What trauma have you overcame?

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I've gone through plenty of hard things in my life. I was bullied and picked on a lot as a kid: by classmates, older kids, a couple of teachers, and some of my cousins. I was verbally abused by my father. I lost one of my closest friends in a car accident. I've been betrayed and rejected by people I thought were friends, struggled with infertility, and had a roller coaster of a marriage. As a result, I've dealt with poor self esteem, depression, and anxiety.

I've learned several things that have helped me. One: rely on God, trust that He has a plan for me, and continually seek a relationship with Him. Two: surround myself with positive, understanding people. Three: give myself permission to NOT spend time with anyone I don't want to be around. Four: don't be afraid to talk about my experiences because it can be therapeutic, because it helps others to understand better where I am coming from, because it makes people aware that such problems exist (helping to eliminate misconceptions), and because you never know who might have gone through something similar and needs someone who will understand THEM. Five: talk (or cry) when I need to, but not MORE than I need to. In other words, don't dwell on it. I've been guilty of fixating on figuring out why things happened and how I can change the past, and that's not healthy or productive. Six: these experiences were not my fault and I did nothing to deserve them. I DO deserve happiness and love. Seven: I AM strong enough to overcome these things, and more. Eight: find things that make me smile and do things that I enjoy. Nine: whenever I can, however I can, do things for others Ten: do not add to the trauma by belittling or harming myself. Love myself, because I'm worth it.

Recovery is not easy, it's a process. I'm not done and that's OK, as long as I don't quit.
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I really cannot remember overcoming any critical truma. But I have really survived and been through alot.
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Ferdinand_otieno wrote: 02 Sep 2017, 22:50 I think traumas are a means of making us strong. Mine is the fear of crossing the road ever since I got hit by a car as a child. To overcome this, I had to cross empty streets repeatedly first then busy ones next. It took my 2 years.
I agree with you.
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MLove83 wrote: 20 Nov 2017, 23:45 I've gone through plenty of hard things in my life. I was bullied and picked on a lot as a kid: by classmates, older kids, a couple of teachers, and some of my cousins. I was verbally abused by my father. I lost one of my closest friends in a car accident. I've been betrayed and rejected by people I thought were friends, struggled with infertility, and had a roller coaster of a marriage. As a result, I've dealt with poor self esteem, depression, and anxiety.

I've learned several things that have helped me. One: rely on God, trust that He has a plan for me, and continually seek a relationship with Him. Two: surround myself with positive, understanding people. Three: give myself permission to NOT spend time with anyone I don't want to be around. Four: don't be afraid to talk about my experiences because it can be therapeutic, because it helps others to understand better where I am coming from, because it makes people aware that such problems exist (helping to eliminate misconceptions), and because you never know who might have gone through something similar and needs someone who will understand THEM. Five: talk (or cry) when I need to, but not MORE than I need to. In other words, don't dwell on it. I've been guilty of fixating on figuring out why things happened and how I can change the past, and that's not healthy or productive. Six: these experiences were not my fault and I did nothing to deserve them. I DO deserve happiness and love. Seven: I AM strong enough to overcome these things, and more. Eight: find things that make me smile and do things that I enjoy. Nine: whenever I can, however I can, do things for others Ten: do not add to the trauma by belittling or harming myself. Love myself, because I'm worth it.

Recovery is not easy, it's a process. I'm not done and that's OK, as long as I don't quit.
I love your response and I agree with a lot of your points especially number 4. It’s helpful to talk about your problems.
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I/m trying to recover from family issues, but it's not easy.
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Wow.
I am really enjoying this comment section. I only have one trauma, and that was when I was a kid. After I was chased by a masquerade, I couldn't stand the site of wigs, and furry objects. Luckily I have overcome this trauma of mine
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A lot of truma I have overcome.
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My biggest trauma before is traveling alone. I had it since I rode a bus alone with a mental issue. I lost myself and wanted to jump off the bus. Passengers rescued me. After that, every time I see a bus and ride it, I feel scared but God help me to overcome the trauma. It took 5 years, but now I am grateful I can travel by myself. Thanks to God.

My advice: Pray to overcome those fear. Do it again until you lose the fear. Like my phobia of traveling alone.
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To be honest I don't think a person ever get over any trauma you lived through. I think you just learn to live with it. I was a victim of Gender Based Violence (physically, mentally and emotionally) for 14 years and yes talking about it helps you to deal with it, but there is certain things that sticks. It's like everything goes fine in your life and the next minute something happens and it takes your right back to a specific horrible time in your past, which evokes various of feelings again. It depends on you as person whether you going to allow those emotions to consume you or not. That said it's not an easy task at all.... I still up until today have nightmares of my Ex☹️. Especially when things don't go as I imagined it would or some scenario makes me unhappy, that night I will fight an endless battle with my ex in my dreams. It's like anything that disappointment or hurt me is linked to that time of my life. It's rather frustrating especially since it's 13 years ago I have left him. I will however do ANTHING in my power to help someone going through this. If I can help just one person to get out of something like this, I would be so grateful.
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MLove83 wrote: 20 Nov 2017, 23:45 I've gone through plenty of hard things in my life. I was bullied and picked on a lot as a kid: by classmates, older kids, a couple of teachers, and some of my cousins. I was verbally abused by my father. I lost one of my closest friends in a car accident. I've been betrayed and rejected by people I thought were friends, struggled with infertility, and had a roller coaster of a marriage. As a result, I've dealt with poor self esteem, depression, and anxiety.

I've learned several things that have helped me. One: rely on God, trust that He has a plan for me, and continually seek a relationship with Him. Two: surround myself with positive, understanding people. Three: give myself permission to NOT spend time with anyone I don't want to be around. Four: don't be afraid to talk about my experiences because it can be therapeutic, because it helps others to understand better where I am coming from, because it makes people aware that such problems exist (helping to eliminate misconceptions), and because you never know who might have gone through something similar and needs someone who will understand THEM. Five: talk (or cry) when I need to, but not MORE than I need to. In other words, don't dwell on it. I've been guilty of fixating on figuring out why things happened and how I can change the past, and that's not healthy or productive. Six: these experiences were not my fault and I did nothing to deserve them. I DO deserve happiness and love. Seven: I AM strong enough to overcome these things, and more. Eight: find things that make me smile and do things that I enjoy. Nine: whenever I can, however I can, do things for others Ten: do not add to the trauma by belittling or harming myself. Love myself, because I'm worth it.

Recovery is not easy, it's a process. I'm not done and that's OK, as long as I don't quit.
That's right. Recovery is not easy but we won't quit. We can do it. We're strong!
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I got over some trouble I had in school.
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Gambling ruined me. I couldn't get over it.
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The trauma I have overcome is losing my mom at a very tender age.
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I think everything that scares you is a trauma and it takes awhile to overcome I’m guessing that mine would be drowning.
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