice for trauma is to make sure you don't go through it alone. I know that I am someone who likes to try and get through things alone and take my own time with my own feelings instead of allowing others in to help me through it. I have realized that it is much better and easier on my heart to accept the love from others that want to help!
I'm the same way. Opening up to other people feels like weakness at first, but I'm learning that sometimes it takes more strength to speak up than to stay silent.

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Post by Anjum » 10 Oct 2017, 09:19

I think that everyone experience trauma at some point in their life and only those who have the courage to overcome it will survive.

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Post by Gifty Naa Akushia » 10 Oct 2017, 13:40

I am just or still coming out of the trauma of friendship betrayal, it hurts so badly that in the initial stages I felt so devastated, being betrayed by some one I trusted so much.

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Post by Salsabila » 10 Oct 2017, 14:01

I had an aunt who was like a second mother to me. She died from Diabetes poison 4 years ago. it was a traumatising experience.

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Post by Sarah Immanuel » 17 Oct 2017, 14:34

I have overcome the trauma of rejection. The advise I have is that God loves us deeply and he has accepted us as children through His Son.

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