How to say Goodbye to toxic relationship

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How to say Goodbye to toxic relationship

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Deciding to end a relationship might not be the same as actually leaving. The more entangled you are, the more logistics might have to be worked out. It's ok to take your time and plan the exist and the next phase. I've found that the hardest relationships to dysfunctional. The stress definitely takes it's toll. That's why you might need some help, seek guidance from a coach, therapist or a really grounded friend the kind that loves you unconditionally and isn't afraid to (metaphorically) slap you back to reality. If you fear for your safety in any way, definitely build a strong team to support you in the transition.

-- 28 Jul 2017, 06:04 --

A story about a struggle which couples face when them no longer love each other. It is difficult for them to decide whether to stay together or leave each other for good. One last try to salvage their love comes in the form of a trip to Adele's concert.
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I definitely agree with you. I would recommend reading The Imperfect Bond by Timberly Simmons. It is the best example of this.
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You've definitely said it all, some people in such relationships don't get to talk about it, it's best someone else knows what such a person is going through
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Ending relationships is never easy. In this case, I definitely agree that it is necessary though.
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I agree that dealing with a dead relationship is tough. And it's tougher leaving, but if it's the end, there is no point in sticking around, even if there are kids at play. Afterall they won't be happy in an unhappy household either.
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It's the toughest decision to end a dysfunctional relationship, and i believe we carry the scars for the longest time.
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Teach your heart to forget that other person slowly by slowly by hanging out more with friends who have no connection with the other person. Isolating yourself from other people has the ability to bring back memories of that other person which will only serve to make the situation worse

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Teach your heart to forget that other person slowly by slowly by hanging out more with friends who have no connection with the other person. Isolating yourself from other people has the ability to bring back memories of that other person which will only serve to make the situation worse

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Teach your heart to forget that other person slowly by slowly by hanging out more with friends who have no connection with the other person. Isolating yourself from other people has the ability to bring back memories of that other person which will only serve to make the situation worse
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Yes I would imagine that is very true. I have never been in this type of relationship because I have never been in a romantic relationship before. I have certain things that I am looking for in a man, mainly that he is a Christian like me. I am willing to be patient and wait for the right person to come along, so hopefully I will not have to deal with these problems. I would say though that having a good support system is goo din this situation. It is always good for any difficult situation to surround yourself with people you love you and who support you.
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kislany wrote:I agree that dealing with a dead relationship is tough. And it's tougher leaving, but if it's the end, there is no point in sticking around, even if there are kids at play. Afterall they won't be happy in an unhappy household either.
I agree with this. An abusive home isn't conducive for the kids at all.
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It is always hard to make these kind of decisions because in the back of your mind you keep saying "what if". It's also hard when all you can do is think about all the good times you had and wanting them back. But then you have to sit back and look at the big picture and realize when you guys are not happy any more and that is the toughest part. I still cling to small parts of my last relationship, but I need to remind myself not of only the good things but of the troubles too, of why we broke up. Moving on is always a long and hard road.
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I was in a bad relationship for a while. It's so important to listen to your friends and family because they can see things that you might be blind to. It was hard leaving but it made it easier with my friends and family there to support me.
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Ending a relationship is always difficult, but a toxic relationship brings a new set of problems. If you're thinking of ending a relationship, especially an abusive/toxic one, tell your friends and family so you have a nice support system.
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Some people would give the example of Yasser. However, I fell an abusive relationship affects the kids more adversely than a divorce. The level of stress and trauma is just too great. I wholeheartedly agree with you.
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It's definitely important to end toxic relationships, especially if you have children. You don't want them to grow up and think that kind of thing is normal.
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Amagine wrote:It's definitely important to end toxic relationships, especially if you have children. You don't want them to grow up and think that kind of thing is normal.
I completely agree with you. Very well put. :tiphat: :tiphat:
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